breast developing very unevenly

[Anonymous]

My DS has developed this year rather rapidly, however her breasts have developed unevenly, to the tune of one is a large D and the other a B. It is affecting her posture, back pain and self-confidence. Her doc basically said the only solution was surgery later. Has anyone had this experience? Suggestions for exercises? Weight loss? Anything? i would like to help her, but I cannot find any advice on how.

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Is there a bra that could at least modify the appearance of the difference? Weight, nor exercise are going to change the difference in her breasts, though she could practice exercises for her posture.

[Anonymous]

DS = dear son?

How old is she?

In all likelihood she will need to see a plastic surgeon. Until she finishes fully developing you could look into getting her an insert for the smaller size in a D bra.

[Anonymous]

Yes DD, not DS. Slip of the fingers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS has developed this year rather rapidly, however her breasts have developed unevenly, to the tune of one is a large D and the other a B. It is affecting her posture, back pain and self-confidence. Her doc basically said the only solution was surgery later. Has anyone had this experience? Suggestions for exercises? Weight loss? Anything? i would like to help her, but I cannot find any advice on how.

Thanks.

The doc is right - get her an insert to wear on the smaller side. They will probably not even out, so she will have to have surgery to do so. How old is she?

PS - yes, I've had this experience. I'm happily married with two children. I had an implant placed at 22, but I wish I had had it done before leaving for college.

[Anonymous]

OP - I had the same problem when I was a teenager and, truthfully, it was hard. It affected my self-esteem and body image. Wearing a bathing suit was a nightmare. (Luckily. I'm old enough that at the time it was okay to wear a one piece and even a flowy top one was fashionable for a little while) However, I was always too shy to share this with friends and would always try to hide when I was dressing. I was also very shy with boys and mortified that someone would find out.

Your DD will probably not even out completely - maybe a little, but don't expect it to be much better. Your doctor is correct that she will probably need surgery later. I had surgery at 18 years old before I went to college and I was very thankful for it - it truly changed my outlook in many ways. However, my surgeon only corrected one breast (reduced the larger) and never touched the other one. Therefore, my breasts have always been mismatched. I wish I was not so scared and embarrassed at the time to speak up and talk more and express the need to having "matching" breasts. To be honest, my mother was not much help with the whole thing...so, my advice is to comfort your DD when she complains. Understand that it is hard for her and don't ever make her feel bad. Her weight is not the issue that is making this a problem and don't put the 2 issues together (trust me, my mom did that to me...see the above about self-esteem and body image problems). I was always active in sports and there shouldn't be any reasons she cannot participate (although she may not want to be on the swim team because of the tight suit). Make sure to get her a good sports bra, though.

When it comes time to get surgery make sure to find a doctor that you trust and one that will understand the need to have nice looking breasts. You need to decide whether she needs to reduce the larger size or increase the smaller with an implant (like the PP above). That was not an option for me at the time. You're going to have to take the lead on that one because your DD may be too shy and embarrassed to speak up. Also, make sure to talk to the doctor about the need to maintain the ability to breastfeed. My doctor claimed that he couldn't do anything to save the ability and I was too young to worry about it. I was able to breast feed, but it was difficult and not very successful.

Bottom line, you need to be the advocate for your DD. Protect her feelings and make sure you think about long term. Also, make sure to research the best doctors for her.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I've had this issue since puberty. I'm in my 40s and no one ever suggested surgery. But back then girls weren't routinely getting breast surgery in their teens. Over the years the assymetry has gotten worse (now small B/full DD). One half of my body is "normal" sized but the size with the large breast is just shaped differently altogether. Went for a reduction consult but insurance wouldn't pay because you need a certain number of CC's removed in order for it to be a medical thing, and paying $10K out of pocket just isn't in the cards for me.

If you can fix it, please fix it. This is something that has really upset me over the years.

[Anonymous]

Go to the bra shop in Vienna. They have inserts. They have amazing bras.

[Anonymous]

How old is she? As if she has just started she may even out but for now what about buying two bras, one in the B and one in the D then cut and stitch the odd size cups together to make one bra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is she? As if she has just started she may even out but for now what about buying two bras, one in the B and one in the D then cut and stitch the odd size cups together to make one bra.

OMG - no. Do not do this, and don't even suggest this to your daughter. Please get a high quality insert for the smaller side.

Her breasts aren't going to even out, so don't wait for that either.