What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with my dad’s best friend when i was 19 and he about 45. Just twice.

Do you feel creepy that he was plotting on having sex with you when you were a child? What a creep!

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Actually I had a very, very similar experience myself. Almost same ages and circumstances. I initiated the trysts myself, he merely obliged. I’d had such horrible first sexual experiences with two prior boyfriends that I was on the verge of having an anxiety disorder over it. One of my father’s friends had a reputation as quite a lady’s man, and I approached him and explained my predicament and asked him to help me. I remember asking something to the effect of “can you please show me what GOOD sex is supposed to be like?” or something equally dorky sounding.

He was hesitant at first but I was very insistent and eventually he relented. We had several encounters over a few weeks and he rocked my world every time. Now I not only had a benchmark of what a good lover was like, but I also discovered what I enjoyed, w how to ask for it and enjoy it. Looking back, it was probably one of the smartest things I ever did. I’m sure he enjoyed himself as well, although I’d guess he didn’t get nearly as much out of it as I did.

Tell me there was abuse in your childhood without telling me...

I was definitely NOT abused in any way, shape or form.

It’s sad that you find the concept of a 19 year old woman deliberately seeking out and finding a suitable older male to learn about satisfying sexual practices so preposterous.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

Did he hook you up with escorts there too?

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

Did he hook you up with escorts there too?

He paid for certain things in the back room of the strip club, let's just say.

And a month later, he couldn't make his rent again because he lost money on sports bets. He was a fun guy, but not someone you'd want your sister dating.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so stressed out by work that I now have IBS. I don’t exercise because I’m depressed. Work is all consumingly stressful. I have textbook general anxiety and am completely untreated. I hide all of this.

Is there some reason you are staying at this job? Is it worth destroying your health to keep this job? Are they at least paying you well? I hope, for your sake, that you will quit and find something better. No one deserves to live that way.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

Did he hook you up with escorts there too?

He paid for certain things in the back room of the strip club, let's just say.

And a month later, he couldn't make his rent again because he lost money on sports bets. He was a fun guy, but not someone you'd want your sister dating.

Would love to be friends with someone like him!

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

Did he hook you up with escorts there too?

He paid for certain things in the back room of the strip club, let's just say.

And a month later, he couldn't make his rent again because he lost money on sports bets. He was a fun guy, but not someone you'd want your sister dating.

Would love to be friends with someone like him!

When I was younger, sure. What you look for in a friend in your 20's is different from your 40's. I'll go get drinks with the guy when I'm in Vegas, but I wouldn't want him hanging out with my friend's college age daughters, because he's still a bit of a sleaze.

But, I was a jackass back then, too. I feel bad for the way I treated some of my girlfriends (I couldn't spell "fidelity", let alone practice it).

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

Did he hook you up with escorts there too?

He paid for certain things in the back room of the strip club, let's just say.

And a month later, he couldn't make his rent again because he lost money on sports bets. He was a fun guy, but not someone you'd want your sister dating.

Would love to be friends with someone like him!

When I was younger, sure. What you look for in a friend in your 20's is different from your 40's. I'll go get drinks with the guy when I'm in Vegas, but I wouldn't want him hanging out with my friend's college age daughters, because he's still a bit of a sleaze.

But, I was a jackass back then, too. I feel bad for the way I treated some of my girlfriends (I couldn't spell "fidelity", let alone practice it).

You know you would jump at the chance to sleep with your friends hot wife/gf if he said ok

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I was prosecuted for bigamy

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No one knows the name of my mental illness; they all know I have periods of depression and that occasionally it is debilitating. They know I'm very emotional, etc. But no one knows the truth, and I hope they never do.

I work very hard to hide the part of me that I hate.

I love my children deeply, but hate myself just as much.

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Anonymous wrote:No one knows the name of my mental illness; they all know I have periods of depression and that occasionally it is debilitating. They know I'm very emotional, etc. But no one knows the truth, and I hope they never do.

I work very hard to hide the part of me that I hate.

I love my children deeply, but hate myself just as much.

Are you bipolar? There’s a limited number of names of mental illnesses and they’re not very esoteric.

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That I have ADHD.

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That I’m dating someone almost 20 years my senior and it isn’t even the first time.

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That I was a mistress for two years.

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That I’ve had sex in Central Park, multiple times, in broad daylight.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Wow. He was a true pimp.

He worked for a bookie, so he was pretty flexible, morally. He's a lawyer in Las Vegas now, which seems fitting.

We were all pretty sleazy at the time. Not the first, or last, time one of the guys in our house would share a girl with one or more of the others. Only time there was money involved, as far as I know.

One of the other roommates in our house junior year met a 16 year-old girl online who basically ran away from home and stayed with him for a few weeks, until the Ann Arbor police came and took her back to her parents. Dude was lucky he didn't get charged. Outwardly, he was a nice Korean-American pre-med student.

Fascinating story!