My ex wont make my kid put on sunscreen

[Anonymous]

My ex does not make sure our DS puts on sunscreen. He will take DS out for the day and bring him back burned. I am very concerned about this. I have talked to my kid and his father multiple times , but nothing has changed. My son is 5! I dont want this to happen untilhe is 18! He could get permanent damage. Help!

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP. As a melanoma survivor, this would really upset me. All you can do is keep raising it, I guess.

Other than that, get DS some long, lightweight shorts (Boden do some nice ones). Get him some of this (expensive) 10 hour sunscreen (so it can be put on once in the morning and last the whole day):
http://www.amazon.com/Riemann-Spf50-Plus-Sunscreen-200ml/dp/B00APL4KXC

[Anonymous]

So he lets your son get burned. ... Call CPS and ask them hypothetically what they think.
Seems very close to neglect

[Anonymous]

That a bit much PP

[Anonymous]

If you can find a hat with a favorite team or character, ds might insist on wearing it himself, which would help protect his face and neck.

[Anonymous]

If you do not teach him to put on sunscreen himself, he will burn daily until the age of 18, unless some teeny popper girl teaches him before before that age

[Anonymous]

Talk to the pediatrician

[Anonymous]

OP - Your concern is valid so I would also consider buying him a son resistant swim suit and top to wear swimming and a couple of sun resistant tops to wear over shorts. Also a cool hat and really just start teaching him to apply/spray it on as a matter of course when he is with you. Since I, too, have found a couple of melanoma growths in situ, I am well aware of how childhood in the sun can lead to later issues.

[Anonymous]

I disagree -- OP's concern is not valid, it's hysterical. If her DS is 18 and doesn't put sunscreen on himself she's got bigger problems.

Options (depending on visitation schedule):

1) Put sunscreen on DS before dad takes him out for the day.

2) Teach DS to put on his own sunscreen. Put a sunscreen stick in his pocket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

1) Put sunscreen on DS before dad takes him out for the day.

2) Teach DS to put on his own sunscreen. Put a sunscreen stick in his pocket.

Agree with this. For a younger kid, #2 would be unrealistic but a 5yo can learn to be responsible for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree -- OP's concern is not valid, it's hysterical. If her DS is 18 and doesn't put sunscreen on himself she's got bigger problems.

Options (depending on visitation schedule):

1) Put sunscreen on DS before dad takes him out for the day.

2) Teach DS to put on his own sunscreen. Put a sunscreen stick in his pocket.

Her kid is FIVE, not eighteen. Ask some dermatologists and melanoma survivors about OP's "hysteria."

[Anonymous]

As a fair skinned person who suffered horrific burns as a kid, I think this is horrible. I'd threaten to take it back to the judge.

When my son was five, he couldn't appropriately apply sunscreen. So while I'd still teach him and give him a spray (easier), he can't be relied on to do this self-care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a fair skinned person who suffered horrific burns as a kid, I think this is horrible. I'd threaten to take it back to the judge.

When my son was five, he couldn't appropriately apply sunscreen. So while I'd still teach him and give him a spray (easier), he can't be relied on to do this self-care.

Don't use spray. Toxic fumes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex does not make sure our DS puts on sunscreen. He will take DS out for the day and bring him back burned. I am very concerned about this. I have talked to my kid and his father multiple times , but nothing has changed. My son is 5! I dont want this to happen untilhe is 18! He could get permanent damage. Help!

What do you want us to do about it? Come over and apply the sunscreen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fair skinned person who suffered horrific burns as a kid, I think this is horrible. I'd threaten to take it back to the judge.

When my son was five, he couldn't appropriately apply sunscreen. So while I'd still teach him and give him a spray (easier), he can't be relied on to do this self-care.

Don't use spray. Toxic fumes.

It's not ideal, but burns hurt like hell. I couldn't let a top sheet in bed touch my legs, it hurt so bad. This is picking between two evils.