I'm happily married but occasionally have fantasies

[Anonymous]

about an ex who was really good in the sack.

Should I feel guilty or is this pretty common?

[Anonymous]

Normal unless you are compelled to contact your ex.

[Anonymous]

So incredibly normal.

[Anonymous]

Make good use of the fantasies. They can get you in the mood for sex. About 80% of my orgasms with my dearly-loved husband happened courtesy of my getting warmed up thinking about an exceptionally hot boyfriend from my early 20s. Just don't tell your spouse. That would hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make good use of the fantasies. They can get you in the mood for sex. About 80% of my orgasms with my dearly-loved husband happened courtesy of my getting warmed up thinking about an exceptionally hot boyfriend from my early 20s. Just don't tell your spouse. That would hurt.

Wow! That ex must have been good in bed to still be giving you orgasms!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make good use of the fantasies. They can get you in the mood for sex. About 80% of my orgasms with my dearly-loved husband happened courtesy of my getting warmed up thinking about an exceptionally hot boyfriend from my early 20s. Just don't tell your spouse. That would hurt.

Wow! That ex must have been good in bed to still be giving you orgasms!

The orgasm trifecta:

(1) Ripped military bod;
(2) Strong, silent type who expressed himself more through sex than words; and
(3) Left on excellent terms so I could move abroad. Only good memories, with the sweet gloss of distance. No memories of kids, mortgage, resentments, stale romance.

I'm pretty sure if I manage to squeeze off one last orgasm on my deathbed at 103, I'll have him to thank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make good use of the fantasies. They can get you in the mood for sex. About 80% of my orgasms with my dearly-loved husband happened courtesy of my getting warmed up thinking about an exceptionally hot boyfriend from my early 20s. Just don't tell your spouse. That would hurt.

Wow! That ex must have been good in bed to still be giving you orgasms!

The orgasm trifecta:

(1) Ripped military bod;
(2) Strong, silent type who expressed himself more through sex than words; and
(3) Left on excellent terms so I could move abroad. Only good memories, with the sweet gloss of distance. No memories of kids, mortgage, resentments, stale romance.

I'm pretty sure if I manage to squeeze off one last orgasm on my deathbed at 103, I'll have him to thank.

Haha! That guy left quite an impression! He sounds hot!

[Anonymous]

Totally normal!

[Anonymous]

You are alive and breathing in other words.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make good use of the fantasies. They can get you in the mood for sex. About 80% of my orgasms with my dearly-loved husband happened courtesy of my getting warmed up thinking about an exceptionally hot boyfriend from my early 20s. Just don't tell your spouse. That would hurt.

Wow! That ex must have been good in bed to still be giving you orgasms!

The orgasm trifecta:

(1) Ripped military bod;
(2) Strong, silent type who expressed himself more through sex than words; and
(3) Left on excellent terms so I could move abroad. Only good memories, with the sweet gloss of distance. No memories of kids, mortgage, resentments, stale romance.

I'm pretty sure if I manage to squeeze off one last orgasm on my deathbed at 103, I'll have him to thank.

Haha! That guy left quite an impression! He sounds hot!

Me too. Had a string (okay, a handful ) of pretty freakin' awesome boyfriends. We were young, hot and bothered, and had no attachments. Good memories are good memories. I'm building new ones with the husband I love tremendously. No regrets about using the past to fuel the present.

[Anonymous]

Having fantasies means you still have a pulse. It's normal. I think fantacizing is an important part of being sexual. The actors aren't a concern.

[Anonymous]

I think it's really rare that people fantasize about only their spouse. At least from the male perspective, every single man fantasizes about sleeping with women other than their wife. I assume its the same for women.

[Anonymous]

Fantasies are fine but why does dw insist on sharing them- I feel like like crap afterwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fantasies are fine but why does dw insist on sharing them- I feel like like crap afterwards.

Because she is inviting you to become more intimate. Fantasies are normal and sharing them is part of learning what turns her on. You have a choice to be intimidated or recognize she trusted you with something extremely personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fantasies are fine but why does dw insist on sharing them- I feel like like crap afterwards.

Because she is inviting you to become more intimate. Fantasies are normal and sharing them is part of learning what turns her on. You have a choice to be intimidated or recognize she trusted you with something extremely personal.

I agree, and her stories turn me on.