Is it normal to HATE the opposite party in a real estate transaction?
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Anonymous
| I've felt this way in the last couple sales and buys I've done over the years. Like blood-boiling mad while negotiating. Is this normal? |
Anonymous
| Yes. And it continues in the first year as you live through every breakdown and discovery of imperfections..... |
Anonymous
| No, that's not normal. You probably should have a psychological workup. I'm not kidding. |
Anonymous
| No, it really isn't. I've never felt that way when I've bought a property. |
Anonymous
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No. Not normal. Some frustration is normal, but hate is totally not normal. I suggest the psychological workup. |
Anonymous
| No I've never felt like that. It isn't the Thunderdome. |
Anonymous
| No, never had that feeling. Maybe some happy pills will help ? Some liquor ? |
Anonymous
sure, if you have a problem managing anger it sounds completely normal. Something tells me this comes out in other places in your life too, OP. |
Anonymous
| No, not normal. You're holding on way too tight. Let go a little. |
Anonymous
No, and I even had a really sketchy builder on my last property we all ended up suing (all 4 owners of the condo units in a building). I don't feel anger for the builder; I feel pity, and he screwed us all pretty badly. |
Anonymous
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Impossible to say without more information. Sellers can be a pain in a seller's market, buyers can be a pain in a buyer's market. I think both sides have become more unreasonable. Buyers now expect a house to be perfect; sellers often expect the inspection to be waived. Plus, the stakes have gotten much higher. I bought my first house for 100k - it's now worth about 600k.
I can't say that I've ever hated anyone involved in the purchase or sale of a home, but I sure have come close with some tenants. I've found that if I get too emotionally involved in a transaction, it really helps to step away and let someone more dispassionate take over (spouse, agent, or lawyer). |
Anonymous
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I barely had any contact with the buyers of my home, so no. Sure they were nitpicky about certain things, but nothing that would get me to rise to the level of hate.
It's a business transaction OP, and while we might love our homes, they are physical objects and we need to leave the emotions at the front door, when negotiating. |