Opinions: nephew and travel

[Anonymous]

I'm supposed to be flying my 12year old nephew across country next summer, to stay with me for a week and go to surf camp, etc---socal. But this weekend, he went to the shore wit a friend's family---5 HR drive---and got a migraine. His mom insisted that he be driven home. Now I'm wondering about the whole vacation thing, if she's that hovering to ruin another families weekend. What's going to happen if the kid gets sick here? She can't afford to come get him?

[Anonymous]

Ask her

[Anonymous]

Did she come pick the kid up or insist the hosts drive him??

[Anonymous]

Wow, I'd hate to move a kid (anyone) with a migraine.

I'd ask her a bit about it though. Maybe he felt miserable with friends vs. family when in that much pain. But if she made "others" drive him back, that's nuts.

If you can manage his migraine if he gets one, I don't see a problem. Make sure he brings proper meds, etc. And let his doctor know.

[Anonymous]

Next summer is pretty far off. I wouldn't bother worrying about this until next May.

[Anonymous]

She made the host family drive him. Her car won't go that far

[Anonymous]

Let him fly out to you and even if he has a migraine, don't cave unless it's a true medical issue. Sounds like he could use the break from her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next summer is pretty far off. I wouldn't bother worrying about this until next May.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She made the host family drive him. Her car won't go that far

wow that is unbelievably rude. I would not think it was a big deal if she came and picked up her child if he was in pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She made the host family drive him. Her car won't go that far

Does she drive a Nissan leaf??

[Anonymous]

Who the hell can sit in a car for two hours when they have a migraine? That's a total recipe for me to puke right there. When I have a migraine I need to be still. At the same time, I can sort of see needing to leave a beach when you have a migraine. It's too hot, and way, way too bright. Even being under an umbrella wouldn't be enough shade for me.

I wouldn't worry about next year now. A lot can happen in a year. But tell her, if she wants him to go home early, you'll drive him to the airport and put him on the plane. So you'd do that on a Wednesday instead of a Saturday, what's the big deal? But I'd have a talk with the kid first. "A migraine is something you'll get over in a few hours. Sure you want to throw away four more days of vacation for pain that'll hurt for only a few hours?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who the hell can sit in a car for two hours when they have a migraine? That's a total recipe for me to puke right there. When I have a migraine I need to be still. At the same time, I can sort of see needing to leave a beach when you have a migraine. It's too hot, and way, way too bright. Even being under an umbrella wouldn't be enough shade for me.

I wouldn't worry about next year now. A lot can happen in a year. But tell her, if she wants him to go home early, you'll drive him to the airport and put him on the plane. So you'd do that on a Wednesday instead of a Saturday, what's the big deal? But I'd have a talk with the kid first. "A migraine is something you'll get over in a few hours. Sure you want to throw away four more days of vacation for pain that'll hurt for only a few hours?"

The big deal is the hundreds (if not more) of dollars it would cost to change the flight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who the hell can sit in a car for two hours when they have a migraine? That's a total recipe for me to puke right there. When I have a migraine I need to be still. At the same time, I can sort of see needing to leave a beach when you have a migraine. It's too hot, and way, way too bright. Even being under an umbrella wouldn't be enough shade for me.

I wouldn't worry about next year now. A lot can happen in a year. But tell her, if she wants him to go home early, you'll drive him to the airport and put him on the plane. So you'd do that on a Wednesday instead of a Saturday, what's the big deal? But I'd have a talk with the kid first. "A migraine is something you'll get over in a few hours. Sure you want to throw away four more days of vacation for pain that'll hurt for only a few hours?"

The big deal is the hundreds (if not more) of dollars it would cost to change the flight.

That would be on his parent to pay., not you.

[Anonymous]

I would be more concerned about your sister's judgement. Being in a moving car with a real migraine is hell, in less you can sleep it off easily. I would be more concerned about nephew seeing a neurologist and getting some medication vs. suffering rather than what will happen next summer. I would have told mom to rent a car and come get him.

[Anonymous]

just ask her what her plan would be if he wants to go home or gets ill on your watch. Make her spell it out. Say something like "I got nervous when you said you had the Smiths drive him all the way home. I really wouldn't be able to get him back to you. I just wanted to make sure you had a plan."