Proportional gifts with family / in-laws... Advice?

[Anonymous]

My sister and brother in law have birthdays in the same month, and I've struggled with trying to decide how "equal" their presents need to be.

They live far away, so I see them a few times a year. When I'm shopping for gifts, I of course look for things they'll enjoy , but sometimes what I'd like to get for my sister is a bit more pricey than his gift. It might even be twice as much (not huge amounts here, probably still under $100).

Does it matter? Is it natural that her gift might be a little more expensive or extravagant? FWIW, I'm not making a ton of money, but am comfortable. Sometimes I feel like I should "make up" for his and get an extra gift card... But I'd never get my sister a gift card!

What do others do in similar situations? TIA for any input.

[Anonymous]

If you get a thoughtful gift, the price difference is not going to matter much. It's not like we're talking hundreds. What is the difference? About $50?

I've found that generally people don't concern themselves with the cost of a gift and mostly are happy to be remembered.

[Anonymous]

If your bil is anything like my dh, he really doesn't care. My sister and I don't even do bday gifts for each other!

[Anonymous]

i don't think dudes care at all! How sweet of you to do anything at all!