Starting to hate our family.

[Anonymous]

My family is a waste, they don't work, are always asking for money, help with bills, rides places and places to stay. Dhs family sucks too. They are so negative and only talk about his sister. His adult sister who acts 12, is their entire existence. Without her drunkenly calling for rides or getting into fist fights with who ever it is she's dating for the week, they would have nothing to talk about or do.
I am sick of everyone and am ready to close up shop and move in the middle of the night (or at least not tell them where we are going) and just enjoy our lives. I'm starting to develop anxiety. My DH is angry all the time. Thank god we don't have kids yet. Does anyone else hate their family? Want to sneak away and not look back. I'm done, they offer nothing but take, take, take. Both sides. We have not felt joy, or love, or happiness from being around them in years. What to do??

[Anonymous]

What's stopping you? Some people are all about the family they were born into. Some people create their own village from friends.

[Anonymous]

So move far away from them.

[Anonymous]

Stop helping them. Stop giving them the time of day. Be unavailable.

[Anonymous]

Why devote so much mental real estate to them?

[Anonymous]

Why do they have so much impact on you? They only have the power you give them. They should feel free to ask for things, you should feel free to say no. A good relationship counselor can help you develop healthy boundaries. You think it's bad now? Wait until you have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My family is a waste, they don't work, are always asking for money, help with bills, rides places and places to stay. Dhs family sucks too. They are so negative and only talk about his sister. His adult sister who acts 12, is their entire existence. Without her drunkenly calling for rides or getting into fist fights with who ever it is she's dating for the week, they would have nothing to talk about or do.
I am sick of everyone and am ready to close up shop and move in the middle of the night (or at least not tell them where we are going) and just enjoy our lives. I'm starting to develop anxiety. My DH is angry all the time. Thank god we don't have kids yet. Does anyone else hate their family? Want to sneak away and not look back. I'm done, they offer nothing but take, take, take. Both sides. We have not felt joy, or love, or happiness from being around them in years. What to do??

Not the same behaviors, but DH's family is angry. So much so, that it is almost impossible to do enough for them, or do anything right. They are quite negative, and tough to spend time around. Just limit your time to obligations - part of a holiday, for instance. GL OP, it sucks.

[Anonymous]

DH's two aunts got into a screaming match during my engagement party .

We try not to see them too often.

[Anonymous]

We moved to another state and are no longer involved in any family drama. If either side calls, the answering machine picks it up and we decide whether or not to return the calls. No one has our cell phone numbers, only the house number. Best thing we ever did. Their stress needs to be their stress not mine.