moved overseas to avoid in-laws and yet here they are

[Anonymous]

We made the decision to have a lifestyle overseas for many reasons but including that my mother-in-law is really in our business and has a very different sense of boundaries than me (think my big fat Greek wedding). The irony is that now we see her ALL THE TIME when we are in DC for the summer (at least 4-5 times a week for a couple months a year) and have to host her for a couple weeks at a time when she comes and visits us.

No real request for advice, just needed to vent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We made the decision to have a lifestyle overseas for many reasons but including that my mother-in-law is really in our business and has a very different sense of boundaries than me (think my big fat Greek wedding). The irony is that now we see her ALL THE TIME when we are in DC for the summer (at least 4-5 times a week for a couple months a year) and have to host her for a couple weeks at a time when she comes and visits us.

No real request for advice, just needed to vent.

Says who? No way would I let my MIL visit for weeks at a time. She makes me nuts after 2 days. Weeks? No effing way.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for this post. I have a similar MIL and contemplating a cross-country move because of her. You situation can easily be our story as well.
Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Suck it up, OP. You're going to be a dreaded MIL one day too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the decision to have a lifestyle overseas for many reasons but including that my mother-in-law is really in our business and has a very different sense of boundaries than me (think my big fat Greek wedding). The irony is that now we see her ALL THE TIME when we are in DC for the summer (at least 4-5 times a week for a couple months a year) and have to host her for a couple weeks at a time when she comes and visits us.

No real request for advice, just needed to vent.

Says who? No way would I let my MIL visit for weeks at a time. She makes me nuts after 2 days. Weeks? No effing way.

You are right. We could tell her she's only allowed to come for 2-3 days, but that would mean 2-3 days of travel for 2-3 days of being with us, which doesn't seem right - esp for an older person.

[Anonymous]

I crossed the Atlantic at 21 partly to escape my crazy mother.

We see her and my father once a year on average, for two weeks. While deep down I love her, those two weeks become progressively more difficult, and by the end I am a frazzled mess.

However, it is my decision. I know she won't live forever and that I will regret not trying my best to have a family gathering once in a while, particularly for my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the decision to have a lifestyle overseas for many reasons but including that my mother-in-law is really in our business and has a very different sense of boundaries than me (think my big fat Greek wedding). The irony is that now we see her ALL THE TIME when we are in DC for the summer (at least 4-5 times a week for a couple months a year) and have to host her for a couple weeks at a time when she comes and visits us.

No real request for advice, just needed to vent.

Says who? No way would I let my MIL visit for weeks at a time. She makes me nuts after 2 days. Weeks? No effing way.

You are right. We could tell her she's only allowed to come for 2-3 days, but that would mean 2-3 days of travel for 2-3 days of being with us, which doesn't seem right - esp for an older person.

Where does she stay when she is in DC for the summer? Why do you have to host her in your home at all? I think you need to let her visit regularly while in town but she can stay in a hotel or condo so you have private time with your nuclear family.

[Anonymous]

You can run, honey, but never hide!

Bwwwaaahahahaha!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suck it up, OP. You're going to be a dreaded MIL one day too.

+1
Especially if you have sons. Their future wives will try to keep you from seeing your son and grand children too! Karma!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I crossed the Atlantic at 21 partly to escape my crazy mother.

We see her and my father once a year on average, for two weeks. While deep down I love her, those two weeks become progressively more difficult, and by the end I am a frazzled mess.

However, it is my decision. I know she won't live forever and that I will regret not trying my best to have a family gathering once in a while, particularly for my children.

You should shorten your visit. There is no reason to be spending two weeks somewhere every year if it isn't enjoyable. We visit my family once a year for a week and stay in a hotel or condo. That is enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suck it up, OP. You're going to be a dreaded MIL one day too.

+1
Especially if you have sons. Their future wives will try to keep you from seeing your son and grand children too! Karma!

You have sons, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We made the decision to have a lifestyle overseas for many reasons but including that my mother-in-law is really in our business and has a very different sense of boundaries than me (think my big fat Greek wedding). The irony is that now we see her ALL THE TIME when we are in DC for the summer (at least 4-5 times a week for a couple months a year) and have to host her for a couple weeks at a time when she comes and visits us.

No real request for advice, just needed to vent.

This may not be realistic for your situation, but I would rethink spending your summer in DC if it's going to mean you see her 5 times a week all summer. That s**t would get old fast.

[Anonymous]

Ah, the key is to move 1-2 hours away. Fine for a day trip, no need for overnight. Yet not in the same town to see each week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suck it up, OP. You're going to be a dreaded MIL one day too.

+1
Especially if you have sons. Their future wives will try to keep you from seeing your son and grand children too! Karma!

You have sons, right?

No, she's just stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the decision to have a lifestyle overseas for many reasons but including that my mother-in-law is really in our business and has a very different sense of boundaries than me (think my big fat Greek wedding). The irony is that now we see her ALL THE TIME when we are in DC for the summer (at least 4-5 times a week for a couple months a year) and have to host her for a couple weeks at a time when she comes and visits us.

No real request for advice, just needed to vent.

Says who? No way would I let my MIL visit for weeks at a time. She makes me nuts after 2 days. Weeks? No effing way.

You are right. We could tell her she's only allowed to come for 2-3 days, but that would mean 2-3 days of travel for 2-3 days of being with us, which doesn't seem right - esp for an older person.

You are right. Since the trip you offer isn't a good option for an old person, she should stay home. See problem solved.