My two sisters don't speak to each other, I'm in the middle

[Anonymous]

My sisters haven't spoken in years, nothing in particular happened, they just are completely different and don't get along. I am in the youngest and talk to both of them. My oldest sister likes to fight my battles a lot and oversteps her boundaries in order to protect me as she likes to put it. My middle sister is closer with me and we started a business together. It didn't go well and my sister left me in the lurch and I had to do a lot of work on my own that we were supposed to do together.

My oldest sister came into town on Friday and we had dinner and she asked how the business was going. I was honest with her and told her what was going on. I then today got a call from my middle sister saying our sister asked to meet her for lunch tomorrow. She never mentioned she was going to call her and in fact they have not been alone together or years. I am nervous she is going to start tearing into my middle sister about the business stuff. I don't want to say anything in case she is just making an effort finally but alarm bells are going off. I hate fighting with my middle sister, she really goes for the throat and I can't handle any more family drama. Do I just wait this out? Or do I ask my older sister why she called this lunch?

[Anonymous]

You act like an adult. Your middle sister knows she screwed you over and knows you're close with both sisters. Is your middle sister mentally slow? No? Then I'm sure she knows what's coming. She is an adult. If she does not want to meet her older sister for lunch she doesn't have to. If she wants to get up and leave, she can. Your older sister will view you as an adult if you carry yourself like one, by telling her you don't need her "protection." What are you, in the Mob?

Don't do anything else involving money with your middle sister.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. I might tell your older sister that you don't need her "protection," and you would prefer that she not start something with the other sister over the business, but otherwise stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

I'm one of three girls also, and we've definitely had battles in the past where two of us weren't speaking. The best thing you can do (and this is the advice of my therapist) is to stay out of it. Don't talk about big sister to middle sister or vice versa, don't stir the pot. Just say, you don't want to discuss it. Otherwise you are just adding fuel to their fire and making it worse. Worry about your own relationship with each sister separately.

[Anonymous]

oh well

[Anonymous]

You know your sisters personalities well. Stop setting them both up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know your sisters personalities well. Stop setting them both up.

^^This. OP, you are a sneaky drama queen. You knew your older sister would confront your middle sister for you and that is exactly what you wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know your sisters personalities well. Stop setting them both up.

^^This. OP, you are a sneaky drama queen. You knew your older sister would confront your middle sister for you and that is exactly what you wanted.

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