Handling manager who is extremely loud and rude

[Anonymous]

I joined this employment around 1 1/2 months back.

manager has spoken to me in a rude way for no apparent fault of mine.
He basically yells when he finds some error.
when he finds out that it was not my fault, and if ever I try to clarify, he won't allow me to speak. He talks non stop and walks away.
There is never a clear apology given to me.

example: a tech lead who never shared the requirements or details of the project. pointed me to some out dated document all the time for any questions.
I started copying the manager on emails when I request for information.
Manager started yelling at me in my office. He said he detests people who copy the emails to other people and he asked me the intention behind it. He also wanted to know why I do not walk up to the person and ask for information instead of emails ( I tried to ask for information by walking up to the tech lead and the tech lead is never available or is always busy or asks me instead what I understood about the product from that "Outdated" document but never explains). as usual manager talked loudly about why I copy people in emails and what my problem was. Entire office heard it. It is just a small office with 11 people. I told the manager that I would like to explain if he gives me an opportunity. Then he allowed me to speak. I told him what the exact problem was. Next day, the tech lead took out time to explain the whole project to me.

A colleague asked me if everything was alright and that she could hear this guy's loud voice. I told her what happened.
she told me that the tech lead is my manager's nephew. She also told that the same manager yelled at her for no fault of hers and she complained on him. later, he gave her a half hour apology.

Another example is when an off shore team messed up a project, I got yelled at by my manager. Manager was not giving me an opportunity to talk at all. This tech lead had to step in to explain the whole scenario. Manager understood that it was not my fault. when I was clarifying, the manager had the audacity to tell me to take it easy.

This is very strange for me as well. I have never seen anyone yell like this.

This yelling/rudeness etc from manager has happened 3 to 4 times to me in past 1 1/2 month for different reasons. each time it was not a fault of mine and when he found out that it is not my fault, he would just go away. No apology is given to me.

Here are my concerns:
1) so far it was never my mistake and this manager has yelled without knowing any facts. what if I really do something wrong? How would I handle this rudeness and yelling.
2) I cannot quit the job because I just took it up recently. I want to continue working there for at least rest of the summer and then start looking for a new job. Not sure if this is a right decision.
3) I want to continue emailing in such office environment because it gives me a written proof. how should I explain this if I am questioned why I am emailing again?


I like the flexible schedule and the projects. It is just this manager and tech lead are not so nice to work with.
The previous person who used to work here quit. I was hired in her place. But I worked with her couple of weeks before she left. she said it is very hard to work with the tech lead.

Please provide any advice how I can succeed at this job.

[Anonymous]

Here's my insights.

Your manager does not want to get involved in misunderstandings and miscommunications among employees he supervises.

If you have a problem with not getting the right directions from the tech lead or others, you need to work that out. You are obsessed with the fact that it's not your fault that these projects went wrong. That's fine, it's not your fault. But there's no need to cc your manager on every email. I would have a big problem with that from a new employee -- you say you started 1.5 months ago. You really don't want a reputation as someone who can't solve your own problems. CC'ing the boss should be reserved for absolute emergencies and problems that cannot be solved. For every email you get and send, your boss has 25 emails. Don't make your problems his problems.

It is too bad that your boss yells. Don't give him reason to yell.

If you have a problem and you need more information, go directly to the person and ask for information. Do not an apology. People do not apologize just for misunderstandings in the workplace. You sound very, very, sensitive. Your obsession with fault, with apologies, especially in such a small workplace -- it's not going to work. Misunderstandings happen. Get clarification. Move on.

[Anonymous]

So you knew going in that the guy was a jerk? Two options, figure it out and stay as PP said. Or second option, start looking for something else now. When asked why you're leaving something so new, say something like there are management issues that I didn't know about when I was hired and have me concerned that this won't be workable in the long term. Unless you have a history of short stints, it won't matter.