DH's female work-friend

[Anonymous]

So my DH just started a new job a few months ago. He seems to like his job and is doing really well, so I'm really proud of him and happy for him. In his stories about work, however, this one female name keeps popping up and lately I have been keeping track of it. She apparently brings him a breakfast donut sometimes and he and she and another female colleague go and have lunch on the roof. He also thinks she is really funny for some reason and laughs about it.

Its not like he talks about her alll the time; I'm just noting the things he has said. I'm starting to feel a little jealous...how can i ensure this doesn't become a thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my DH just started a new job a few months ago. He seems to like his job and is doing really well, so I'm really proud of him and happy for him. In his stories about work, however, this one female name keeps popping up and lately I have been keeping track of it. She apparently brings him a breakfast donut sometimes and he and she and another female colleague go and have lunch on the roof. He also thinks she is really funny for some reason and laughs about it.

Its not like he talks about her alll the time; I'm just noting the things he has said. I'm starting to feel a little jealous...how can i ensure this doesn't become a thing?

ensure what? that he develops a crush on her? or that you become more jealous. the former you can't control. the latter you can, by being reasonable and honest.

[Anonymous]

I'm a female coworker to a lot of guys. I am very careful with my interaction because my DH gets jealous easily. But what you described is very normal. I wouldn't think to much about it or track it. Just treat your husband how you would like to be treated and make sure you have good communication with each other.

[Anonymous]

DW has male work "friends" that she'll talk about this way. Humorous stories, that sort of thing. Please don't make too much out of it unless he gives you a particular reason to.

[Anonymous]

Don't ignore your instincts.

[Anonymous]

As long as they're not texting or otherwise communicating outside of the office, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

[Anonymous]

You either trust him or you don't.

If you trust him then go about your life with your head held high, do not engage in jealousy or worry about this. There will always be women who are prettier than you and make your husband laugh but YOU are the one he married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't ignore your instincts.

NP. Stuff happens. I've had affairs with three female work friends at various jobs. My DW had an affair too, so it balanced out--somewhat.

[Anonymous]

If you married a man with good character (and you have the understanding that you are in a monogamous relationship) then you should give him the benefit of the doubt and not worry.

[Anonymous]

That would bother me too. Dh had a female friend at work that he'd go to lunch with and a rumor started around the office that there was something going on so he backed off.

[Anonymous]

Oh dear god, don't be like the crazy wife of my co-worker. Crazy woman called me accusing me of fucking her husband. This woman became insanely jealous of me and made a complete clown of herself. She was the joke of the office.

And to be honest, her DH was a cool guy to lunch with and chat with, but him and his dad bod were of no interest to me and well below my pay grade. Not sure why she was flattering herself

[Anonymous]

I would only worry if he starts to talk to her outside of work. My husband cheated on me and looking back the signs were clear as day. He was texting all the time and suddenly had to work late.

[Anonymous]

Who exactly is this woman...?

Could she be an elderly lady or someone who weighs in at 400 lbs? Just kidding...Sort of.

If she really concerns you OP, you can always ask him if you can join them for lunch sometime. That way you can see what she looks like, whether you have some competition here + most importantly, how well they interact w/each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh dear god, don't be like the crazy wife of my co-worker. Crazy woman called me accusing me of fucking her husband. This woman became insanely jealous of me and made a complete clown of herself. She was the joke of the office.

And to be honest, her DH was a cool guy to lunch with and chat with, but him and his dad bod were of no interest to me and well below my pay grade. Not sure why she was flattering herself

Pay grade?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh dear god, don't be like the crazy wife of my co-worker. Crazy woman called me accusing me of fucking her husband. This woman became insanely jealous of me and made a complete clown of herself. She was the joke of the office.

And to be honest, her DH was a cool guy to lunch with and chat with, but him and his dad bod were of no interest to me and well below my pay grade. Not sure why she was flattering herself

You sound like a fucking peach.