Is anyone else's 6 year old a whiney beast?

[Anonymous]

DD will be 6 next week. I'm about to go insane from the whining. That is all.

[Anonymous]

Holy Christ, yes, at times!!!

Vent some examples, OP. We're here for you!

[Anonymous]

Yes, he has become whinier than he used to be. I just try very hard not to engage or encourage it, and to reinforce less whiny/nicer behavior by giving him some of what he wants, within reason. If he is whiny, I mostly ignore and will not play with him or provide him with anything he asks for beyond basic needs (water, bathroom) that obviously need to be met, until the whining stops.

[Anonymous]

DD is a champion at whining. She's turning 6 this Fall. Drives me batty!lol

[Anonymous]

I don't allow whining. If they whine, I say "Say it again without whining." If they whine again, I say "Go to your room and don't come out until you can speak without whining."

It gets shut down so swiftly that they rarely ever whine.

If it's done in public I walk them to the lobby and have them face a wall until they're ready to turn back around and speak without whining. Can only think of two times I had to do that.

[Anonymous]

Then you don't have whiny children.

[Anonymous]

If it's done in public I walk them to the lobby and have them face a wall until they're ready to turn back around and speak without whining.

That sounds unnecessary. My son was whiny for a period of time, and I got him to stop by refusing to respond to whiny statements or requests. It was quite effective and ended the problem fairly quickly, no need to march him to a lobby and have him face a wall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If it's done in public I walk them to the lobby and have them face a wall until they're ready to turn back around and speak without whining.

That sounds unnecessary. My son was whiny for a period of time, and I got him to stop by refusing to respond to whiny statements or requests. It was quite effective and ended the problem fairly quickly, no need to march him to a lobby and have him face a wall.

... okay. ?? I mean, this seems like a "you do what works for you and I'll do what works for me" situation. It worked for us, so I did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't allow whining. If they whine, I say "Say it again without whining." If they whine again, I say "Go to your room and don't come out until you can speak without whining."

It gets shut down so swiftly that they rarely ever whine.

If it's done in public I walk them to the lobby and have them face a wall until they're ready to turn back around and speak without whining. Can only think of two times I had to do that.

Yeah, whining is something (like any behavior) that parents either tolerate or don't. I'm also in the "don't" category. If they whine I simply reply "Excuse me?". If they whine again I say "I'm sorry, I can't understand what you are saying when you whine, you can repeat that when you can speak in your regular voice"……..and then they stop whining.

It works for us.

[Anonymous]

I don't think most of us tolerate it, but they do it anyway. Repeatedly. Because they're 6.

[Anonymous]

I remember my parents telling me they couldn't understand me when I whined. It made me so angry because I knew damn well they could understand me just fine.

I say, "is that how you should ask for things if you actually want to get them? No? Try again."

[Anonymous]

Children copy behavior that they observe to be effective. You might want to check your tone of voice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Children copy behavior that they observe to be effective. You might want to check your tone of voice.

Oh just 'copy behavior that they observe!' Case in point, my daughter. She never used to whine before she started K and met her now best friend. Now all we hear is whining, and I even know the source (at first, I was sort of bewildered, but then we had a playdate with that girl and everything became clear).

God, that's so frustrating!