Do you think your SO is attractive?

[Anonymous]

My bf is pretty average looking and photographs poorly. I'm usually crazy in love with him and think he is so handsome. Every now and then, however, I look at his photos and realize he doesn't photograph that well. i love him dearly but is it bad to sometimes secretly admit to myself that he isn't exactly George clooney?
Does anyone else feel this way?

[Anonymous]

I think I'm pretty in real life, but dear god I photograph terribly! I always have! People who have seen my picture vs me in reality will say the same thing. But honestly who cares!

[Anonymous]

My DH is handsome IRL but not photogenic. I don't really care. 8yrs, 2 kids later, he's our family's rock in every way that counts. I don't see his imperfections, but just the guy I've grown with over the years and made a beautiful family with.

Oh and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about his or my looks. Judgement doesn't make my life whole. I find him attractive, and we are happy. I am not trying to impress anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Hell yes.

[Anonymous]

Ha I went through a weird stage for like a month or 2 when DH and I were still in the early boyfriend/girlfriend phase. I was incredibly attracted to hiM and couldn't keep my hands off of him. But once in awhile a certain profile angle or picture would make me think "huh...that's not very attractive".

The weird thing is that now, 5 years later, some of the ways he looked unattractive in old photos I find super hot now.

Plus I'm 99.999999% sure there are angles and photos that do not make me look good and Dh still can't keep his hands off of me.

[Anonymous]

Another one who doesn't photograph well. When I've online dated, I can tell guys are pleasantly surprised when we meet face to face. People have told me I look better in person.

With a couple guys from my past, I have noticed that they really weren't as attractive as I remembered, looking at photos from that time objectively. I wasn't physically attracted to a guy I dated recently for awhile though I was sexually drawn to him. Some days, he's not so appealing and others, he is.

[Anonymous]

I like young-looking slim Asians. So I think my (short) DH is devastatingly handsome. I completely understand that others would not be attracted to him. More for me!

[Anonymous]

I gasped when I saw DH's picture on an online dating site. I thought he was so cute. But my kind of cute. He certainly won't be on any magazine covers. But he is my kind of geeky cute. 7 years and 20-30 lbs later, I still think he is might fine!

[Anonymous]

IMO, The best SO is one that you only think is hot and no one else does. It sounds cruel, but at least you don't have to worry as much about losing them to someone else. I think this type of attraction indicates good chemistry, which bodes well for the long-term.

[Anonymous]

I think you are more honest than most, but is it going to nag at you and worsen over time when you're married 20 years and he's fat and bald? If he treats you well, then I would not be so concerned about the looks. People tend to treat people better who are good looking so it could wind up corroding your relationship if there isn't other substance to the relationship. Sometimes people are not that attractive, but their personality makes them grow on you. I'd look at the whole package of what he has to offer and think about how much looks are important to you.

[Anonymous]

In 20 years, most of us will look quite different.

[Anonymous]

YES. My husband is very good looking. We've been married 10 years. He keeps getting better with age.

[Anonymous]

How ridiculous. If he was photogenic but not so attractive IRL, what would you do, look at his FB pictures while you bumped uglies? You got the best deal. His old flames will look at his FB pictures and think they made the right decision letting him get away, and won't be looking to rekindle anything. You get Mr. Hotness to look at everyday.

[Anonymous]

Some people have features that look nice in person but not in photos, and vice-versa. I think it has something to do with how prominent they are. Regardless, don't worry about it, OP. I'm guessing you're young and immersed in this culture that is obsessed with photographing and publicizing every second of your lives, which is why this is even on your radar. I'd say take a break from social media. That's your real problem right there. It's making everyone shallow.

[Anonymous]

Physically, my DH is a 10. He gets on my nerves, though...