This Is Us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kate wasn't messy binging because she was in public. She was doing the furtive, if I am discrete and dainty no one will realize the fat girl is eating too much thing.

I was never able to master that when I was obese and ate in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last thing on the binging... another thing is that sometimes the first slip when you're on a diet is that you're "just going to have one." We know we can't control it and will end up binging, but it starts as having a reasonable treat... then devolves into a binge. We may have been seeing that first step over the line.

This is a very good point! Also, there are lots of people who can eat sweets in moderation and be happy with one cookie. How I wish I were one of them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I too have lost 150 lbs without surgery, we need to form our own support group!

For real. There's a website/Facebook group called Half Size Me that has a private group, but it's $20/month and I didn't get enough value out of it to stay subscribed. There's also a blog called Refuse to Regain I really like, but the posts are once a week at most. Other than that, I haven't found a lot of resources/community for those trying to maintain weight loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I too have lost 150 lbs without surgery, we need to form our own support group!

For real. There's a website/Facebook group called Half Size Me that has a private group, but it's $20/month and I didn't get enough value out of it to stay subscribed. There's also a blog called Refuse to Regain I really like, but the posts are once a week at most. Other than that, I haven't found a lot of resources/community for those trying to maintain weight loss.

I have binge eating disorder and highly recommend over eaters anonymous. Everyone there understands my emotions and everything you have just described. Their tools are wonderful and really help in bombatting this disease.

[Anonymous]

I admit this last episode was not as good as the first ones, but the cannot add a total tear jerker every episode. I actually think Kate is an interesting character. Between her weight and the constant fighting between her brothers, ishe seems to start to shrink away from life. And the binge eating was to lead up to the fact that she will have to chose between Toby and dieting.

I find the actor brother to be so one dimensional that he is difficult to like.

[Anonymous]

It is sad though. There are two shows with fat characters this season, this one and American housewife and in each one being fat is the sum total of the characters identity. Apparently fat people do not have any other hobbies or interests. And it's interesting that Kate has no girlfriends. In both these shows other people relate to the fats in this one dimensional way, if they are friends then the fat is the fat friend or they are ostracized. It's like it's impossible to have a work friend or pat friend who is funny and talented and also happens to be fat. Nope if you are fat you are just fat. That is all that matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just watched this week's episode. Still love this show so much.

- Love Kate's story line. I lost 150 lbs without surgery and every day is still so.damn.hard.. I'm sorry for those sick of the story line, but holy shit, they have nailed the emotions. In all of her scenes tonight, I knew exactly where it was going the second I saw it, because I've lived it. The binging in the car... been there. Recently. Literally in the parking lot after a weight watchers meeting. And this is after the weight loss. It messes with you. Also, binging isn't always (or even usually?) messy. There's a big component of ritual and routine to it for many people, and they may lay things out a certain way, only go to certain stores, wait until they get to a certain seat in their home, etc.

- The Tupperware the mom was eating out of late at night (when she realized they hadn't eaten dinner) seemed out of sync with the time to me. It looked like the disposable type of ziploc Tupperware that is popular now. If they were in high school, that would have been early 90s, right? I think they still would have had REAL Tupperware, likely in harvest colors (that stuff lasted forever and wasn't replaced frequently,) and a lot of it was round in shape with kind of that fanned lid design. It definitely was not usually clear! Stuff a little older was sometimes a milky pastel color, translucent. I thought that felt off.

OMG. Are you also the poster who was obsessing about every minute detail of the timeline, the Challenger explosion, etc.?? Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is sad though. There are two shows with fat characters this season, this one and American housewife and in each one being fat is the sum total of the characters identity. Apparently fat people do not have any other hobbies or interests. And it's interesting that Kate has no girlfriends. In both these shows other people relate to the fats in this one dimensional way, if they are friends then the fat is the fat friend or they are ostracized. It's like it's impossible to have a work friend or pat friend who is funny and talented and also happens to be fat. Nope if you are fat you are just fat. That is all that matters.

The character on American Housewife is not fat!!!

[Anonymous]

As someone struggling to lose weight I like Kate's storyline. I find her more interesting than Kevin right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just watched this week's episode. Still love this show so much.

- Love Kate's story line. I lost 150 lbs without surgery and every day is still so.damn.hard.. I'm sorry for those sick of the story line, but holy shit, they have nailed the emotions. In all of her scenes tonight, I knew exactly where it was going the second I saw it, because I've lived it. The binging in the car... been there. Recently. Literally in the parking lot after a weight watchers meeting. And this is after the weight loss. It messes with you. Also, binging isn't always (or even usually?) messy. There's a big component of ritual and routine to it for many people, and they may lay things out a certain way, only go to certain stores, wait until they get to a certain seat in their home, etc.

- The Tupperware the mom was eating out of late at night (when she realized they hadn't eaten dinner) seemed out of sync with the time to me. It looked like the disposable type of ziploc Tupperware that is popular now. If they were in high school, that would have been early 90s, right? I think they still would have had REAL Tupperware, likely in harvest colors (that stuff lasted forever and wasn't replaced frequently,) and a lot of it was round in shape with kind of that fanned lid design. It definitely was not usually clear! Stuff a little older was sometimes a milky pastel color, translucent. I thought that felt off.

OMG. Are you also the poster who was obsessing about every minute detail of the timeline, the Challenger explosion, etc.?? Good grief.

I'm not and actually thought that was kind of ridiculous (I LOVE this show and think it is the best show I've watched since Friday Night Lights). The Tupperware thing just jumped out at me SO clearly. I'm usually one who suspends disbelief, I like shows I don't need to think too hard about, tend to just accept whatever premise they put out. I don't know why that one was so obvious to me... maybe because we use a lot of tupperware at home? LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is sad though. There are two shows with fat characters this season, this one and American housewife and in each one being fat is the sum total of the characters identity. Apparently fat people do not have any other hobbies or interests. And it's interesting that Kate has no girlfriends. In both these shows other people relate to the fats in this one dimensional way, if they are friends then the fat is the fat friend or they are ostracized. It's like it's impossible to have a work friend or pat friend who is funny and talented and also happens to be fat. Nope if you are fat you are just fat. That is all that matters.

I think she does have another story line -- how her life was basically consumed as an adult in working for her brother and making her brother successful. Admittedly, that is interwoven with the weight thing, but I think that's pretty realistic - she hasn't been comfortable standing on her own and being the focal point. Her relationship with her boyfriend is also a separate story line (again, weight is tied up in that... because when you're that size, it impacts everything you do). Her relationship with her mom is still a bit of a mystery, but there are hints that will become a story line too.

[Anonymous]

Kate also had the whole Steelers storyline, which revealed that their dad is dead -- that was separate from the weight. There's more we'll find out about her relationship with her dad, but there's clearly something there with their interaction at the pool, etc. Her being a "daddy's girl" to a dad who is now dead is a theme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I too have lost 150 lbs without surgery, we need to form our own support group!

For real. There's a website/Facebook group called Half Size Me that has a private group, but it's $20/month and I didn't get enough value out of it to stay subscribed. There's also a blog called Refuse to Regain I really like, but the posts are once a week at most. Other than that, I haven't found a lot of resources/community for those trying to maintain weight loss.

I have binge eating disorder and highly recommend over eaters anonymous. Everyone there understands my emotions and everything you have just described. Their tools are wonderful and really help in bombatting this disease.

Thanks. I went to one meeting, and while I did find it somewhat therapeutic, it also was super depressing - it was at a kind of run-down AA center (TONS of meetings going on and the crowd was just... depressing, hate to say that, but true), it was like 6 people, all at least 25 years older than me (and this was on a Saturday morning).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is sad though. There are two shows with fat characters this season, this one and American housewife and in each one being fat is the sum total of the characters identity. Apparently fat people do not have any other hobbies or interests. And it's interesting that Kate has no girlfriends. In both these shows other people relate to the fats in this one dimensional way, if they are friends then the fat is the fat friend or they are ostracized. It's like it's impossible to have a work friend or pat friend who is funny and talented and also happens to be fat. Nope if you are fat you are just fat. That is all that matters.

I think she does have another story line -- how her life was basically consumed as an adult in working for her brother and making her brother successful. Admittedly, that is interwoven with the weight thing, but I think that's pretty realistic - she hasn't been comfortable standing on her own and being the focal point. Her relationship with her boyfriend is also a separate story line (again, weight is tied up in that... because when you're that size, it impacts everything you do). Her relationship with her mom is still a bit of a mystery, but there are hints that will become a story line too.

Yet, they have not really talked since Kevin left - so much for co-dependency story.

[Anonymous]

S/o the tupperware comment: were stainless but steel appliances popular in the early 90s? I'm a 70s kid and nobody I knew had stainless steel appliances until the early 2000s. I thought Rebecca would stick with plain white or, if trying to be real fancy, have the appliances paneled to match the cabinets