What Is Wrong With Me This Morning....??!

[Anonymous]

I was dating this guy for a few months, off and on and we decided to stop dating a few weeks ago. He is not a bad guy or anything like that, I simply did not feel attracted to him physically plus his personality really turned me off. And he was a very weak lover too. I have no hard feelings and he said he accepts my decision to be friends again.

Well he is a local writer in our city and posts blogs about stuff. Without giving too much away, he reviews restaurants in our town and posts them on a local blog/website.

This morning I went on to read his latest review and he mentioned his "date" loved the ambiance of the place he was reviewing. There also was a pic of them sitting together while dining. It was taken this past Saturday evening.

In all honesty, if this guy wanted me back I wouldn't even consider it. However, I was surprised how fast he moved on from me as well as how jealous I felt that he is dating again while I am not.

Why should I even care?????????

Could he be trying to make me jealous? Or could I secretly have feelings for this guy? Or am I just lonely? (I say I am just lonely, but would love your opinions.) Thx.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a pretty normal reaction. Who knows if he's trying to make you jealous, but you do NOT want him back. It wouldn't be any better the second time around.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a neon all reaction but I also think you are putting too much value in the relationship you had. It was only a few short months. It's difficult to really fall for someone in that time. You let him know it was happening, he moved on, end of story. If you dated for 6+ months, I would get the
" wow he moved on quick", but a 2-3 months doesn't warrant much of anything to "move on" from. Who knows, he may have not been that interested in you either. You said you were on and off. I would be able to move on easily from that situation, especially if I was dating others during that period. I think you need to move on, clearly he has.

[Anonymous]

You told him you didn't want to date him anymore, and he is dating other people.

You just sound annoyed that he got to move on quicker than you did.

[Anonymous]

I think you're confidence is a little shaken. Obviously you were expecting a different result - you assumed breaking it off with dude would send him spiraling into a dark abyss of depression where he couldn't function and would be so distraught and discombobulated from losing you that he'd be calling and texting 24/7 begging for another chance nad trying to make up...
But dude just brushed it off and moved on so now you're standing in the mirror wondering, "What's wrong with me?", as in "Am I not as wonderful and fabulous and beautiful and amazing and irreplaceable as I thought I was? How did he manage to not be heartbroken and a total emotional wreck after we stopped dating?"

It'll be okay. Reality is a good thing...accept it. No, you're not the be-all-end-all goddess of every man's dreams you thought you were - but that doesn't mean you're a total loser either. Smile. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Too bad this board is anonymous, it would be interesting to read his material.

[Anonymous]

You've posted about him before, right? Reading your description of him and the relationship you had, it's clear that no, you don't harbor feelings for this guy, secret or otherwise. Yes, you are a bit jealous but no, it's not about him; it's about you, and your ego (don't mean this in a snarky way, it's a natural feeling). And yes, you are probably lonely and wondering if his date is seeing something that you missed.
Even if she's madly in love with him, he's still the same person whose company you didn't want to keep, and if you got back together you would feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You told him you didn't want to date him anymore, and he is dating other people.

You just sound annoyed that he got to move on quicker than you did.

OP Here:

PP you are right. It's so unfair!!!!! But seldom is life fair. Lol.

Anyway, I read ALL your responses and they are truly quite good. Thank you all for telling me like it is w/out anyone slinging mud at me.

You guys have made me think of stuff that I didn't want to admit, but yeah...excellent points.

[Anonymous]

OP Again:

Yes, I have to admit, my ego was bruised a bit.

I agree that this is mostly about my ego vs. any feelings I have toward the guy.

I felt bad earlier, but now with thinking about it realistically, I feel much better. It only kinda hurt for like an hour or so. Now I don't feel bad.

That in itself is proof that I don't feel anything for him, if I truly did...Even an inkling of like, I would be bothered still and I am not.

[Anonymous]

Eminem Nanny, we told you to stahhhp with that guy.