announcing birthdays at work
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Anonymous
| My little sister called me yesterday, freaking out. She is turning 30 next week and doesn't want her birthday announced at work (she's a teacher, and her school reads any staff and student birthdays each morning on the announcements to the whole school). I'm also a teacher, but I've never worked at a school that did this, but I don't think I would mind. My sister, though, is not married and is feeling sensitive about her 30th. Her school never asked for permission to do this, but does it for everyone, and my sister is especially upset because she tried to ask the person in charge of the announcements not to do it, and he told her that since kids read the announcements, they are excited about birthdays and "no one else minds", so he is going to do it anyway. The thing is, I know her principal from a previous job, and we were on good terms. My sister wants me to email her and ask her to honor my sister's requests, but I think this would be kind of psycho. Now sister is angry at me as well as freaking out. Thoughts? |
Anonymous
| Do they announce her age? That is rude. But I don't think it is good for her career for you to email the principal. |
Anonymous
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Your sister is almost 30. She needs to accept that fact, hike up her big girl panties, and handle her own shit at work. Grow up, calm down, and get over yourself.
The kids just want to say "Happy birthday Miss Perez!" to her all day long. Nobody will ask how old she is, and if a kid does she's within her rights to smile kindly while saying "It's not polite to ask an adult how old they are." Do NOT go emailing her principal. Do not get sucked into her crazy. |
Anonymous
| I understand if your sister doesn't want her birthday celebrated. But it's her issue. Her problem to solve. |
Anonymous
| Your sister is acting like she's 12 - don't coddle her. And maybe encourage her to embrace aging with grace and humor. Help her celebrate! She should be planning a great party - not hating on elementary school kids who want to announce her special day |
Anonymous
| Do not engage in this drama. So what if your sister is mad at you? She should be thanking you for not embarrassing her by contacting her principal. |
Anonymous
NP - I don't think so. If people MYOB, OP's sis wouldn't have an issue. |
Anonymous
What? You're saying that OP should have to contact her sister's boss because her sister doesn't want her name read on an announcement? So it's okay to involve your family members to resolve your minor work-related issues that you're having??? Really, is that what you're saying? If not, please clarify your post PP. |
Anonymous
This is an extension of college students having Mom and Dad call their professors. Pathetic. Don't do it, OP. |
Anonymous
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She's being silly. Is not announcing her birthday to a bunch of little kids going to make her not 30 and instantly married? Kids have no sense of grownup ages at that stage, and they love birthdays.
And in no way get involved, OP. Let your sister demonstrate her own brand of crazy to her boss. And then try to act surprised when her contract isn't renewed or she gets all the difficult kids next year. |
Anonymous
| Some people don't like this kind of attention. I don't. To force it on the teachers is ridiculous. I think the boss is over the top to force this if a teacher specifically requests that it not be done. That said, a call from the sister could make the teacher seem unstable. If the sister is very close to the principal and could causally call and say hey, my sister has always hated her birthday, cut her a break, maybe that could work. Otherwise, leave it alone. |