No close family

[Anonymous]

My parents have passed on, I have 2 siblings, 1 brother 1 sister, both older than me.

I have recently been thinking of pursuing a job/position in another country, and looking at possibly teaching overseas. Some programs offer perks such as paying for periodic visits back to the States, and in thinking about this I was suddenly blindsided by the realization that there really wouldn't be anyone for me to visit -- I have no boyfriend/husband, my close friends and I keep in touch telephonically, but often go 2-3 years without seeing each other. My sister, brother and I keep in touch because I initiate the phone calls, I visit them, it's never the other way around.

I have no relationships or connections that would be materially affected by moving across the world. I have a DC and of course her life would change in a big way, but we'd be together; there's no one that would miss me in a conventional way.

I don't know if that's good or bad, just weird for me to realize.

[Anonymous]

The job sounds wonderful, and I don't think you're alone in your realization. Many of us are in the same boat but without the cool job prospect.

[Anonymous]

Who knows what this new opportunity will bring. If you want closer friendships try volunteering or joining some club or organization where you share common interests and make a point of introducing yourself, find and maintain relationships.

[Anonymous]

I think this is actually a hidden silver lining for you in this situation. I'd never let myself pursue such a great opportunity because my family ties are so strong here. And you'll probably meet some great new people.

[Anonymous]

I guess the question is, does it bother you to have no close ties to anyone? For some people it would heaven and for some people it would be hell. If it does bother you, there are definitely ways of developing closer ties by getting involved in your community.