Help me with slumber party invite wording- tricky situation

[Anonymous]

My soon to be 11 yo wants a slumber party this year, but one of her best friends is a boy. The party will include 6 girls and 2 boys. How do I word the invite to indicate that girls stay over and we will bring the boys home late (when the girls get ready for bed)?

[Anonymous]

I would send a different invitation to the boys. Or call their parents ahead of time. If it's an evite, then just hide the guest list.

[Anonymous]

"Boys will be brought home at 11 pm. Girls will be picked up at 10 am." Be really straightforward and just treat it as pickup/dropped instructions, no need to get into why boys are invited etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Boys will be brought home at 11 pm. Girls will be picked up at 10 am." Be really straightforward and just treat it as pickup/dropped instructions, no need to get into why boys are invited etc.

Yes, this makes sense. If you do separate invites, some of the girls' parents might be freaked out at drop-off, thinking the boys will sleep over.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you are over thinking it. "We'll bring the boys home after the party at 9pm. The girls are welcome to spend the night, pickup at our house at 10am, or we can bring them home after the party at 9pm."

I'd give the girls the option to not spend the night.

[Anonymous]

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My 10 year old DS has sleepovers with his best friend (a girl), all the time. There is no interest in sex or each other's bodies yet.

Is 11 year old really the cut-off around here? It seems to me that there would be an extremely wide variation of what's normal, and that OP should know which girls and boys could be invited to sleep over or not.

[Anonymous]

I also don't get the blanket prohibition against boys sleeping over (I have a 13 year old DD who is lightyears from interest in boys), but op must know her child and her friends well enough to think this is something to fear in this case.

[Anonymous]

Just word it in the evite.
"Girls are welcome to spend the night with pickup at 10 am Sunday morning. We would be happy to bring the boys home at 9 pm or arrange pickup at our home then."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:?

My 10 year old DS has sleepovers with his best friend (a girl), all the time. There is no interest in sex or each other's bodies yet.

Is 11 year old really the cut-off around here? It seems to me that there would be an extremely wide variation of what's normal, and that OP should know which girls and boys could be invited to sleep over or not.

I had my first kiss at 11 at a party and I was the teacher's pet and such a good girl. I wouldn't count on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also don't get the blanket prohibition against boys sleeping over (I have a 13 year old DD who is lightyears from interest in boys), but op must know her child and her friends well enough to think this is something to fear in this case.

y'all are in denial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also don't get the blanket prohibition against boys sleeping over (I have a 13 year old DD who is lightyears from interest in boys), but op must know her child and her friends well enough to think this is something to fear in this case.

y'all are in denial.

Nope not at all. Just know my daughter really well, and she is nowhere near this.

I, on the other hand, was also having spin the bottle kisses in sixth grade, so kids mature differently. This is why I said I didn't get a blanket prohibition but also recognize that op knows her daughter and friends best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:?

My 10 year old DS has sleepovers with his best friend (a girl), all the time. There is no interest in sex or each other's bodies yet.

Is 11 year old really the cut-off around here? It seems to me that there would be an extremely wide variation of what's normal, and that OP should know which girls and boys could be invited to sleep over or not.

Same. Over spring break my 12 yr old had a sleepover at a boys house. She's been friends with him since kindergarten and they have zero romantic interest in each other.

[Anonymous]

The parents of the other kids may not like opposite sex sleepovers. I think Op's plan is great for a party. If her daughter wants one particular male friend to sleep over another time, arrange that, too. But there are enough parents out there who'd object and not let their kid attend.

[Anonymous]

I would put the boys in another room if they are friends, otherwise I would do a midnight drop-off home, no pick-ups at the house, that way I don't have to worry about the neighbors being annoyed by vehicles and lots of noise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also don't get the blanket prohibition against boys sleeping over (I have a 13 year old DD who is lightyears from interest in boys), but op must know her child and her friends well enough to think this is something to fear in this case.

y'all are in denial.

Nope not at all. Just know my daughter really well, and she is nowhere near this.

I, on the other hand, was also having spin the bottle kisses in sixth grade, so kids mature differently. This is why I said I didn't get a blanket prohibition but also recognize that op knows her daughter and friends best.

But you are kind of making the blanket statement that a boy/girl sleepover is ok for your daughter AND her friends. That's great that you know your daughter so well, but I highly doubt you know the other boys and girls so well as to be 100% sure that they are not interested in each other. That would be incredibly naive. A boy/girl slumber party is unheard of at that age.