Cognitive Therapy

[Anonymous]

Has anyone used therapy to look into his/her issues (brought out to day light by marriage) via cognitive therapy?

What has been your experience? Did it work?

Who did you use in the DC metro area?

[Anonymous]

For issues brought out in a marriage, I'd be more inclined to see someone of a relational/interpersonal bent. It helped me.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are doing this now. We've been a couple times each alone, going together for the first time tomorrow. It is transforming. I'm like a groupie now of the process. Our problem - I think, still working it though - has to do with my DH's obsessive negative thoughts that lead him to create a negative dynamic between us. It has also helped with getting my DH to help more around the house. It's early days, so I'm curious to see whether these changes will stick or are just momentary. At any rate, I love the CBT so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For issues brought out in a marriage, I'd be more inclined to see someone of a relational/interpersonal bent. It helped me.

I did CBT, and I found it extremely helpful - and I disagree with the quoted PP. Being able to be in a good relationship with others requires having a good relationship with yourself and having your own issues more or less under control. The issues "come out" in marriage because the marriage introduces emotional demands/stresses on people and people's issues come to the surface. Often the SO isn't really the one with issues, nor is the "relationship" the issue - it's one party (or frequently both) having issues which make them dysfunctional in a relationship. The proof of this is that they have the same issues, over and over, no matter who they are in a relationship with.

I had some issues and patterns I was repeating quite a bit (often with partners who had complimentary issues), and CBT helped enormously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For issues brought out in a marriage, I'd be more inclined to see someone of a relational/interpersonal bent. It helped me.

I did CBT, and I found it extremely helpful - and I disagree with the quoted PP. Being able to be in a good relationship with others requires having a good relationship with yourself and having your own issues more or less under control. The issues "come out" in marriage because the marriage introduces emotional demands/stresses on people and people's issues come to the surface. Often the SO isn't really the one with issues, nor is the "relationship" the issue - it's one party (or frequently both) having issues which make them dysfunctional in a relationship. The proof of this is that they have the same issues, over and over, no matter who they are in a relationship with.

I had some issues and patterns I was repeating quite a bit (often with partners who had complimentary issues), and CBT helped enormously.

+1 to all of this. CBT is action oriented and helps you make real changes (if you do the work).

[Anonymous]

I need a cognitive behavioural therapist. I did regular psychotherapy but think this is more action oriented and would be better.
Is there specific training/certification for this? Any advice in Gore to find one? Thanks.