Mothers-in-law
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Anonymous
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In honor of Mother's Day, let's share positive stories of our mothers-in-law! Do you have a great relationship with yours?
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Anonymous
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Aw, sweet! My MIL is really great about taking care of our DS even when she has other things going on. If I have a dentist appointment or something and need help, she always works really hard to clear her schedule so she can help.
She also planned a wonderful Mother's Day get-away for all of us to the beach, and it was fantastic! DS loved it, and DH and I got to relax and get help from her (DS is a toddler). Although I sometimes get frustrated with her, she always means well and is a huge help! |
Anonymous
While I can's say I have a close relationship with my MIL I love and respect her and she loves and respects me. She has been very helpful with the kids whenever she is able (they live in a different city) and she never pulled the "no-woman is good enough for my only son" thing on me-- in fact, she always treated me as if I rescued her son from some horrible fate (not true . Anyway, I have nothing but positive feeling toward her, and am grateful for all she does.
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Anonymous
| Before I had a kid, I got along fine with my MIL, but had to try hard to tolerate her at times. We went through a big long phase where I could hardly stand how she could be so passive aggressive and critical. But thankfully, I always just grinned and bared it. Because as soon as our baby was born, my opinion changed. She changed a LOT. She was so kind and supportive to me. She frequently told me I was a good mom. She expressed understanding with caring for a newborn. She told me things like "your son lights up when he sees you." She was as helpful as she could be without being pushy. She ran interference when FIL was pushy or when FIL grumbled about our parenting practices. Unfortunately she passed away when DS was just 18mos old. |
Anonymous
| My MIL seems to have gotten through her "I am losing my son" and "I will never see my GS" phases that made her behave a little crazy. She and I are increasingly able to have conversations when they visit, and she is absolutely wonderful with DS. She brought some very thoughtful gifts just for me after our second was born. |
Anonymous
| Yes. She's different from me - I'm WASPy and prissy and stuck up, and she's very touchy feely and wants to hug all the time. But we have worked to find middle ground, and she really respects my parenting choices which means a ton to me. All she wants is to spend time with the kids, and I'm so glad I can trust her to do that. |
Anonymous
| Love my MIL. She's caring, super-supportive, and amazing with children (taught elementary school for 20+ years). She made my DH into the nurturing, responsible man he is today. |
Anonymous
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MIL sent me a text today (she "doesn't do" Mothers Day, and we text/email regularly) wishing me Happy Mothers Day andtelling me that I am a great mom and they are so happy I'm part of the family. She dies stuff like this all the time - little gestures that say her DILs are truly family to her.
And her complete adoration of the kids certainly doesn't hurt . Loves spendingtime with them, builds good memories, respects the rather loose boudaries DH and I place on grandparent time.
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Anonymous
| My MIL sent me flowers or a note every month that my DH was deployed after we first got married. My own mother barely recognized that he was gone. MIL is an amazing person and I am so lucky to have her in my life, and now in DD's life. |
Anonymous
| My MIL can drive me batty sometimes, but she has a genuinely good heart and she really just wants to make people happy. She loves spending time with her grandkids, and she is so warm and welcoming to all her daughters-in-law. |
Anonymous
| My MIL is one of the best people I know. If I had to choose to hang out with someone I know for an entire day, she would be at the top of my list. |
Anonymous
| NP here. I just wanted to say I love this thread. Some day, I hope to be a helpful, warm, Mil like this. I love knowing that they do exist, and that they are out there. It takes a really kind, good hearted, secure (with herself) woman to know this and be so positive. Love hearing about it. (Yes, my Mil is the opposite!) Carry on. Love the stories about nice MILs. |
Anonymous
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My MIL gives me TONS of material for the more negative threads. However, she truly adores my kids and gushes about them constantly. And I can do no wrong in her eyes anymore since I have delivered grandchildren unto her.
Also, she's in great shape so my kids are likely to have her in their lives for a long time - which I'm really happy about for them. |
Anonymous
| MIL raised an awesome man. For that, I'm ever in her debt. |
Anonymous
I love this and wish I had it, but I am happy for you. I am happy to know it exists. |