Why would my ex do this?

[Anonymous]

When we were together my ex hated the idea of being Facebook official. She had no pictures of us up on Facebook but would otherwise document her life meticulously. She has a new boyfriend now after we broke up and it's as if she launched a social media campaign. They're Facebook official, he's included in all her new profile pictures and she has albums dedicated to all their excursions.

Why is she doing this?

[Anonymous]

She's either had a change of heart or likes him more than she liked you.
Try not to think about it too much though, she's your ex now.

[Anonymous]

Who knows? She likes him better? He started it? She's trying to show you how much better her life is without you?

It doesn't really matter at this point. Time to unfriend her.

[Anonymous]

She was ambivalent about you. She's not ambivalent about him. It sucks, but it's the most likely answer.

[Anonymous]

It's annoying when couples launch a PR campaign on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's either had a change of heart or likes him more than she liked you.
Try not to think about it too much though, she's your ex now.

+1

I'm glad I divorced before my ex joined FB. He's the last person I'd have friended or followed on social media.

[Anonymous]

There are a few reasons why she did it - she is excited by the new guy, she wants to show you how excited she is about the new guy (especially true if you dumped her), the new guy is super all over FB and she is keeping up with him...you may never know.

It is hard to live in a post-breakup world when you have so much easy access to so much information about the other person via social media. I also suggest unfriending her, so you don't see all that stuff in your feed.

[Anonymous]

Ouch...Here let me offer you a Band-aid because I see that you are bleeding now. Heavily.

You won't want to hear this OP, but the truth of the matter here is that she likes this guy much better and is more attracted to him so thus she wants to show him off.

She never considered your relationship "long term" in the true sense.

I know it's tough, but stay off of both her and her new man's Facebook for now. It's only going to make you feel crummy each and every time you look at it.

[Anonymous]

"Facebook official." This is a term????

OP, are you 22?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Facebook official." This is a term????

OP, are you 22?

That term is used by 30 and 40 somethings as well.

[Anonymous]

Did you break up with her, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you break up with her, OP?

I initiated it but we did a lot of back and forth before we mutually ended it a year later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you break up with her, OP?

I initiated it but we did a lot of back and forth before we mutually ended it a year later.

You initiated a break-up that didn't end the relationship for another year? I'm sorry, but ultimately she broke up with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you break up with her, OP?

I initiated it but we did a lot of back and forth before we mutually ended it a year later.

You initiated a break-up that didn't end the relationship for another year? I'm sorry, but ultimately she broke up with you.

Yeah. I initiated it because we were stuck in vicious cycles of bitter arguing. I then tried to get back together but she ultimately decided to close the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you break up with her, OP?

I initiated it but we did a lot of back and forth before we mutually ended it a year later.

You initiated a break-up that didn't end the relationship for another year? I'm sorry, but ultimately she broke up with you.

Yeah. I initiated it because we were stuck in vicious cycles of bitter arguing. I then tried to get back together but she ultimately decided to close the door.

I understand. The fb stuff stings, but at least you are out of the cycle of arguing, no matter who had to break it. You need to get in a new headspace; unfriend her (or just hide her from your feed) and make a concerted effort not to dwell on this for X number of days (I'd start with 30). Sooner than you think you will feel better.