Educate me on Prom

[Anonymous]

I am an immigrant and as a parent of a teenage boy I have no clue as to what the rules are & what to expect.

A girl asked him to take him to prom and he agreed (after asking us.)

What are things I need to know, talk to him about ?

[Anonymous]

Well, we need more info. In no particular order and off the top of my head-
1) how old is he?
2) how old is she?
3) are they going in a group or couple?
4) where are they going to dinner?
5) who is driving?
6) his clothes should match/compliment her dress (tux depending on grade)
7) he'll need to get a boutonniere that matches her dress
8) definitely address drinking/drug use
9) what are their post-prom plans?
10) definitely address sexual activity
11) is this girl a friend or is there romantic interest?
12) what time is he expected home?

[Anonymous]

Tell him to be a responsible kid. There's generally a lot of drinking and sex at proms (and then a lot of lying about who had sex). Tell him to bring condoms, so he can use them himself or give one to a friend. No sex is best but safe sex is better than unsafe sex.

Tell him to be an ally to his date and her girlfriends - watch their drinks so nobody puts anything in them when they go to the bathroom, and tell them if anyone does before they drink them.

YOU be an ally to your son - if he doesn't have a sober ride home, tell him he can call you at 2am or whenever. If his friends need rides provide them..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, we need more info. In no particular order and off the top of my head-
1) how old is he?
2) how old is she?

Both 16

3) are they going in a group or couple? Group
4) where are they going to dinner? Prom place provides dinner

5) who is driving? Us
6) his clothes should match/compliment her dress (tux depending on grade)

7) he'll need to get a boutonniere that matches her dress
Where can I find one ?

8) definitely address drinking/drug use
9) what are their post-prom plans? Dancing, come home?
10) definitely address sexual activity
11) is this girl a friend or is there romantic interest? Just a friend
12) what time is he expected home?

we haven't discussed this yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to be a responsible kid. There's generally a lot of drinking and sex at proms (and then a lot of lying about who had sex). Tell him to bring condoms, so he can use them himself or give one to a friend. No sex is best but safe sex is better than unsafe sex.

Tell him to be an ally to his date and her girlfriends - watch their drinks so nobody puts anything in them when they go to the bathroom, and tell them if anyone does before they drink them.

YOU be an ally to your son - if he doesn't have a sober ride home, tell him he can call you at 2am or whenever. If his friends need rides provide them..

Yes I will. Great advice. Some of his teachers will be at the prom, monitoring the kids, I was told. We'll know when we drop him off.

[Anonymous]

There a re after prom parties. Most parents, even ones who normally give strict curfews, allow seniors to stay out till dawn.

[Anonymous]

I'm on prom #2 with kid #2. Both boys.

I assume he is a 16-year-old jr? My kids schools did prom for 11th and 12th grades.

He will want to rent a tux with all the trappings - shirt, tie, maybe even shoes.

He should buy a corsage for his date that goes with her dress, and she will buy the buttoniere for him. Large florists tend to carry affordable corsages, but he needs to order a few days ahead of time. Most girls prefer wrist corsages (on an elastic band) to the ones that pin on.

The drinking and sex at my kids' schools were at the afterparty, not at the prom. The proms were tightly supervised and getting caught drinking meant a suspension and, for srs, a letter to your college.

My sons did not go to afterparties as jrs. They were allowed to go as srs - one did, the other can't because of a morning activity the next day.

He should be sure he knows who is paying for what - is his date buying him a ticket, since she invited him, or are they each buying their own?

[Anonymous]

Where is the best place in Bethesda or MD burbs to rent a tux.
How much does it cost?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is the best place in Bethesda or MD burbs to rent a tux.
How much does it cost?[/quote

mens warehouse. depending on what model you get anywhere from $120 - $200.

Go soom to get measured. Don't go on a Saturday. It will be crazy busy. they usually need a week to get it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to be a responsible kid. There's generally a lot of drinking and sex at proms (and then a lot of lying about who had sex). Tell him to bring condoms, so he can use them himself or give one to a friend. No sex is best but safe sex is better than unsafe sex.

Tell him to be an ally to his date and her girlfriends - watch their drinks so nobody puts anything in them when they go to the bathroom, and tell them if anyone does before they drink them.

YOU be an ally to your son - if he doesn't have a sober ride home, tell him he can call you at 2am or whenever. If his friends need rides provide them..

When my guys friends looked out for me at parties at college, they definitely rose in respect with me!

Thank you for teaching your sons this - not enough parents do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to be a responsible kid. There's generally a lot of drinking and sex at proms (and then a lot of lying about who had sex). Tell him to bring condoms, so he can use them himself or give one to a friend. No sex is best but safe sex is better than unsafe sex.

Tell him to be an ally to his date and her girlfriends - watch their drinks so nobody puts anything in them when they go to the bathroom, and tell them if anyone does before they drink them.

YOU be an ally to your son - if he doesn't have a sober ride home, tell him he can call you at 2am or whenever. If his friends need rides provide them..

When my guys friends looked out for me at parties at college, they definitely rose in respect with me!

Thank you for teaching your sons this - not enough parents do.

Just got home from a wedding I attended solo. My friends husband insisted I share a cab with them and dropped me off first. Totally unnecessary, but that kind of stuff makes me think highly of a man. He was raised right!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to be a responsible kid. There's generally a lot of drinking and sex at proms (and then a lot of lying about who had sex). Tell him to bring condoms, so he can use them himself or give one to a friend. No sex is best but safe sex is better than unsafe sex.

Tell him to be an ally to his date and her girlfriends - watch their drinks so nobody puts anything in them when they go to the bathroom, and tell them if anyone does before they drink them.

YOU be an ally to your son - if he doesn't have a sober ride home, tell him he can call you at 2am or whenever. If his friends need rides provide them..

Uh huh.

[Anonymous]

No pp - the girl buys the boutonnière for the girl and the boy buys the corsage for the girl