Conflicted: Bobbi Kristina Brown and her family's decisions about her care

[Anonymous]

As a parent, I can understand not letting go. I can understand never wanting to let go. ever. Especially after what happened to Bobbi's mom and all.

Heres the family's latest statement after Bobby Brown claimed his daughters awake and looking at him:

http://www.cbsnews.com/news/bobby-brown-clarifies-comments-on-bobbi-kristina-brown-condition/

But on the other hand, are the clinging to false hope? Are the ignoring the doctors? Hoping for an impossible miracle? The families also saidd this

http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/bobbi-kristina-brown-irreversible-brain-damage-grandmother-cissy/story?id=30468914

Yeah, I already know: MYOB, Its all private, ect.

Only its not: Bobby brought it up at the concert and everyones talking to the media about this. So its kinda public.

What are your thoughts about whats going on?

[Anonymous]

I think it's really weird that there are so many conflicting accounts of what kind of state she's in, but this family is really weird anyway. It's unfortunate but it's one of those truly Hollywood stories (except it happened in Atlanta) that you just can't even make up. It's like a Greek tragedy, but with famous people. And it also feels like there's a lot being covered up/hidden from the public.

[Anonymous]

It's his prerogative.

[Anonymous]

I think it's mostly none of our business. I also think the family seems to be pretty dysfunctional and split. It's obvious from those statements that Bobby Brown is on the optimist side and Cissy is on the more realistic side.

I think that perhaps early on there was an opportunity to make a decision to let her go. But once you decide to take extreme revival measures, and she does live, you're faced with a lifetime - perhaps long - with a brain damaged person.

On TV, when people are revived after drowning or lack of O2 for a period of time, they are recovered as soon as they "wake up." The reality of depriving the brain of O2 for periods of time is far different. It's likely that she can live for quite a while in her current state, but she will likely be in rehabilitative care, with little to no awareness, for however much longer she lives.

[Anonymous]

She's not on a respirator because hospitals don't leave you on them for more than 2 wks. She's in a rehab because mist hospitals don't have the facilities to care for long-term trach patients. I learned this when a relative was in a coma. I believe Cissy; it's a sad situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's his prerogative.

I love you.

[Anonymous]

Why are you conflicted, it's not your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's his prerogative.

BWAH!!! good one!

[Anonymous]

When there's also a layer of feelings of guilt and failed responsibility, it makes the decision to let go even harder.

[Anonymous]

They can afford the care, so it is their choice. I would not want to live like that but maybe she is ok with it. I can understand grandma, losing a daughter and now this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you conflicted, it's not your child.

You never in your life cared about the suffering of others? OK then.

[Anonymous]

I think Bobby is delusional and it's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When there's also a layer of feelings of guilt and failed responsibility, it makes the decision to let go even harder.

Also, add in the layer of denial. I have seen this firsthand with my dad, who's in a progressive decline with dementia and lives in a nursing home. He relies on others for his care, is wheelchair bound and can't speak. My mom tells everyone in her circle (neighbors, anyone who asks, friends) that he is in a rehab center (partially true, yes, his nursing home contains such a center) and that he's recovering from a fall. Again, true - he did fall and did receive post op rehab briefly, but truly he's in an inpatient, long-term, skilled nursing care for dementia patients hospital like facility. Too hard for my mom to face reality, so she just tells everyone this and herself, too. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's not on a respirator because hospitals don't leave you on them for more than 2 wks. .

I work in an ICU. This isn't true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When there's also a layer of feelings of guilt and failed responsibility, it makes the decision to let go even harder.

Also, add in the layer of denial. I have seen this firsthand with my dad, who's in a progressive decline with dementia and lives in a nursing home. He relies on others for his care, is wheelchair bound and can't speak. My mom tells everyone in her circle (neighbors, anyone who asks, friends) that he is in a rehab center (partially true, yes, his nursing home contains such a center) and that he's recovering from a fall. Again, true - he did fall and did receive post op rehab briefly, but truly he's in an inpatient, long-term, skilled nursing care for dementia patients hospital like facility. Too hard for my mom to face reality, so she just tells everyone this and herself, too. Sad.

I think you are being way too hard on your mom. What she tells other people and what she knows to be true could be two different things. She may just not want or need to get into it with other people. I'm sorry about your dad.