Men don't like to submit semon anaylsis

[Anonymous]

My husband is giving me a very hard time about having to submit a semon anaylsis before we can start fertility treatment. He will do it but is clearly not happy. Anybody else have a similar experience.

[Anonymous]

Mine did not want to do it either. You can ask for the cup and have him do his sample at home and drive it there, if he is less than 15 minutes away. That worked for us, even when we did IVF.

[Anonymous]

My husband balked, too. He didn't find too much sympathy from me. I usually answered with, "what is the big deal, you've been doing that since you were 13" or "Get in the stirups buddy, then we'll talk about exposure or embarassment"

Seriously, I understand the embarassment factor. My husband is a really shy, private guy. My husband did it a few weeks ago at the office. For my husband the most difficult part was that he isn't a morning person but he had to go at 7:30am. Luckily for us, his analysis turned out to be just fine. ("Yes, honey, I always knew you were a stud.") It is just another piece in the puzzle they need to have. We were pretty sure that the issue was on my side (I'm 40), not his. I've gotten pregnant before by him, once was an early m/c years ago and the other was last summer that we had to terminate.

[Anonymous]

Husband here. While it is true that all guys certainly have practice in this area, it is not as relaxing to make a contribution at an office. There is something that is just a bit surreal about the experience. A nurse takes you to a room decorated with the type of posters you'd find in a frat house, checks your id, and then shows you the collection of dvds and magazines (which she described as the "aides") before leaving. That being said, however, it is better than a prostate exam.

Honestly, the two worse parts are the check in when you say why you are there -- I know the guy says he is there for a semen analysis, but some how it sounds like you are saying "I'm here to choke the chicken."-- and being shown the porn selection, sorry, the aiding devices. But
if he thinks doing it at the office is bad, have try at home with you standing outside the bedroom door.

In the end, I suggest you look him in the eyes lovingly and tell him it is time for the little major to stand at attention and go into battle.

[Anonymous]

Why not offer to go with him and "assist"? I suspect this might help with at least some portion of the reluctant men out there.

[Anonymous]

We asked about that; afraid it is a solo mission.

[Anonymous]

DH's contribution is rather minimal compared to what we have to go through--especially with IVF.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps DH is concerned he might be the problem.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I have so little sympathy for any man who feels this way. For me to have our first child, I endured 3 years of vaginal ultrasounds, 3x weekly blood draws, uncomfortable follicle stimulation, painful egg retrievals, not to mention childbirth. I had to miss so much work that the entire office knew my personal business.

So you're uncomfortable masturbating? Get OVER yourselves.

[Anonymous]

well said! I feel exactly the same way...