Pasta for dinner

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Anonymous wrote:We had pasta with pesto sauce for dinner in honor of this thread. Salad on the side, but no meat in or alongside this meal.

I'm sure most of the naysayers would think the pasta OP served WITH A SIDE SALAD would be perfectly normal and acceptable.

Of course, so mommy could eat the lettuce and literally one piece of pasta and say she's sooooooooo full.

I would eat all the pasta and salad, and do think the OP's friend was rude to say anything, but I still think it was odd of OP to invite them over and plop a bowl of pasta in front of everyone without asking or offering anything more. A plate of fruit at the end, or offering a vegetable plate, something, anything!

I honestly think some of you should just decline invitations to meals, because you will never be satisfied.

This x 1 million. If you have to have control of every meal, you cannot accept invitations for meals. Go home and eat your vegetables.

[Anonymous]

Olive Garden has spoiled me.

Breadstick, soup and salad is a given.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:We had pasta with pesto sauce for dinner in honor of this thread. Salad on the side, but no meat in or alongside this meal.

I'm sure most of the naysayers would think the pasta OP served WITH A SIDE SALAD would be perfectly normal and acceptable.

Of course, so mommy could eat the lettuce and literally one piece of pasta and say she's sooooooooo full.

I would eat all the pasta and salad, and do think the OP's friend was rude to say anything, but I still think it was odd of OP to invite them over and plop a bowl of pasta in front of everyone without asking or offering anything more. A plate of fruit at the end, or offering a vegetable plate, something, anything!

I honestly think some of you should just decline invitations to meals, because you will never be satisfied.

That's pretty par for the course. Most people have preferences and dietary considerations and few people can cook decently or want the hassle. So just go out.

[Anonymous]

I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

[Anonymous]

we must push on to 40 pages

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Yet nobody actually cares about your opinion and they aren’t going to feed their kid junk food or trash bc you called them names. You’re outnumbered and come across as foolish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Sure, if someone has said that, it's not right. There's so many pages, I don't know. I'll take your word for it, but the norm itself (main+2 or 3) is not better or less than a less structured norm of eating one item for lunch. That's what I mean, the norm is like the shoe norm vs the no-shoes-inside norm.

[Anonymous]

The lesson here is never make impromptu food invitations. Or any, actually, because they will then say wut no food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Yet nobody actually cares about your opinion and they aren’t going to feed their kid junk food or trash bc you called them names. You’re outnumbered and come across as foolish.

Then why didn't they grab their precious tot, ignore any protests as you snatch then from the pasta, and take them to a safe meal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Yes, if I'm making the pasta and there is not already any sauce in it, I'd always ask if they want sauce. It makes no sense that if the kid likes vodka sauce and it's sitting right there, that kid must have butter because the host says so, or that the mother must have vodka sauce instead of butter. The guests shouldn't start asking for marinara or pesto if it wasn't offered, but if there's two options then of course they should be able to choose one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Yet nobody actually cares about your opinion and they aren’t going to feed their kid junk food or trash bc you called them names. You’re outnumbered and come across as foolish.

Then why didn't they grab their precious tot, ignore any protests as you snatch then from the pasta, and take them to a safe meal.

Ask op yourself.

[Anonymous]

I love buttered noodles. I eat it with just salt/pepper/garlic all the time. How is it any different than a bowl of Mac and cheese or bowl of ramen? Or a bowl or rice? As long as the flavor is there, I can eat it with or without a protein.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The lesson here is never make impromptu food invitations. Or any, actually, because they will then say wut no food.

That’s fine. I am good feeding my kids and you can feed yours. This is why i am also anti after sports team snacks.