"i don't know what they were thinking. I know what they were doing..."

[Anonymous]

I love my MIL and think she's hilarious...however, this is what she said to me about my BIL and his wife when BIL and his wife announced they were having a 2nd baby--they got pregnant with #2 when #1 was about 15 months.

Now we are expecting our own #2 and our #1 is only 12 months. We are very excited and want to share w our families but I'm honestly not looking forward to telling MIL because I don't want her to say similar about us! Even though she absolutely loves all her grandkids...I guess I just feel a little judged already and we haven't even told her yet...help me feel excited to announce and not worry about what she will think/say!

[Anonymous]

who cares what she thinks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who cares what she thinks?

OP clearly does! OP, there's not much you can do about it...she will say/think what she will but since it sounds like she'll also be happy to have another grandkid in the long run...just tell her excitedly and hopefully she'll at least act excited too Maybe after she has seen how having 2 kids close in age has been for your BIL's family, she won't be so judgy toward you and your husband. Or maybe she was more judgy of them for some other reason (doesn't approve of your BIL's wife, thinks their 1st kid was a real handful, doesn't get along w/ your BIL, etc.) and feels more approving of you and your husband? I would think she probably wouldn't say something like this to you about her own son (your BIL) unless she really likes you so maybe she wouldn't be as judgmental of something you do...I don't know but anyway, I would try not to worry about it too much since, like I said before, there's nothing you can do about it now and you have every right to be super excited and to share that excitement w/ family

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she was trying to be funny. I wouldn't spend any time on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who cares what she thinks?

+1

Who cares what ANY MIL thinks??!!

[Anonymous]

Maybe MIL was already helping out a lot (childcare, financially) with your BIL's #1 when she got the news that they were expecting #2....that might explain her reaction to their news.

I wouldn't worry about it in your case. You'll handle it, and all she needs to do is sit back and be the proud grandma. Congratulations

[Anonymous]

It may not be as bad for you, since BIL has already done this. Agree with PP that she may not even have meant it as a harsh judgment, maybe just surprise and outside of her own child-rearing experience if her kids were more spaced out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe MIL was already helping out a lot (childcare, financially) with your BIL's #1 when she got the news that they were expecting #2....that might explain her reaction to their news.

I wouldn't worry about it in your case. You'll handle it, and all she needs to do is sit back and be the proud grandma. Congratulations

Thanks! I think you're right. About her helping out a lot with my BIL's family. and I know she'll be happy for us so I shouldn't be worried...I will blame my worries about how others will react to our news on pregnancy hormones because I know logically, I shouldn't be thinking about this : )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she was trying to be funny. I wouldn't spend any time on it.

Second this- she was probably trying to be funny or light about it, having little ones close together is tiring, there is now doubt about it so I am sure she was just trying to be cute and acknowledge that (rewarding, but tiring!)

[Anonymous]

I bet she adores your BIL's second child right? I bet she'll adore yours also OP.

Don't waste energy worrying about what others might be thinking. YOu have far better, happier things to do with your time!

[Anonymous]

Oh, come on. People, can we please stop with the stupid, stupid, MIL posts? Who gives a sh$? Seriously. Do you women who are obsessed with your MILs work outside of the home or have something else to keep your mind occupied? I know I'm going to get slammed for this post, but I can only imagine you are bored, your kids are in school, and you have way too much time on your hands. Get a job or go volunteer and be productive. Geez. Enough!

[Anonymous]

This is the kind of thing you will one day look back on and wonder why you were worried. Even if she thinks to herself "huh, those kids are too close together!" the next thought will be "YAY! more babies!" and then you will all move on. Honestly.

Also: congratulations .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, come on. People, can we please stop with the stupid, stupid, MIL posts? Who gives a sh$? Seriously. Do you women who are obsessed with your MILs work outside of the home or have something else to keep your mind occupied? I know I'm going to get slammed for this post, but I can only imagine you are bored, your kids are in school, and you have way too much time on your hands. Get a job or go volunteer and be productive. Geez. Enough!

op here and i have to say laughed at this, even though i think it is unnecessarily rude and doesn't really describe me. but I can see your point and when I reread my original post, it does sound a bit like the situation you describe~ still, i do have a job and i'm honestly not obsessed w my MIL. i promise. i just a) have a baby and b) am newly pregnant and feeling a bit emotional about it. i admit my OP makes it sound like I really think about this all the time. I don't. But W/e anyway point taken.

[Anonymous]

I think its kinda funny.

[Anonymous]

I don't find this brother in laws spacing to be close at all. two years?