crappy birthday...

[Anonymous]

Posted this in the wrong place...

well, I was super excited to get out of town to the beach yesterday for a long weekend and the storm yesterday killed those plans. (No available flights to anywhere in FL from any of the airports today, no point in going tomorrow)

I'm TOTALLY burned out and really needed a break. I work full time, have a toddler. I need some sunshine and time away from work.

To make matters worse, it's my birthday. I cried about this last night and this morning. Then felt like a brat for feeling so sad.

Since the trip is out, we have no other plans to celebrate my birthday. I've been stuck in the house all day feeling depressed and chasing a toddler Around. Husband decided to work (despite the fact that we took the day off).

Husband keeps asking me what I want to do, I have no ideas. And frankly, I'm sick of planning my own birthday.

No nice dinner out. No cake and no gifts to open. (Husbands bday gift to me was given in advance andfor use on this vacation.)

This sucks!!

What would you do?

[Anonymous]

I would get over myself. It's a birthday and you are not 6. If you need cake and ice cream and someone to sing to you as an adult, you need to grow up. Don't get me started on gifts for adults. . . Congrats that you were born. Now be an adult. You can take your trip another time. Order takeout or go out to a local restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would get over myself. It's a birthday and you are not 6. If you need cake and ice cream and someone to sing to you as an adult, you need to grow up. Don't get me started on gifts for adults. . . Congrats that you were born. Now be an adult. You can take your trip another time. Order takeout or go out to a local restaurant.

Not OP, but you sound like a complete and total bitch. You could've kept that unhelpful post to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Tomorrow is Saturday. DH takes care of the toddler, while you do whatever the hell you want. Spa appt, shopping, long walk, read a book, meet a friend for coffee, whatever. Then, get a babysitter and go out to dinner with DH (or girlfriend). Make a choice - continue to mope or DO SOMETHING ELSE.

Also, reschedule the weekend away pronto.

[Anonymous]

OP here,

Thanks... I think I'm realizing just how overwhelmed and burned out I am.

It's not really about the birthday....that's just icing on the proverbial cake.

[Anonymous]

find a hotel near here. Many will be cheap if not already booked, since they'd rather have a guest than an empty room. Spend the night alone, catch up on sleep and TV, go to the gym and the pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Posted this in the wrong place...

well, I was super excited to get out of town to the beach yesterday for a long weekend and the storm yesterday killed those plans. (No available flights to anywhere in FL from any of the airports today, no point in going tomorrow)

I'm TOTALLY burned out and really needed a break. I work full time, have a toddler. I need some sunshine and time away from work.

To make matters worse, it's my birthday. I cried about this last night and this morning. Then felt like a brat for feeling so sad.

Since the trip is out, we have no other plans to celebrate my birthday. I've been stuck in the house all day feeling depressed and chasing a toddler Around. Husband decided to work (despite the fact that we took the day off).

Husband keeps asking me what I want to do, I have no ideas. And frankly, I'm sick of planning my own birthday.

No nice dinner out. No cake and no gifts to open. (Husbands bday gift to me was given in advance andfor use on this vacation.)

This sucks!!

What would you do?

"Honey, here's what I need you to do: watch Larlo tomorrow while I go for a massage/facial/whatever. Get a sitter for tomorrow night so you can take me out for a lovely dinner. My 3 favorite places are X, Y & Z. Choose one. Then tomorrow night, make love to me like when we were dating."

[Anonymous]

Get out of that funk! Drag yourself out of the house and you won't regret it. Make this a fun staycation! Head to DC and be a tourist, go for nice meals, just go out!

[Anonymous]

Throw your own party! Invite people, tell them to bring munchies, buy yourself a cake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Throw your own party! Invite people, tell them to bring munchies, buy yourself a cake!

No, you're not in college anymore so it's not appropriate to get all giddy on Facebook and announce your birthday.

OP, this advice is stupid. Tell DH what you just told us. It's not at all unreasonable for him to get you a cake and reschedule the vacation as a delayed present.

[Anonymous]

I would get over myself. It's a birthday and you are not 6. If you need cake and ice cream and someone to sing to you as an adult, you need to grow up. Don't get me started on gifts for adults. . . Congrats that you were born. Now be an adult. You can take your trip another time. Order takeout or go out to a local restaurant.

Basically, this. You already know you are being a bit of a whiny brat. You are not dying nor are you about to lose your home. You're having to give up your expectations for being treated super special on your birthday.

That said, I can totally identify with the burnout and think you should direct your DH to give you what you really need. A spa day. A night away. Hell, an afternoon away.

Tell him what you need because you need it. Forget the birthday entitlement. This is just what you need.

[Anonymous]

Book a spa day. Go shopping. Invite a girlfriend for lunch. Stay at the Ritz and sleep in.

I would be so bummed if my trip to Fl was canceled but you need to plan someting else that will make you smile.

Happy birthday!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would get over myself. It's a birthday and you are not 6. If you need cake and ice cream and someone to sing to you as an adult, you need to grow up. Don't get me started on gifts for adults. . . Congrats that you were born. Now be an adult. You can take your trip another time. Order takeout or go out to a local restaurant.

Not OP, but you sound like a complete and total bitch. You could've kept that unhelpful post to yourself.

She DID ask. And it's pretty right on.

[Anonymous]

Op, what about going to a nice BB?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Posted this in the wrong place...

well, I was super excited to get out of town to the beach yesterday for a long weekend and the storm yesterday killed those plans. (No available flights to anywhere in FL from any of the airports today, no point in going tomorrow)

I'm TOTALLY burned out and really needed a break. I work full time, have a toddler. I need some sunshine and time away from work.

To make matters worse, it's my birthday. I cried about this last night and this morning. Then felt like a brat for feeling so sad.

Since the trip is out, we have no other plans to celebrate my birthday. I've been stuck in the house all day feeling depressed and chasing a toddler Around. Husband decided to work (despite the fact that we took the day off).

Husband keeps asking me what I want to do, I have no ideas. And frankly, I'm sick of planning my own birthday.

No nice dinner out. No cake and no gifts to open. (Husbands bday gift to me was given in advance andfor use on this vacation.)

This sucks!!

What would you do?

"Honey, here's what I need you to do: watch Larlo tomorrow while I go for a massage/facial/whatever. Get a sitter for tomorrow night so you can take me out for a lovely dinner. My 3 favorite places are X, Y & Z. Choose one. Then tomorrow night, make love to me like when we were dating."

I think most of us with children would be glad to get one of these things, let alone three. You are high maintenance, pp.