Wish I had a Trust Fund

[Anonymous]

I am lucky and I know it, but as I sit here working at 4:30 am so that I can do well at my job and make money for my family, I sure wish I had a trust fund and didn't have to work. A lot of the parents at my kids' school have family money to rely on and live in much nicer homes and drive fancy cars when I know that the woman doesn't work and the man's job cannot pay for that lifestyle, and I am certain that they have inherited or family money.

Usually I am good about not envying others or pretending that I know what other people's lives our like, but on a night like tonight, I just wish I could live in a beautiful brand-new home and not work and focus all my time on my kids. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Try to focus on what you do have.

There are many people out there who do have more money than you do and have a better lifestyle than you do, sure...But you are blessed in your own unique way too.

You have your health.

There are many rich people out there who have all the money in the world, yet cannot buy the promise of life. Look at all the rich celebrities who die from cancer all the time. They would gladly give up their millions and McMansions if they could be healthy like you and I.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it - you are in that world but not of it and of course that is sometimes a hard place to be. I would say with regard to your hard work and your kids that there is great value for them in seeing you earn what you have. That is an example will serve them well their whole lives.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 friends with trust funds. 2 lost both parents before they were 18, the other lost them before she was 22. Their parents never got to meet their spouses or their children, never got to see their own kids become successful, Etc.

[Anonymous]

Op I know what you mean. It's hard in a place like dc where you are surrounded by money. My best friend inherited a lot of wealth from her dad. Her mom died after going senile from Alzheimer's. Her dad died suddenly and never met his grandkids. That said, she married a guy with an average job and it turns out his parents estate is worth $10 million.

[Anonymous]

OP, when you find yourself in that moment, stop whatever you're doing and make a list of everything that you're grateful for. Do not spend any energy pining for something you don't have.

[Anonymous]

I have a trust fund, and I'm very grateful for it. However, I inherited due to the death of my mother from cancer when I was still in middle school. I miss her every day of my life. Being the girl who grew up without a mother defines me much more than being a woman with a trust fund.

PS. Even with the trust money I still need to work and live in a modest townhome in the burbs. We're not rolling in the dough, though it's a big help.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you shouldn't be that school. No snark. But when I was poor, I had the luxury on not really knowing it. Today I could buy anything I want and realize I don't really want things.

[Anonymous]

What about investing money for your grandchildren? $10k invested over 100 years = trust fund.
Too late for you, but not for grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had my dad. Money isn't everything, OP. The ones you love can be gone in an instant.

[Anonymous]

If you are unhappy poor you will be unhappy rich. All money does is make life easier, not necessarily better. The proof is seeing so many with so much yet they commit suicide and we all think damn, they killed themselves and had all that money ?

Back in the day when we were poor I feel we lived life to the fullest. Now that we can afford whatever we want it doesn't seem like we want much and life isn't as fulfilling.

That will make more sense as you move through life. And take note, it's easier to struggle from the bottom up than it is to fall from the top. You will be able to endure more if you had to work hard for it.

[Anonymous]

Stfu. Go to Peru and walk around the slums of Lima and then learn to appreciate what you have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stfu. Go to Peru and walk around the slums of Lima and then learn to appreciate what you have.

+1. You are more fortunate than so many people. Count your blessings.

[Anonymous]

I am surrounded by people who make a lot more money than me.
However, I am happy.
Happiness is an active state of mind you have to practice and work for.

[Anonymous]

My sister constantly whines about having to work, not having a house, never going out, paying bills yet she does nothing to correct the mistakes she makes so no, she will never have the things she lusts for.