Noticing very chunky young kids

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Extra weight takes its toll on your body in many different ways. All of my mom's friends have had to have knee/hip/ankle replacements in their 50s/early 60s due to years of being obese. So yes, being overweight is unhealthy for your body.

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Anonymous wrote:Extra weight takes its toll on your body in many different ways. All of my mom's friends have had to have knee/hip/ankle replacements in their 50s/early 60s due to years of being obese. So yes, being overweight is unhealthy for your body.

Ok, weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:Extra weight takes its toll on your body in many different ways. All of my mom's friends have had to have knee/hip/ankle replacements in their 50s/early 60s due to years of being obese. So yes, being overweight is unhealthy for your body.

Ok, weirdo.

Ok it’s healthy dear

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Anonymous wrote:I have a chunky kid. She is hungry ALL THE TIME. We emphasize protein and healthy eating and yet she’s still hungry. She does sports most days after school, I don’t think she’s ever had soda or McDonalds, we walk the dog together every day.
I was super skinny as a kid and dont get it. But my MIL recently sent a bunch of pics of my husband as a kid and he was really chunky. It finally clicked that this is genetics at play.

You never saw kid pictures of your husband until now?

No is that a problem?

It’s pretty darn weird. Are you estranged from his family? Never been to his childhood home? They have no photo albums? Never asked him, hey what did you like like as a kid?

Why does it matter? She she not have married him bc he was a chubby kid?

She would have been clued in a lot sooner and could changed behavior sooner. I can’t imagine being married 10+ years without ever seeing a single childhood photo of my husband. That’s a first time home to meet the parents activity.

Change what behavior? She already said her child has never even had McD or soda, is active, eats heathy, but she just eats more. You can only limit food
and portions when they are young children. Once kids are old enough to can get themselves food, if they are hungry they will find food and eat it.

The idea is that you teach them how to listen to their bodies and also be aware of unhealthy cravings to manage for themselves when they do get to make their own decisions.

That little voice that says “I would like the entire box of chocolates but I’m just going to have one because a whole box is too much”

I had a mom who let me eat anything and everything and I was chubby. I had a 6’6” brother who could eat anything and never get fat. I developed an eating disorder because when I realized the amount and types of food I was eating was unhealthy and that I was objectively obese, I had no safe way to lose the weight or understand how to eat healthy so I just didn’t eat. Or I ate and purged via exercise or vomiting.

I have plenty of hang ups with my Mom that she took the “easy” way out instead of teaching me that my brother and I had different needs and it was fair to educate us differently about our own bodies. In fact, that’s the ultimate fairness. To do the hard thing - the right thing - which was not allowing us both to eat 4K calories a day.

She took the easy way out and I will live with it for the rest of my life.

So your mom let you eat what you wanted and you blame her for your ED and weight issues.

There are always tons of people that are overweight and/or had an ED that chime in on various “weight” threads that blame their parents for restricting their portions as kids, making them exercise, and not keeping enough junk food in the house, driving them to binge eat in secret and source junk from other places whenever possible.

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Anonymous wrote:At what age do you recommend refusing food? (Not dessert—proteins, main courses.) My child was malnourished as an infant. Insatiable once we met her. Should I have denied my 12 month old extra chicken and pear because her siblings would not have eaten so much and my friends’ kids did not? For the record, she wouldn’t eat what was in one hand until she had something in the other hand so she could be sure there was something more.
She is currently obese. Everyone judges me for it. So I’d like the honest answer of whether I failed in denying her seconds at 9 months? 2 years? What’s the magic age at which it’s ok for her to feel insecure because she’s afraid she won’t have enough food? Seriously—I think about it every day so I’d like the experts to tell me where I screwed up.

I think around K or 1st is when you can say: that’s enough food, dinner is over and if you’re still hungry you can have some carrot or celery sticks.

One thing to teach them is not to eat until their stomach is full because it takes a while to gauge fullness. So if you’ve eaten to the point of complete fullness then you start to feel overfull later on.

You also have to recognize their triggers. For instance if they are “bored” eaters then have a plan to play outside or walk immediately after dinner.

In your daughter’s case, since there is legitimate trauma to work through, perhaps therapy is in order.

Wow someone with some sense! That’s not what pp wants to hear though. Her daughter is obese and it’s no one’s fault and there is nothing anyone can do!

I was in target yesterday and I saw an obese woman and her equally obese 6-7 year old and this poor child was so large they were struggling to walk. I don’t understand how people can let that happen to their kids.

I’m the parent here. I never said no one’s at fault. My child has been in therapy and has had a nutritionist for many years. Both agree on not limiting nutritious food. We limit dessert and junk in a way parents of her skinny friends do not need to. But it’s always interesting to hear what the people who are judging her on the playground and in dance class think is the right answer based on their education and experience with childhood trauma.

I mean the answer was not to let her become obese in the first place. You are the parent. The only way a one year old can eat themselves into obesity is if the patents allow and enable it. But of course it is easier to let your toddler shovel endless amount of food down their gullet than dealing with them crying I guess!

Why are you equating obesity with “unhealthy?”

Why not?

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Being overweight causes a multitude of health issues- high blood pressure, high cholesterol, etc. Yes, it is unhealthy to be overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

If they were all eating the same, the chunky kid wouldn’t be as chunky. That kid is eating a bigger portion of snacks and/or meals than the other kids. You e never been to a playdate where one kid is ponding the strawberries way harder than any other kid? Just give them all the same sized plate of food and when it’s gone, it’s gone. If anyone is still hungry, offer baby carrots or cucumbers.

Your first sentence is scientifically false. This is the problem with this whole thread, the assumption that all bodies are the same. https://www.netflix.com/title/81436688

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Anonymous wrote:I have a chunky kid. She is hungry ALL THE TIME. We emphasize protein and healthy eating and yet she’s still hungry. She does sports most days after school, I don’t think she’s ever had soda or McDonalds, we walk the dog together every day.
I was super skinny as a kid and dont get it. But my MIL recently sent a bunch of pics of my husband as a kid and he was really chunky. It finally clicked that this is genetics at play.

You never saw kid pictures of your husband until now?

No is that a problem?

It’s pretty darn weird. Are you estranged from his family? Never been to his childhood home? They have no photo albums? Never asked him, hey what did you like like as a kid?

Why does it matter? She she not have married him bc he was a chubby kid?

She would have been clued in a lot sooner and could changed behavior sooner. I can’t imagine being married 10+ years without ever seeing a single childhood photo of my husband. That’s a first time home to meet the parents activity.

Change what behavior? She already said her child has never even had McD or soda, is active, eats heathy, but she just eats more. You can only limit food
and portions when they are young children. Once kids are old enough to can get themselves food, if they are hungry they will find food and eat it.

The idea is that you teach them how to listen to their bodies and also be aware of unhealthy cravings to manage for themselves when they do get to make their own decisions.

That little voice that says “I would like the entire box of chocolates but I’m just going to have one because a whole box is too much”

I had a mom who let me eat anything and everything and I was chubby. I had a 6’6” brother who could eat anything and never get fat. I developed an eating disorder because when I realized the amount and types of food I was eating was unhealthy and that I was objectively obese, I had no safe way to lose the weight or understand how to eat healthy so I just didn’t eat. Or I ate and purged via exercise or vomiting.

I have plenty of hang ups with my Mom that she took the “easy” way out instead of teaching me that my brother and I had different needs and it was fair to educate us differently about our own bodies. In fact, that’s the ultimate fairness. To do the hard thing - the right thing - which was not allowing us both to eat 4K calories a day.

PP here

Big difference between a parent who encourages restricting and binging and one who lovingly educates

She took the easy way out and I will live with it for the rest of my life.

So your mom let you eat what you wanted and you blame her for your ED and weight issues.

There are always tons of people that are overweight and/or had an ED that chime in on various “weight” threads that blame their parents for restricting their portions as kids, making them exercise, and not keeping enough junk food in the house, driving them to binge eat in secret and source junk from other places whenever possible.

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

And your daughter will always have to fight her weight more than her brothers. You just have to decide when to let her know, or just see if she figures it out for herself?

My mom has been nagging my sister about her weight for decades and all it's ever done is make them both miserable.

I imagine a lot of you were raised to be miserable about food and body image and now your passing it along to your children. What a terrible way to live.

Does anyone like being obese? Is that a good way to live?

My sister isn't obese but thanks for making assumptions.


I suspect your anxiety around body size is probably worse than actually being overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

And your daughter will always have to fight her weight more than her brothers. You just have to decide when to let her know, or just see if she figures it out for herself?

My mom has been nagging my sister about her weight for decades and all it's ever done is make them both miserable.

I imagine a lot of you were raised to be miserable about food and body image and now your passing it along to your children. What a terrible way to live.

Does anyone like being obese? Is that a good way to live?

My sister isn't obese but thanks for making assumptions.


I suspect your anxiety around body size is probably worse than actually being overweight.

You suspect? Boy do you sick at assumptions. This isn’t about me at all, moron. My aunt is morbidly obese and housebound. She’s miserable and hates her life. I’d hate to live like that.

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I think the next time you guys go to the pool you should just go around and tell all the overweight kids that they're fatty fat fats. You're just letting them know because That's not something they're aware of on their own.

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The poster blaming the parent of the adopted 1 year old with trauma for listening to experts that said to let her eat her fill is a trip.

Reactive Attachment Disorder is pretty damn serious. Much more serious than being heavy.

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

And your daughter will always have to fight her weight more than her brothers. You just have to decide when to let her know, or just see if she figures it out for herself?

My mom has been nagging my sister about her weight for decades and all it's ever done is make them both miserable.

I imagine a lot of you were raised to be miserable about food and body image and now your passing it along to your children. What a terrible way to live.

Does anyone like being obese? Is that a good way to live?

My sister isn't obese but thanks for making assumptions.


I suspect your anxiety around body size is probably worse than actually being overweight.

Sizeism is a form of oppression.

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

And your daughter will always have to fight her weight more than her brothers. You just have to decide when to let her know, or just see if she figures it out for herself?

My mom has been nagging my sister about her weight for decades and all it's ever done is make them both miserable.

I imagine a lot of you were raised to be miserable about food and body image and now your passing it along to your children. What a terrible way to live.

Does anyone like being obese? Is that a good way to live?

My sister isn't obese but thanks for making assumptions.


I suspect your anxiety around body size is probably worse than actually being overweight.

You suspect? Boy do you sick at assumptions. This isn’t about me at all, moron. My aunt is morbidly obese and housebound. She’s miserable and hates her life. I’d hate to live like that.

All I said was that my mother spent so much of her life trying to worry about my sister's body. All the anxiety and control and shame did not change the size of her body. Spending so much energy worrying about someone else's size is just very unhealthy. I am not arguing that obesity doesn't impact People's health.

I have another relative who got weight loss surgery and it's definitely improved the quality of her life and her mobility. But That was her choice. I didn't spend any mental energy deciding what she showed or should not be doing or what she should or should not be eating

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Anonymous wrote:At what age do you recommend refusing food? (Not dessert—proteins, main courses.) My child was malnourished as an infant. Insatiable once we met her. Should I have denied my 12 month old extra chicken and pear because her siblings would not have eaten so much and my friends’ kids did not? For the record, she wouldn’t eat what was in one hand until she had something in the other hand so she could be sure there was something more.
She is currently obese. Everyone judges me for it. So I’d like the honest answer of whether I failed in denying her seconds at 9 months? 2 years? What’s the magic age at which it’s ok for her to feel insecure because she’s afraid she won’t have enough food? Seriously—I think about it every day so I’d like the experts to tell me where I screwed up.

I think around K or 1st is when you can say: that’s enough food, dinner is over and if you’re still hungry you can have some carrot or celery sticks.

One thing to teach them is not to eat until their stomach is full because it takes a while to gauge fullness. So if you’ve eaten to the point of complete fullness then you start to feel overfull later on.

You also have to recognize their triggers. For instance if they are “bored” eaters then have a plan to play outside or walk immediately after dinner.

In your daughter’s case, since there is legitimate trauma to work through, perhaps therapy is in order.

Wow someone with some sense! That’s not what pp wants to hear though. Her daughter is obese and it’s no one’s fault and there is nothing anyone can do!

I was in target yesterday and I saw an obese woman and her equally obese 6-7 year old and this poor child was so large they were struggling to walk. I don’t understand how people can let that happen to their kids.

I’m the parent here. I never said no one’s at fault. My child has been in therapy and has had a nutritionist for many years. Both agree on not limiting nutritious food. We limit dessert and junk in a way parents of her skinny friends do not need to. But it’s always interesting to hear what the people who are judging her on the playground and in dance class think is the right answer based on their education and experience with childhood trauma.

I mean the answer was not to let her become obese in the first place. You are the parent. The only way a one year old can eat themselves into obesity is if the patents allow and enable it. But of course it is easier to let your toddler shovel endless amount of food down their gullet than dealing with them crying I guess!

Why are you equating obesity with “unhealthy?”

DP. Obese is never healthy. You know this, so why this mental gymnastics?