Thanks for sharing this. So it sounds like you had both academics and extracurriculars that you assisted with finding outside of BASIS. Gulp. I'm not sure I'm up to the task. |
| Sure. If I could back to 4th, we'd have stuck things out at our DCPS for 5th and applied to parochial middle schools. We'd have figured something else out for high school, tried for Walls, maybe moved to NoVa temporarily or asked for help from family to afford parochial high school. We got the college result we wanted, but at high cost in time, money and frustration. Our kid would've liked the chance to pursue serious ECs with classmates. |
This is the kind of thing that makes me so leery about BASIS. Yeah, it can get your kid through, but at what cost? I'd rather my kid go to a good college and not see education as traumatic (which I think will make them perform at a higher level) than eke into a great college on the back of 4-7 years of misery, anxiety and struggle. |
It really, really depends on the kid. For some, BASIS is perfect; for others, it isn't. My DD thrived at SH w/ her tight knit drama crew, an ability to ignore behavioral issues & the social skills to avoid problems, and good enough academics to have all the options for HS. BASIS would have drained her for likely the same outcome. My DS would have been constantly stressed out by classmates at SH, would have found the work too easy and likely didn't have the skills to make the team for his sport (at best, would ride the bench). On the other hand, DS finds BASIS academics easy (math is his thing, which is where many feel the pressure most), made his sports team with good playing time and has a very diverse crew of surprisingly similar friends. Same family; two very different kids who correct paths were totally different for likely similar college outcomes. |
This is basically the first reasonable thing I've read on this thread. As one of the people who routinely objects to BASIS, I endorse this version. But I don't think BASIS markets itself this way and I don't think most parents trying to get their kids in have such a nuanced view. |
If that's what you're looking for for your kid, there's no public or charter school in DC that's going to give them that, so you're going to be doing it regardless. But obviously you do not have to. |
As the parent of a BASIS 8th grader, most of the parents I know have this view. |
Really? All the BASIS parents I've ever known admit all the bad things, but always very confidently say that it's not a problem for THEIR kid. Almost none of them have had their kids graduate. The one who has had the experience where one graduated and one found happiness at another school, and the one who graduated concluded he could have achieved the same college result and been much happier by going elsewhere. |
NP, there are a number of posters on here with kids at the school who acknowledge weaknesses and strengths. Those I respect and not the boosters who are so defensive. |
Thank you for this! Agree that it is very reasonable and sane and actually helpful. For us (enrolled family with a very mathy 4th grade), it's comforting. |
I'm PP. Most of the parents I know take the school year by year, and see if the school continues to fit their child. A child can change a lot from 5th grade to 12th grade, and what works in younger years may not work in later years. Admittedly, this means that most of the parents I know have a Plan B -- even if this means going back to their non/Deal or Hardy MS IB and making it work with supplementation, camps, etc., or saving to ultimately pay for private HS. I don't know many who are forcing their kid to stay at BASIS if it's no longer a good fit. I do know many who ask their kid every year if they want to stay, and their kid says yes. |
| Taking middle and high school year by year is just too iffy and stressful for many of us. We reach a point where we’re open to school situation that’s a surer bet. My older kid is reserved, doesn’t make friends or manage transitions easily. Our family is burning out on pals and favorite teachers leaving for greener pastures. We’re also tired of the lonely hustle to identify, access and pay for quality ECs that line up with kids’ interests. BASIS is all about making do, which is tiring. |
| What a joke. BASIS is “perfect” for no student. Give us a break, enrichment is weak, teacher turnover remains stubbornly high for the location and demograhpic, the facilities are lousy and the admins are lazy jerks. I’ll buy BASIS is adequate or acceptable for many or even most who enroll, not more. |
Above sums it up very well. We are already tired of the supplementing outside of school with academics, sports, or EC in elementary. We want a middle and high school where our kid can get everything he needs above at school academically during the day and stay after school for the sports, clubs, EC. This would be a total game changer and huge increase in quality of life issues for not only us but our child. No school is perfect but the school choices and situation is so sub par and poor in DC. I love the city but we are seriously considering moving to burbs to get what we need. And before someone says families in the burbs don’t supplement academics or whatever, sure some helicopter parents may to get their child ahead but if in a good pyramid, you don’t need to and the classes can be at appropriate level where your child is. Our friends in burbs don’t supplement and their kids are happy, got well rounded middle/high school experience, and landed fine in college. |
Plenty of parents in the burbs and at private schools supplement. And you will probably have to supplement at most schools if you want to focus on some obscure language or arts area. And more kids means that some classes are harder to get into. Just because the class is offered doesn’t mean your kid is going to get in. |