Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:To accomodate early afternoon football game we went to a movie at 11a this morning. There is nothing in the house to eat for lunch and mom expects my teens (and husband) to wait until 4:30p to eat (she and my dad only eat two meals a day). No lunch. We stopped for take out on the way home from the movie. Now I'm getting the side eye from mom because I won't follow her plan. I told her she can serve dinner at 4:30p, but, now she is worried we won't eat enough and she'll have too much food left over. I can not deal with her old lady rigidity regarding food and meal times. Vent done.

This is what I come here to read. Legit.

I fought this battle with DW and the inlaws. Our infant, then toddler, then 3-6 year old normally ate three meals and snacks. When the inlaws are here, they want to eat at 5:30am for their breakfast, then starve themselves until happy hour, then dinner at 7. DW gives into this and I'm the one insisting on stopping for lunch (which then makes food issue FIL look at me like I'm a gluttonous fatso who must eat lunch). So fricking over this.

Ahhh my ILs are like this too. No lunch, then often a cheese board and crap tons of wine for dinner. For breakfast they each eat a bowl of Fiber One and half a banana. Sometimes at dinner they will make spaghetti noodles with jarred sauce poured over in a nod to the caloric needs of our children. If anyone goes in the kitchen after dinner, they are on red alert. At meals, MIL watches each serving we take and each bite. She pushes her food around before taking a bite about every 5 minutes during a meal. She brags about skipping meals, especially dinner. She is 5'2" and weighs 95 pounds. Other people's weight, especially extended family members, is a frequent topic. There is a greatest hits of weight related brags: left hospital when having DH same weight as when she got pregnant, shops in the kids section, can't find clothes small enough, why are all the clothes at Target so big. "That is just a big big woman" stated often about strangers, neighbors and family members. OK readers, hope these true stories are hitting the spot!

But it’s like none of these women have ever worked out or strength trained in their life. Don’t they understand that skinny fat is not attractive at all?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To accomodate early afternoon football game we went to a movie at 11a this morning. There is nothing in the house to eat for lunch and mom expects my teens (and husband) to wait until 4:30p to eat (she and my dad only eat two meals a day). No lunch. We stopped for take out on the way home from the movie. Now I'm getting the side eye from mom because I won't follow her plan. I told her she can serve dinner at 4:30p, but, now she is worried we won't eat enough and she'll have too much food left over. I can not deal with her old lady rigidity regarding food and meal times. Vent done.

This is what I come here to read. Legit.

I fought this battle with DW and the inlaws. Our infant, then toddler, then 3-6 year old normally ate three meals and snacks. When the inlaws are here, they want to eat at 5:30am for their breakfast, then starve themselves until happy hour, then dinner at 7. DW gives into this and I'm the one insisting on stopping for lunch (which then makes food issue FIL look at me like I'm a gluttonous fatso who must eat lunch). So fricking over this.

Ahhh my ILs are like this too. No lunch, then often a cheese board and crap tons of wine for dinner. For breakfast they each eat a bowl of Fiber One and half a banana. Sometimes at dinner they will make spaghetti noodles with jarred sauce poured over in a nod to the caloric needs of our children. If anyone goes in the kitchen after dinner, they are on red alert. At meals, MIL watches each serving we take and each bite. She pushes her food around before taking a bite about every 5 minutes during a meal. She brags about skipping meals, especially dinner. She is 5'2" and weighs 95 pounds. Other people's weight, especially extended family members, is a frequent topic. There is a greatest hits of weight related brags: left hospital when having DH same weight as when she got pregnant, shops in the kids section, can't find clothes small enough, why are all the clothes at Target so big. "That is just a big big woman" stated often about strangers, neighbors and family members. OK readers, hope these true stories are hitting the spot!

But it’s like none of these women have ever worked out or strength trained in their life. Don’t they understand that skinny fat is not attractive at all?

These women are 70+ years old! Attractiveness, I’m hoping (???) isn’t the goal anymore! Just feeling good, longevity, energy. But my mom is the same way. So focused on being thin. Always has been . But now she is 80 and has osteoporosis so “being thin” in the complete absence of high impact / strength type workouts like jogging (ever, in life ) or weight lifting (ever, in life) means she has broken both hips in the past 7 years from what should have been silly falls

[Anonymous]

Being thin is their entire identity, their seminal accomplishment and raison d’être. It is a sad and insidious alliance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.

My brother married into this exact family. They literally bring their own damn Tupperware to holiday dinners.

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Anonymous wrote:My in laws insist every year on using 40 year old stretched out and threadbare Star Wars and Sesame Street sheets on the 24” tall air mattresses they bought for our kids and they always end up all bunched up by morning. We’ve tried buying them new sheets before we arrive and they always return them before we arrive. Last year we bought and pre-washed two sets of new sheets made for deep mattresses and brought them with us in a checked bag. We made the beds ourselves before my father in law had a chance to do it himself so they had to keep the sheets.

This year? The beds were pre-made with the Star Wars and Sesame Street sheets and the new sheets are nowhere to be found. WTAF???

Maybe the sheets need to “accidentally rip” due to their old age.

I’m dying to know where the sheets actually are! Can you check the linen closet?

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Anonymous wrote:PSA: gift bags are part of the gift. It’s super rude to ask for them back and to sort gift bags according to giver at the end of gift opening so that you can take home the bags you brought gifts in.

I can’t stop laughing—I’d love to see this 🤣🤣

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Anonymous wrote:Went to my MIL house. Was there for a day before my SIL told us that her son had the stomach flu just the day before. Her other son got it just the day after. I have an infant. My husband, my baby, and I all caught it and started symptoms as soon as we got home.

I'm so sorry, OP. Your SIL is just awful. It’s dangerous for an infant to have a stomach virus. Why couldn’t she just stay home?

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Anonymous wrote:Petty vent. For 20 plus years SIL tries to one up us and any interest we or the kids have suddenly become her interests so she can compete. Last night we announced an important change we are making that requires a financial investment that we’ve been talking about for 20 years. It’s very specific. SIL’s response - OH. DH and I are going to do that too, just bigger and better. Then she spent the rest of the conversation talking about herself. All from a woman who has never worked a day in 20 years. Whatever.

2nd house?

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Anonymous wrote:To accomodate early afternoon football game we went to a movie at 11a this morning. There is nothing in the house to eat for lunch and mom expects my teens (and husband) to wait until 4:30p to eat (she and my dad only eat two meals a day). No lunch. We stopped for take out on the way home from the movie. Now I'm getting the side eye from mom because I won't follow her plan. I told her she can serve dinner at 4:30p, but, now she is worried we won't eat enough and she'll have too much food left over. I can not deal with her old lady rigidity regarding food and meal times. Vent done.

This is what I come here to read. Legit.

I fought this battle with DW and the inlaws. Our infant, then toddler, then 3-6 year old normally ate three meals and snacks. When the inlaws are here, they want to eat at 5:30am for their breakfast, then starve themselves until happy hour, then dinner at 7. DW gives into this and I'm the one insisting on stopping for lunch (which then makes food issue FIL look at me like I'm a gluttonous fatso who must eat lunch). So fricking over this.

Ahhh my ILs are like this too. No lunch, then often a cheese board and crap tons of wine for dinner. For breakfast they each eat a bowl of Fiber One and half a banana. Sometimes at dinner they will make spaghetti noodles with jarred sauce poured over in a nod to the caloric needs of our children. If anyone goes in the kitchen after dinner, they are on red alert. At meals, MIL watches each serving we take and each bite. She pushes her food around before taking a bite about every 5 minutes during a meal. She brags about skipping meals, especially dinner. She is 5'2" and weighs 95 pounds. Other people's weight, especially extended family members, is a frequent topic. There is a greatest hits of weight related brags: left hospital when having DH same weight as when she got pregnant, shops in the kids section, can't find clothes small enough, why are all the clothes at Target so big. "That is just a big big woman" stated often about strangers, neighbors and family members. OK readers, hope these true stories are hitting the spot!

But it’s like none of these women have ever worked out or strength trained in their life. Don’t they understand that skinny fat is not attractive at all?

For that demographic, the flat ass is goals. Concave ass and baggy pants even better. They cannot process that curves and booty are in.

My MIL: "we eat so much food when we visit you. I'll be skipping dinner for at least a week after this". True story.

Oh don't forget they drink only weak pale church coffee with skim. PP with the MIL who puts whipped cream in her coffee, your MIL is cool and living her best life instead of denying herself any pleasure for decades, then being surprised that no one cares about her weight but her.

[Anonymous]

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Being thin is their entire identity, their seminal accomplishment and raison d’être. It is a sad and insidious alliance.

Yes. Their greatest achievement!

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL keeps the house hot AF, year round and I’m going through menopause. It’s also dusty so I’m hot and sneezing. I hate staying there but she insists.

If you’re old enough for menopause, you get to “insist,” too! Hotel.

This forum is not just comprised of 20 and 30 year olds you know. I’m in my 40’s and going through early menopause if you must know.

I musn’t know. No one needs to know. And yet it’s like every menopausal woman on this forum needs to sprinkle it in to every topic. If you want to discuss it, go to Midlife or Health.

GAFB, get off DCUM if you can't handle hearing about something that impacts every woman at some point, you troll

+100. What a misogynistic azz pp is.

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Anonymous wrote:I made Xmas breakfast for the family, and a full Xmas dinner.
Not a thank you from dh.
Not a “yum, that was good”
Not an offer to clean a plate or wipe a table.
I’m not saying I need a medal, but I feel like the help.
Hell, a paid chef would’ve probably gotten a thank you and compliments.
It makes me feel very sad to feel so unseen and unappreciated by my spouse.

I know why your husband didn't say anything, he's not 5 and doesn't describe things as yummy.

If only there were other ways he could have expressed appreciation — like, oh, say maybe a “thank you.”

Oh, wait. Good news! There are!

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Anonymous wrote:I got presents for my step brother’s wife and her nieces and nephews and no one got anything for my young son.

Unnecessary gifting. Kids get enough crap. Just stop. Really.

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.

+100

Never in my life have I ever experienced what I've read about here. I've spent holidays with different members of my extended family and I've never seen people show up with their own tupperware and just start hauling off stuff. Never.

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We live near my mother in law (my SIL and niece live with her). Every year they insist we come over on Christmas for brunch at ten but we never sit down to eat until noon and we can't open gifts until after brunch. I'm stuck playing defense on my kids to not open gifts while trying to help get brunch ready. We tried feeding my kids a light breakfast not coming over until 11:30 this year but got angry phone calls about how brunch was ready and they were waiting for us. We got there and there was a plate of bacon ready to go and nothing else, still had to wait until noon to eat. I feel like Charlie Brown and the football.