Marital vent: stop eating the Babybels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These posts are so weird. The food in our house is for anyone who wants it. If lots of people like it, we buy more. If you can’t afford babybel cheese for your husband, you can’t afford it for the kid. Yes he is picky and skinny, I got that. I’m sure he doesn’t subsist on babybel alone.

These posts are not weird to me!
Seems to be a common theme.

As a mother, "save" things for kids to eat- to the detriment of my own health. Save them the fruit, etc. Do we have plenty of money for all the fruit? Yes we do. It's just the cycle of purchasing and spoiling, I tend to save the good stuff for the kids.

My husband will also gorge on whatever he fancies/ is easiest/ etc. no matter how much other food we have.

The answer isn't to always "buy more". Sometimes the answer is that an item is a finite resource (no matter how much money you have!) and should be designated and rationed a certain way. There's no need for an adult or a kid to pig out on anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hide them!! Place the extra Baby Bells in a cleaned cottage cheese container or similar. No man is actually going to dig around in closed containers in the refrigerator.

This is so true!! Good suggestion

[Anonymous]

How many is he eating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many is he eating?

+1, Food is available to everyone in the house but when I wake up at 6 am to discover DH went on an eating binge and ate ALL the cereal, 10 little bags of chips and a full package of cheese overnight and I'm struggling to find things to pack lunches and make a quick breakfast then I'm pissed. We can afford it and he says he'll buy more but he won't get out of bed at 6 am for a store run so I'm stuck on those mornings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These posts are so weird. The food in our house is for anyone who wants it. If lots of people like it, we buy more. If you can’t afford babybel cheese for your husband, you can’t afford it for the kid. Yes he is picky and skinny, I got that. I’m sure he doesn’t subsist on babybel alone.

These posts are not weird to me!
Seems to be a common theme.

As a mother, "save" things for kids to eat- to the detriment of my own health. Save them the fruit, etc. Do we have plenty of money for all the fruit? Yes we do. It's just the cycle of purchasing and spoiling, I tend to save the good stuff for the kids.

My husband will also gorge on whatever he fancies/ is easiest/ etc. no matter how much other food we have.

The answer isn't to always "buy more". Sometimes the answer is that an item is a finite resource (no matter how much money you have!) and should be designated and rationed a certain way. There's no need for an adult or a kid to pig out on anything.

DP. I agree.
I have a teenage boy who loves fresh fruit. But he is allowed a finite amount. I’m not going to buy 20lbs of cuties every week in the winter or 60lbs of peaches every week in the summer so that he can have as much as he wants and still leave some for the rest of the family. We can afford it, but it would be crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These posts are so weird. The food in our house is for anyone who wants it. If lots of people like it, we buy more. If you can’t afford babybel cheese for your husband, you can’t afford it for the kid. Yes he is picky and skinny, I got that. I’m sure he doesn’t subsist on babybel alone.

These posts are not weird to me!
Seems to be a common theme.

As a mother, "save" things for kids to eat- to the detriment of my own health. Save them the fruit, etc. Do we have plenty of money for all the fruit? Yes we do. It's just the cycle of purchasing and spoiling, I tend to save the good stuff for the kids.

My husband will also gorge on whatever he fancies/ is easiest/ etc. no matter how much other food we have.

The answer isn't to always "buy more". Sometimes the answer is that an item is a finite resource (no matter how much money you have!) and should be designated and rationed a certain way. There's no need for an adult or a kid to pig out on anything.

DP. I agree.
I have a teenage boy who loves fresh fruit. But he is allowed a finite amount. I’m not going to buy 20lbs of cuties every week in the winter or 60lbs of peaches every week in the summer so that he can have as much as he wants and still leave some for the rest of the family. We can afford it, but it would be crazy.

+1 Why would anyone encourage mindless consumption?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These posts are so weird. The food in our house is for anyone who wants it. If lots of people like it, we buy more. If you can’t afford babybel cheese for your husband, you can’t afford it for the kid. Yes he is picky and skinny, I got that. I’m sure he doesn’t subsist on babybel alone.

These posts are not weird to me!
Seems to be a common theme.

As a mother, "save" things for kids to eat- to the detriment of my own health. Save them the fruit, etc. Do we have plenty of money for all the fruit? Yes we do. It's just the cycle of purchasing and spoiling, I tend to save the good stuff for the kids.

My husband will also gorge on whatever he fancies/ is easiest/ etc. no matter how much other food we have.

The answer isn't to always "buy more". Sometimes the answer is that an item is a finite resource (no matter how much money you have!) and should be designated and rationed a certain way. There's no need for an adult or a kid to pig out on anything.

DP. I agree.
I have a teenage boy who loves fresh fruit. But he is allowed a finite amount. I’m not going to buy 20lbs of cuties every week in the winter or 60lbs of peaches every week in the summer so that he can have as much as he wants and still leave some for the rest of the family. We can afford it, but it would be crazy.

+1 Why would anyone encourage mindless consumption?

I don't it's pretty sad for a mom to not eat the raspberries because she's saving them for the kids. I grew up around plenty of women who skipped meals because there was only enough for the kids, but why stay in that mindset if you have enough money for raspberries for all. Too many women are constantly sacrificing in these small ways without being aware or considering why they act this way.

[Anonymous]

I’m weary of buying in bulk (and not having components for kid lunch) because he can’t look up one shelf.

[Anonymous]

They tend to be cheaper at Trader Joe’s. Sometimes other stores have them on sale two for $5 or something. Watch for that and stick up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many is he eating?

+1, Food is available to everyone in the house but when I wake up at 6 am to discover DH went on an eating binge and ate ALL the cereal, 10 little bags of chips and a full package of cheese overnight and I'm struggling to find things to pack lunches and make a quick breakfast then I'm pissed. We can afford it and he says he'll buy more but he won't get out of bed at 6 am for a store run so I'm stuck on those mornings.

I would always make the kids' lunches the night before, last thing before I went to bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These posts are so weird. The food in our house is for anyone who wants it. If lots of people like it, we buy more. If you can’t afford babybel cheese for your husband, you can’t afford it for the kid. Yes he is picky and skinny, I got that. I’m sure he doesn’t subsist on babybel alone.

These posts are not weird to me!
Seems to be a common theme.

As a mother, "save" things for kids to eat- to the detriment of my own health. Save them the fruit, etc. Do we have plenty of money for all the fruit? Yes we do. It's just the cycle of purchasing and spoiling, I tend to save the good stuff for the kids.

My husband will also gorge on whatever he fancies/ is easiest/ etc. no matter how much other food we have.

The answer isn't to always "buy more". Sometimes the answer is that an item is a finite resource (no matter how much money you have!) and should be designated and rationed a certain way. There's no need for an adult or a kid to pig out on anything.

Same in our house. He’ll grab whatever is in front of him that requires the least amount of effort/thought/work.

Not OP, but if I asked my husband, “Do you want babybel cheese from the store?” he’d say no. But if it’s in the house, he’ll eat it. It’s not about hunger/cravings. It’s about laziness. (Again, just speaking about my husband, no one else’s.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many is he eating?

+1, Food is available to everyone in the house but when I wake up at 6 am to discover DH went on an eating binge and ate ALL the cereal, 10 little bags of chips and a full package of cheese overnight and I'm struggling to find things to pack lunches and make a quick breakfast then I'm pissed. We can afford it and he says he'll buy more but he won't get out of bed at 6 am for a store run so I'm stuck on those mornings.

I would always make the kids' lunches the night before, last thing before I went to bed.

NP. Well that’s nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These posts are so weird. The food in our house is for anyone who wants it. If lots of people like it, we buy more. If you can’t afford babybel cheese for your husband, you can’t afford it for the kid. Yes he is picky and skinny, I got that. I’m sure he doesn’t subsist on babybel alone.

These posts are not weird to me!
Seems to be a common theme.

As a mother, "save" things for kids to eat- to the detriment of my own health. Save them the fruit, etc. Do we have plenty of money for all the fruit? Yes we do. It's just the cycle of purchasing and spoiling, I tend to save the good stuff for the kids.

My husband will also gorge on whatever he fancies/ is easiest/ etc. no matter how much other food we have.

The answer isn't to always "buy more". Sometimes the answer is that an item is a finite resource (no matter how much money you have!) and should be designated and rationed a certain way. There's no need for an adult or a kid to pig out on anything.

Same in our house. He’ll grab whatever is in front of him that requires the least amount of effort/thought/work.

Not OP, but if I asked my husband, “Do you want babybel cheese from the store?” he’d say no. But if it’s in the house, he’ll eat it. It’s not about hunger/cravings. It’s about laziness. (Again, just speaking about my husband, no one else’s.)

YES

[Anonymous]

OP - I empathize. My DH eats whatever he sees first that looks good - not searching for a particular treat typically - and he would be justifiably offended if I suggested that any food he likes was "off limits" because it was only for the kids, etc. I have tried asking if I should by extra, delicately pointing out that we need easy snack foods for kid lunches, etc - but the only thing that works is hiding the food - in the vegetable crisper, the pantry shelf for tinfoil, etc. And I make sure that when I do shop, or give him the shopping list, I include plenty of stuff he likes to snack on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many is he eating?

+1, Food is available to everyone in the house but when I wake up at 6 am to discover DH went on an eating binge and ate ALL the cereal, 10 little bags of chips and a full package of cheese overnight and I'm struggling to find things to pack lunches and make a quick breakfast then I'm pissed. We can afford it and he says he'll buy more but he won't get out of bed at 6 am for a store run so I'm stuck on those mornings.

Yeah, this is correct. It is not at all unreasonable to expect the adults in the house to understand that some things are purchased for school lunches, and to make sure they leave enough for that purpose. OP can buy 8 packs of cheese - and it doesn't matter - but when there's none left to pack in a lunch, that's unreasonable.