What if you can't afford private school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you really think your kids will forever be left behind based on this past year, you need to work on your own irrational anxiety more than worrying about your kids.

DCUM's gotta DCUM.

You mean provide frank, but useful advice? Does the inanity of OP's post deserve more?

No, actually, I mean, respond by telling the PP or OP that the real problem is their own personal failings.

Private schools being open, while public schools are doing distance learning, is another aspect of the "them that has, gets" inequity that's built into American society. That's just a fact.

“Them that has gets”. Wrong. We’ve prioritized Catholic education for our children their entire life and planned and made sacrifices accordingly. For members of the parish, Catholic education is very reasonable from a tuition standpoint. For parish families experiencing financial difficulties, arrangements can be made to further reduce the cost of tuition.

so you're saying that OP was short sighted by not converting to catholicism?

DP, but members of the parish have been supporting the school for years through regular tithing. Makes sense for a church to offer lower tuition to its own members. At the catholic ES near us, it’s not even that big of a difference- $8k vs. $10k per year. As another PP said, financial aid is generally available to non-members as well. The only reason Catholic schools are so appealing to non-Catholics right now is because they are in person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids went to private on 68% financial aid. Stop complaining you can’t afford.

That's still a lot of money and you are clearly comfortable with multiple kids even with aid.

If you can’t afford anything other than a full ride, then accept it and move on. Stewing will just make it worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you really think your kids will forever be left behind based on this past year, you need to work on your own irrational anxiety more than worrying about your kids.

DCUM's gotta DCUM.

You mean provide frank, but useful advice? Does the inanity of OP's post deserve more?

No, actually, I mean, respond by telling the PP or OP that the real problem is their own personal failings.

Private schools being open, while public schools are doing distance learning, is another aspect of the "them that has, gets" inequity that's built into American society. That's just a fact.

“Them that has gets”. Wrong. We’ve prioritized Catholic education for our children their entire life and planned and made sacrifices accordingly. For members of the parish, Catholic education is very reasonable from a tuition standpoint. For parish families experiencing financial difficulties, arrangements can be made to further reduce the cost of tuition.

so you're saying that OP was short sighted by not converting to catholicism?

This.
We are atheists. And immigrants. Are our children forever screwed due to inadequacies of American public education?

[Anonymous]

OP, you have every right to complain. DL is tough on us all. WE all need an outlet. Yes, it sucks that we can't all go private but for some there are supplemental activities which are in reach. I've got math tutors for my kids on Mondays via Zoom which has been massively helpful. yes, the kids that do that are older than yours but what I spend on that monthly doesn't equal private tuition. I also have the kids write daily journals that I correct. The big kids help my youngest (6) with her reading and writing in the evening. It's not perfect but it's working.

And our 6 yr old equally hates DL. I get it. I feel bad for her but there's really not much we can do right now. I applied for private but likely cannot send all of them so we may just send the oldest. 6 yr old will have to ride out DL as long as it lasts. Sucks but we're all in this crap together. Get as much outside play as you can. That's all I got.

[Anonymous]

I understand OP. But be realistic, its not going to take ‘forever’ to catch up. And you should not focus on the ‘spots’ taken away by private school kids. You are creating drama in your life by focusing on these things. I have a 6 year old too. He hates DL but I supplement and I know he will be fine as long as the people around him are happy and content. This is a terrible situation for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:If you really think your kids will forever be left behind based on this past year, you need to work on your own irrational anxiety more than worrying about your kids.

DCUM's gotta DCUM.

You mean provide frank, but useful advice? Does the inanity of OP's post deserve more?

No, actually, I mean, respond by telling the PP or OP that the real problem is their own personal failings.

Private schools being open, while public schools are doing distance learning, is another aspect of the "them that has, gets" inequity that's built into American society. That's just a fact.

“Them that has gets”. Wrong. We’ve prioritized Catholic education for our children their entire life and planned and made sacrifices accordingly. For members of the parish, Catholic education is very reasonable from a tuition standpoint. For parish families experiencing financial difficulties, arrangements can be made to further reduce the cost of tuition.

so you're saying that OP was short sighted by not converting to catholicism?

This.
We are atheists. And immigrants. Are our children forever screwed due to inadequacies of American public education?

Well if you are an atheist then you probably wouldn’t like a Catholic education anyway. Plenty of non religious privates out there but of course they are more expensive than parochial schools.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you really think your kids will forever be left behind based on this past year, you need to work on your own irrational anxiety more than worrying about your kids.

DCUM's gotta DCUM.

You mean provide frank, but useful advice? Does the inanity of OP's post deserve more?

No, actually, I mean, respond by telling the PP or OP that the real problem is their own personal failings.

Private schools being open, while public schools are doing distance learning, is another aspect of the "them that has, gets" inequity that's built into American society. That's just a fact.

“Them that has gets”. Wrong. We’ve prioritized Catholic education for our children their entire life and planned and made sacrifices accordingly. For members of the parish, Catholic education is very reasonable from a tuition standpoint. For parish families experiencing financial difficulties, arrangements can be made to further reduce the cost of tuition.

so you're saying that OP was short sighted by not converting to catholicism?

This.
We are atheists. And immigrants. Are our children forever screwed due to inadequacies of American public education?

Go to dollar tree and get your kid a few workbooks. Done.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I went to public schools (before college) and are children of immigrants. We both have graduate, ivy league degrees. Our kids are going to private school!

[Anonymous]

OP here. Where did I stomp like a whiny baby? I think you are projecting a lot on a total stranger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you really think your kids will forever be left behind based on this past year, you need to work on your own irrational anxiety more than worrying about your kids.

Agreed this is ridiculous and histrionic. If you're that concerned about your kid being years behind their peers I would invest in a tutor since that's cheaper than private school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids went to private on 68% financial aid. Stop complaining you can’t afford.

That's still a lot of money and you are clearly comfortable with multiple kids even with aid.

If you say you can’t afford it you still apply and see what you get. You don’t stomp like a whiny baby. Our schools over 30% get between 10-95% FA.

Sorry, my response was meant to be to this person.

[Anonymous]

My kid hates distance learning and is miserable but she is still learning a lot. I guess I have a really brilliant kid

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Where did I stomp like a whiny baby? I think you are projecting a lot on a total stranger.

Don't let them get you down, OP. All reasonable people understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I went to public schools (before college) and are children of immigrants. We both have graduate, ivy league degrees. Our kids are going to private school!

And? What’s your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the responses and advice.

Daughter is 6, almost 7. She hates school so much that I doubt a tutor or supplementing will help more than harm. I can barely get her to engage during school hours. She’s generally not happy but we try to have family fun when we can. I will be sending her to summer camp, so she’ll get some socializing and fun there, hopefully. So that’s something to look forward to? If school doesn’t open in the fall I will look into a local pod or something.

Oh, FFS. You wrote, "It will take years to catch up from this catastrophe. But private school kids don't have to deal with any of this. One day my child will have to compete with them for spots at schools, for jobs, etc."

And she's 6? Excuse me, almost 7?

You need to calm the eff down. You're seriously worried that in 15 years, your kid will lose out on a job to some private school kid because she had in-person school in first grade?

Does it suck? Yes. Is it a crisis that will take your kid years to dig her way out of? No, it isn't.

And that's not even mentioning that you aren't trying to supplement during this time. So you think it's a crisis that will affect your kid for decades, but can't be bothered to try to do anything about it? Got it.