What if you can't afford private school?
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Anonymous
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This whole situation makes me so angry. Because I can't afford private school, my child is getting left behind, along with all the other public school children. My DD's teacher is great and doing her best but DD still cries every day because she hates DL. And she's not retaining any of the information being taught online. It will take years to catch up from this catastrophe. But private school kids don't have to deal with any of this. One day my child will have to compete with them for spots at schools, for jobs, etc. How is this a fair system?
P.S. If someone says "just cut the coffee/gym/cable out of your life, it's easy to find a random $25,000 in your budget" I'm going to have an aneurysm. Ok, rant over. |
Anonymous
| If you really think your kids will forever be left behind based on this past year, you need to work on your own irrational anxiety more than worrying about your kids. |
Anonymous
DCUM's gotta DCUM. |
Anonymous
You mean provide frank, but useful advice? Does the inanity of OP's post deserve more? |
Anonymous
| I think private school kids make up a pretty small percentage of the population... I wouldn't worry about comparing my kids to them. |
Anonymous
| You figure out why she can't do it? Plenty of kids are doing it very well. I'm not saying this to be sparky,. Maybe she needs more brain breaks. Maybe she needs supplementary help from the new tutoring service. Maybr she has adhd, ?? Find the cause. |
Anonymous
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OP, what makes you think private school kids are immune to this? Ours are JUST - as in, the last couple of weeks, getting back into the classroom after a fall of disappointing DL.
I agree that the whole thing is a disaster and that it will be years before we dig our way out of this mess we have allowed to be inflicted on our kids. Some private schools may be marginally better, but not to the degree that you are imagining. |
Anonymous
It’s more like clueless, head-in-the-sand advice. |
Anonymous
I'm more worried about wokeness infecting MCPS. Between the prospect of not even going back in the fall and what they're bringing into the schools, we're probably headed private next year. |
Anonymous
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OP, here is my respectful suggestion based more than a decade of parenting experience and some difficult lessons learned. The best way to be happy is to adjust your mindset away from getting ahead or getting left behind. Child development is no linear and there are different ways to get ahead or to be left behind. Sure, right now it is difficult to focus on the positive and to worry about what they are missing. Despite the advice I'm giving you, I worry constantly that my three teenager who are generally happy and doing well in school are missing out on social interaction that is going to hurt them if the work ever returns to normal.
I also am a person who tends to feel like a victim when I can't control things. For people like me, the pandemic is a nightmare. For your own good and the good of your kids, let go of your anger, let go of what you can't control, and focus on even the small positives of the pandemic. Are your kids happy? Do you do things together as a family? Are they learning how to cook or reading, or even just learning how to cope with boring DL? If they are, don't worry about getting left behind. In truth, things aren't perfect at private schools either. There are advantages with in person learning, but everyone is compromising during this difficult time. It is so much easier said than done, but ask yourself, "If the pandemic ends tomorrow, what will I miss?" Then try to focus on those things, the small benefits of being home, that won't last forever. Do your best, but try to let the anger go. |
Anonymous
It seems like you're well on your way already. OP, how old is your kid? If she's young enough that she cries every day, she's probably young enough that your fears that "It will take years to catch up from this catastrophe," are wildly overblown. |
Anonymous
No, actually, I mean, respond by telling the PP or OP that the real problem is their own personal failings. Private schools being open, while public schools are doing distance learning, is another aspect of the "them that has, gets" inequity that's built into American society. That's just a fact. |
Anonymous
I must have missed the part where all the 'have nots' are having aneurysms as the natural and logical consequence of what is occurring. Maybe a hug from Bernie would help you and OP. |
Anonymous
Who peed in your Cheerios this morning? |
Anonymous
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OP, yes, you are correct. Most can’t afford private school, and those who have to stay in public school will be at a disadvantage. This is how:
-they are stuck with a curriculum that is slow, boring, tedious and that imparts very little knowledge or content until middle school. -they are stuck with schools that have reduced instructional time -they are stuck with schools that have low expectations for kids -they are stuck with schools that have too many kids in the class -they are stuck with schools that have too many bad teachers -they are stuck with schools that have administrators who forgot their primary mission is to educate children People don’t realize how much better private schools are at educating kids until they make the change themselves. |