This must be a joke? How old are your kids? If they’re not toddlers then they’re old enough to make you something. You need to talk to your family. This isn’t right as far as how you’re treated and this isn’t right as far as how your kids are learning to treat a family’s Mom. |
Oh no! You're the real life version of this! I'm so sorry.
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They are 3 and 5 |
Don't accept it. No one gets gifts unless you do. If dh doesn't like doing gifts, don't give him any. |
This is on your DH, with those ages. Why didn’t he think of you at all? |
I wish I knew. |
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The holidays aren’t over until your mom has explained her suicide plan to you because covid is just so terrible (but she doesn’t even care if she catches it anymore because life is too hard.)
Yep. We are that family. |
Except that’s not me! -op |
Whatever! -op MERRY CHRISTMAS MISERABLE PEOPLE! |
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Well, this is from my family’s Zoom Christmas, so perhaps less contentious:
This will sound weird but my sister drives me up the wall talking about their charitable giving. It’s wonderful they donate money but she goes on and on about it, and then my mom goes on and on about how generous my sister and her family are. And then my mom talks about their charitable giving. Meanwhile, my brothers and I just say “That’s great, it’s really wonderful what you all are doing” but we don’t talk about our giving. Not because we don’t do it but because we think it’s weird and tacky to brag to your family about it during our Christmas zoom call, awaiting accolades. That’s not why we give to charity. It’s like this every year. This year my dad asked what charity my daughter gave to this year and I said, well, she’s theee and doesn’t really get it but we bought a gift for her school’s angel tree and she helped me pick it out. Then my dad scolded me for not sufficiently encouraging her to be giving. Again, she’s three. Anyway, I feel guilty complaining about this but it really exhausts me and always leaves me feeling weird and somehow guilty. Oh, and in case you were wondering: yes, we were raised Catholic! Merry Christmas! |
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My mom has been staying with us for 2 months. I made a menu for tonight, and she added a few dishes she didn’t like the way I prepared at Thanksgiving so she could do them “her way.” Like I put Orange zest in the cranberries then, and now she is making cranberries for our steak dinner with just plain sugar and water. UGH. Plus I need the kitchen space and she makes such a mess cooking instead of my clean up as I go method. Drives me insane.
She also gave me only cleaning supplies for Christmas. If she thinks the house is so dirty why can’t she lift a finger to clean up all her messes? SIGH. |
Nope, we're cozy in out own homes with our immediate family. You're the one so miserable you tried to kick up a petty thread in a year people can't be together, lost loved ones, lost jobs, and saw their communities hurting. You chose to travel, you chose to see your ILs...then you complain about your own choices? Girl, bye. |
Don’t those things happen every year? |
+ 1. |
| My husband is in quarantine because a co worker traveled out of the country and came to the office to spread COVID. Two people so far have it. I worry about him catching it. |