Help! Regretting TTC

[Anonymous]

Just wanted to say I am thinking about you mamas in this situation. May you listen to your heart and trust your gut.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I thought the morning after pill worked until implantation? I would check with your doctor/pharmacist, but I think you can still take it.

The morning after pill only prevents ovulation

No the morning after pill can also prevent implantation.

I can attest - the morning after pill does not work if you've ovulated. Maybe for some people, but not for me. Then again I'm hyper fertile. I've not actually had to try to have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought the morning after pill worked until implantation? I would check with your doctor/pharmacist, but I think you can still take it.

The morning after pill only prevents ovulation

No the morning after pill can also prevent implantation.

I can attest - the morning after pill does not work if you've ovulated. Maybe for some people, but not for me. Then again I'm hyper fertile. I've not actually had to try to have children.

There is no such thing as hyper fertile. You either ovulate or you don't. And I wouldn't brag about not being able to use birth control effectively.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for your insight. I am so conflicted but this is helping me process. Right now protecting my kids is resonating the most with me. I have only talked to one friend about this. She doesn’t understand why I wasn’t having these feelings before because I have known these things about my husband/marriage. The only thing I can think of is it’s the difference between my heart and my head. I feel so irresponsible and lost.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. The fact that you are struggling so much to make a decisions shows just how much you care about your family. I am hoping for 3, but I've heard that going from 2 to 3 can be quite challenging and even more so with a spouse who is unreliable. A spouse with substance abuse issues is serious and I hope that he gets help in order to be a good parent.

Going from 2 to 3 is very hard. You are outnumbered- going out in public was challenging! We had to buy a new vehicle b.c we only had two sedans. I had to cut way back on work because my pay wouldn't cover the childcare. And the world is just set up for a family of 4 not 5.

I'm very very happy that we have our littlest but I'm not going to lie it was hard at the beginning. And my DH is a very attentive father and supportive husband with zero mental health issues and it was still a huge strain.