Parents not sending kids to daycare/preschool...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s 100% health. My mom has offered to pay for everything if only we would pretty-please send Larlo to preschool. He’s still staying home. I am pretty upset, but COVID looks miserable.

Why does your mom want your son to go to preschool so badly?

[Anonymous]

It was safety for us - we wanted the kids to see grandparents this summer and the only way to do that was to isolate. We just started our preschooler back in school, we'll take her out again if we have plans to see the grandparents in the fall.

[Anonymous]

We are paying more for the nanny than the preschool tuition, so it was not money driven. We are worried about the novel virus and the potential for lung damage even if the symptoms are mild. I hope I made the wrong decision

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of you talking about saving money, are you not having to continue payments to hold your spot, or have you completely withdrawn from daycare, assuming that you will have no trouble enrolling when necessary?
After 4 months at home with us, our children are back at daycare part-time, because we need the childcare to cover shifting demands with work. But we had to pay to hold those spots. I didn't want to just roll the dice and assume I could find a quality daycare with availability for both a newborn and an infant when the time came.

They shut down the whole childcare center and furloughed all the staff. You didn’t have to pay to keep your spot, but you could choose to donate to an employee fund.

They are re-opening in September but it’s a new enrollment process, so we chose not to enroll for now. We may not have a spot once we decide things are safe enough, but our jobs seem to be pretty understanding at this point. We are saving $3600/month. That is the price of my sanity I suppose...

[Anonymous]

Purely safety reasons. I can’t justify sending my 2 1/2 year old to preschool when I stay at home, and her older siblings will be home doing DL. . I don’t think it’s worth the risk of exposure for a my kid to attend preschool when they are only 2 1/2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is partly the money. I didn’t send my 3 and 4 year olds back because we can both work from home and manage them, we are saving money, and I’m not interested in socially distant daycare. I also didn’t love their preschool to begin with, so this was a good excuse to leave.

Same. We couldn’t work from home before but can now. We’re managing, the kids seem fine. Why not throw that money in their 529s instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was safety for us - we wanted the kids to see grandparents this summer and the only way to do that was to isolate. We just started our preschooler back in school, we'll take her out again if we have plans to see the grandparents in the fall.

If you’re keeping them home two weeks every time you want to see the grandparents, why bother sending at all? Seems like you could just keep them home 100% of the time at that point. Then you could see the grandparents even more.

[Anonymous]

It's mostly a safety question.

The only families willing to take the risks of in-person school are either desperate for childcare, desperate to have their kids out of their hair, or ignorant of the risks.

Regarding money, there are families who have lost jobs, or who telework and may prefer to save money on preschool, of course.

[Anonymous]

Yes taking him out of daycare I’m saving 10k this summer
However, not putting him in at the cost of catching covid

Saving $ seems to be the plus but not the deciding factor

[Anonymous]

Sigh...we're not saving anything. Have to pay full freight to keep our spot. Considering whether to give up and let it go, but it would be hard to get back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's mostly a safety question.

The only families willing to take the risks of in-person school are either desperate for childcare, desperate to have their kids out of their hair, or ignorant of the risks.

Regarding money, there are families who have lost jobs, or who telework and may prefer to save money on preschool, of course.

It's a good thing those "desperate" essential workers are choosing to still do their jobs, eh?

We are fortunate in that I can telework and was able to switch to part-time for a while, but my DH has been working outside the home throughout the pandemic. He has a number of colleagues who have spouses that do not have the flexibility I do, so their kids are back at daycare. Haven't heard of any issues. Everyone family has a different situation, and judgemental people frustrate me.

[Anonymous]

We already have a nanny so we don't need the childcare. I am pretty upset about it though. I love her school and want her to have the experience but she is high risk so it's a no brainer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's mostly a safety question.

The only families willing to take the risks of in-person school are either desperate for childcare, desperate to have their kids out of their hair, or ignorant of the risks.

Regarding money, there are families who have lost jobs, or who telework and may prefer to save money on preschool, of course.

It's a good thing those "desperate" essential workers are choosing to still do their jobs, eh?

We are fortunate in that I can telework and was able to switch to part-time for a while, but my DH has been working outside the home throughout the pandemic. He has a number of colleagues who have spouses that do not have the flexibility I do, so their kids are back at daycare. Haven't heard of any issues. Everyone family has a different situation, and judgemental people frustrate me.

+1. And a lot of people do know the risks, and decide that the benefit is more than the risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are paying more for the nanny than the preschool tuition, so it was not money driven. We are worried about the novel virus and the potential for lung damage even if the symptoms are mild. I hope I made the wrong decision

Same here. It’s cheaper for us to do full time preschool than to pay our nanny! But I am not risking my kids until we know more about the virus. I’ll happily be wrong here and worry over nothing than dismiss it and end up with dire consequences. The kids are close together in age and play together well, plus we are seeing another family who is also being cautious for play dates, and the kids get to see their grandparents at least weekly (we would not be seeing them if we sent the kids back to preschool).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's mostly a safety question.

The only families willing to take the risks of in-person school are either desperate for childcare, desperate to have their kids out of their hair, or ignorant of the risks.

Regarding money, there are families who have lost jobs, or who telework and may prefer to save money on preschool, of course.

It's a good thing those "desperate" essential workers are choosing to still do their jobs, eh?

We are fortunate in that I can telework and was able to switch to part-time for a while, but my DH has been working outside the home throughout the pandemic. He has a number of colleagues who have spouses that do not have the flexibility I do, so their kids are back at daycare. Haven't heard of any issues. Everyone family has a different situation, and judgemental people frustrate me.

Yes! The judgement is awful. I imagine everyone is doing the best they can and we all love our children.