Is slapping abuse?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I slapped my 13 or 14 year old once in the heat of the moment for him calling me a bitch. I didn't even think, just turned around quick and slapped him.

He's now 19, and doesn't even remember it, though my 17 year old remembers it. 19 year old said he must have needed it, and it had no long term impact.

We are not an abusive household, and this weighed on my for years. I don't believe I apologized either. Just sent him to his room. If it was reoccurring, then yes, it would be abuse IMO

So if you rape a girl when she's drugged, as long as she doesn't remember it, then it's not abuse and she must have needed it, and it has no long term impact?

Are you insane? Why in the world would you compare those two things? They are not the same, obviously. You are nuts.

NP agree. Some of the people on this thread are engaging in ridiculous strawman arguments. Equating a one-time slap to rape or child molestation? Wtf.

You're bad at logic. What PP's are saying is 1) saying "it was one time so it can't be abuse" doesn't make sense (see, one-time molestation), and 2) if they don't remember it that proves it wasn't abuse (see, raping an unconcious victim). If you can't follow the logic it's not because it doesn't make sense, it's because you're dim.

[Anonymous]

This generation of kids is already fully snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slapped my 13 or 14 year old once in the heat of the moment for him calling me a bitch. I didn't even think, just turned around quick and slapped him.

He's now 19, and doesn't even remember it, though my 17 year old remembers it. 19 year old said he must have needed it, and it had no long term impact.

We are not an abusive household, and this weighed on my for years. I don't believe I apologized either. Just sent him to his room. If it was reoccurring, then yes, it would be abuse IMO

I called my mom the b-word when I was 16- I knew I wasn’t supposed to say it but I did. She slapped me and I very much deserved it.

Sorry but, I disagree How is hitting you going to teach you to respect her? Physical abuse is never the answer!

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was hit a lot by both parents with belts, sticks, books etc and one of the worst memories I have is being slapped. It is incredibly demeaning.

I was raised by grandparents and had multiple relatives live with me/raise me. I remember very, very, verry clearly the two times I was slapped in the face by my relatives. It is incredibly demeaning, and I will never forget it. It made me feel worthless. It almost would have been better if they hit me with a belt, anywhere else. Do NOT slap people in the face. It may have been heat of the moment and they do not remember now.. but I do.. and it always bothered me. I don’t feel comfortable with either to this day.

I'm very sorry you went through that. Can you explain how being slapped made you feel so bad that you'd prefer being whipped? I would think that being whipped would be much worse, although both are horrible.