Envious of moms not working in quarantine

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Anonymous wrote:i have to say - I am so jealous of people without kids right now.

Please don't be. Some of us would do anything to get to be with our children right now, but due to infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, infant death, or child death, we are instead mourning that we aren't getting to spend this extra time with the children we so desperately wanted and loved.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m envious of working parents with good nannies who never stopped working. Those parents have no commute, work in pajamas, and still get a full days work in.

We are paying our nanny to stay home because of a health concern she has and I am so jealous of my friends who don't think twice about having their nannies come. They haven't gotten sick yet so part of me thinks I could have had a much easier time the last two months.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM of 3. No artistic ability whatsoever. I did buy a ton of art supplies. My oldest just turned 11 and loves art. He makes lots of cool stuff but it has nothing to do with me. His Minecraft worlds are actually quite creative once I actually paid attention to what he was building.

I make sure my kids do all their schoolwork, sign on to their various virtual lessons and meetings and play instruments.

We go on early morning outings and bike rides around the neighborhood. It is pretty damn boring. Nothing to envy over here.

As a working mom with a working husband and two younger kids, I can safely say that I would not describe the last eight weeks as remotely boring. I would kill for boring.

Another SAHM here. I feel like I am going to die of boredom. I’m not bored under normal circumstances and I don’t normally want a job but I’ve actually found myself wishing I worked. I go grocery shopping just for something to do.

Um, I'm sorry? I think dying of boredom is probably the lowest item of anyone's list of things to worry about right now, but I'm so sorry you have to entertain yourself by grocery shopping. Maybe you should offer to do it for other people, like the ones who are busy working or working out of their house because they're essential or the ones who have a spouse who is deployed or, you know, about everyone else who wouldn't say they're bored right now?

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Anonymous wrote:i have to say - I am so jealous of people without kids right now.

Please don't be. Some of us would do anything to get to be with our children right now, but due to infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, infant death, or child death, we are instead mourning that we aren't getting to spend this extra time with the children we so desperately wanted and loved.

I'm sorry for your loss. But you do realize that just because you cannot be with your child(ren) right now for whatever reason does not mean that it can't be hard for people who do have children, right? I'm not trying to be callous, but it's not a suffering Olympics, so the fact that you don't acknowledge that someone is having a hard time maybe working full-time with their kids at home just because you experienced loss is kind of missing the point. I hope you don't one up your friends all the time in real life either.

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Anonymous wrote:i have to say - I am so jealous of people without kids right now.

Please don't be. Some of us would do anything to get to be with our children right now, but due to infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, infant death, or child death, we are instead mourning that we aren't getting to spend this extra time with the children we so desperately wanted and loved.

I'm sorry for your loss. But you do realize that just because you cannot be with your child(ren) right now for whatever reason does not mean that it can't be hard for people who do have children, right? I'm not trying to be callous, but it's not a suffering Olympics, so the fact that you don't acknowledge that someone is having a hard time maybe working full-time with their kids at home just because you experienced loss is kind of missing the point. I hope you don't one up your friends all the time in real life either.

This. Working full time with kids underfoot sounds like an absolute nightmare. I would not last 3 days.

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Did anyone see the article in the WaPo today following a family with two working parents and a 7 yo and 3 yo during this shutdown? Like one of the PPs, I could feel the pressure that the parents are under. You working at home while parenting young kids parents? you're awesome!

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I am not cut out for full time parenting and would want to kill myself if I had to do what you describe your friend doing. Thank goodness I work full time and we have a great nanny. BTW, a lot of high schools have done away with science fairs - kids don't learn more from entering those, and they're unfair to kids who don't have the resources other kids have (educated parents, time to research, purchase materials) and science teachers don't believe the projects are done without parent involvement.

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Your envious if dependents? No thanks.

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^^of

[Anonymous]

Front line emergency services mom of 3DC. Grateful to be working for many reasons.

I’m sick of my SAHM SIL who takes every opportunity (phone call, Zoom call, email) to say that she is loving “all the time” with her DC and “doesn’t want to send them back to school.”
Her town just had a drive by teacher parade and SIL made huge signs saying “You Can’t Have them Back - Loving every Minute” or something just tone deaf and awkward.

Today SIL emailed that she’s so busy on PTA conference calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Front line emergency services mom of 3DC. Grateful to be working for many reasons.

I’m sick of my SAHM SIL who takes every opportunity (phone call, Zoom call, email) to say that she is loving “all the time” with her DC and “doesn’t want to send them back to school.”
Her town just had a drive by teacher parade and SIL made huge signs saying “You Can’t Have them Back - Loving every Minute” or something just tone deaf and awkward.

Today SIL emailed that she’s so busy on PTA conference calls.

Your SIL sounds irritating as heck! not all of us SAHMs are like that, please know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I work full time and I have many SAHM friends. I am not jealous of their crafting abilities or how they are entertaining their kids.

What I am jealous of is that they don’t have the immense stress and pressure of not being able to deliver quality work and be as productive as usual. I feel like I can only give parenting and work a fraction of what it deserves and I truly suck at both right now. Not to mention that I am up until midnight every night catching up on work since I am generally too distracted and occupied with my kids during the day.

Exactly. I don't think I've focused for longer than 15 minutes at a time on any one task since this started. Both my kids and my job are getting shafted, and when I have to log right back on and work into the wee hours I'm not taking care of myself, either. Yes, i'm grateful for my job and for financial stability, but am concerned for my family's mental health.

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I’ma highly creative SAHM would love to be doing that stuff with my DD but she isn’t interested.