You have ONE child, right PP? My oldest was an early reader. Identified all letters before she turned 2, knew they letter sounds perfectly. Could read CVC words at 3, chapter books at 4.5. She loved it and begged us to teach her. My second came along and he loved being read to, but didn’t learn CVC words until Kindergarten. Not due to lack of time or attention to him, but because his brain just wasn’t ready for it like his older sister. He is much better at math than she is, both of them have been identified as gifted. Just saying, you were able to teach your 3/4 year old to read because his brain was ready, maybe if you had another kid you would see they might not have the same schedule. Some kids do learn and pick it up early, but if a preschool is focusing so hard on getting kids to read, some of those kids will end up embarrassed and frustrated by not being able to complete the curriculum like other friends. It’s not about the play, pp, it’s about maximizing their time in preschool and building solid foundations so they are ready to learn when their time comes. |
No, I have three. The second one is learning the same way her brother did, and the same way my mother taught me and my siblings. This is a fruitless thread, because people who invent these narratives about anxious preschoolers don’t have a historical horizon past July, which is why they use the Atlantic as an authoritative source and insist on teaching children only what the kid “leads“ them to. We just don’t have the same perspective, but again, it really doesn’t matter. My kid‘s school offers differentiated instruction, and he has a peer group whose parents also taught their kids to read, so he gets to share his love for books at the same level as other over-pressured children. |
I don't understand this reasoning. Because SOME children may not be able to do it, NO ONE should try? |
+1 Speaking as the mother of a child in Kindergarten -- why wouldn't you let your child stay in a fun, playful environment for as long as possible? Kids learn through play. A 3.5 year old should NOT be doing worksheets, learning to read and write in a structured environment. My kindergartener attended a play-based preschool that did teach developmentally appropriate things (how to write her name, the letters of the alphabet and the sounds they make, numbers, colors, shapes, cutting, not to mention social skills, and other things kids will need like standing in line, following directions, etc., and is thriving in Kindergarten. My current 3.5 year old is at the same school and is already trying to read (older sibling's influence, and I say trying, because she's not making THAT much progress, lol). Please don't do this to your child. |
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You're right, I'm super jealous that your kid is bored in Kindergarten and probably acting out. |
| I keep seeing name-writing listed as some sort of meaningful milestone. Teaching kids to write their name by copying it over and over, before they understand anything about blending letter sounds into words, is worthless educationally and is just done to have something to show parents. If your kid can't read or write "dog," teaching her to write "Larleena" is a waste of time. |
You're either nuts or you live in an outlier try-hard community like McLean or North Arlington. I live in Northern Virginia, there is no "red shirt epidemic" except in some very wealthy communities and here on DCUM. My child has a summer birthday (turned 5 right before K) and her friends (male and female) turned 6 in Kindergarten. She had ONE kid in a class of 21 children that had been redshirted, and he had an August birthday. She could write her name (learned in preschool) but did not know how to read. She was most certainly NOT the only kid in K who didn't know how to read. It was probably about half and half, and even the readers weren't particularly advanced except maybe two or three. The red-shirted kid, by the way, was a good friend of hers and they had several playdates. I really didn't see much difference in their behavior even though he was 14 months older than her. I doubt he was any more prepared for school than she was. |
NP here. I agree w/ you OP. My kid doesn't like being the worst at something in a group and it affects how much she likes doing that activity. Yes, we should work on that. But we will do that with something like gymnastics or soccer, where if it doesn't work out soon, it doesn't matter; I am not going to experiment/teach her a lesson with school. I've seen other parents go down that route and their kids hate/fear school and that's not a place I want to be. In my kid's DCPS T1 PK4, all of the kids can write their names at this point in the year bar one who has physical special needs; the kids are "tested" (my DD didn't realize it was happening, so clearly done subtly) against a checklist of skills that includes recognizing letters and letter sounds, writing all letters, counting objects to 30 and recognizing written numerals 0-9, a variety of shape and body part names, a bunch of colors, etc. If you start K without these skills, you would be pulled out of class starting on the first day of the second month for small group intensive instruction to catch up. Not a huge deal, those kids will learn. But, (1) those kids are definitely behind the skill-level expectation of the school/what the school is set up to teach to the full class and so they may fall behind on class instruction, which is covering reading CVC words and trying to write easy words; and (2) my own kid would hate it and be embarrassed and it would turn her off from the activity. |
You understand that your preschool is doing the same things that OP wants her preschool to do, except you insist on calling it play-based? yes? I am still puzzled that you think thirty minutes of writing and reading prep a day somehow kills play for the rest of the day forever. |
NP. I mean, this is why you need to ask questions because there is variability among preschools that call themselves academic (or play based). I pulled my child from a daycare that started implementing a very ad hoc academic curriculum. He was coming home with all of these completed worksheets and "homework" at age 3. It was more than 30 min and outside time was shortened to allow more time for the academic activities. I had no interest in another two full years of that so we moved him to a center that follows the Creative Curriculum and it's been a better fit. He's still learning but seems to be having more fun. |
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I want to note that the OP's kid is age 3.5 -- therefore in a preschool class for 3 year olds, presumably. The OP's kid still has an entire PK4 year ahead of them before K. The preK program is far more likely to incorporate some more academic elements, like recognizing or writing letters, than the preschool 3 program.
In a decent preschool 3 program, there might be some counting out loud of objects on a casual basis, teaching "more" and "less", "bigger" and "smaller", etc. In PK4, there will probably be more rote counting (i.e. counting off the number of kids in circle time, etc.) PS3 and PK4 can and should have different expectations. |
Yes! Are you looking for a job? I'd love to hire you at the program I direct... you GET it! |
You don’t seem to know much about fine motor control. There’s a reason we teach pincer grip using tweezers, threading shoelaces, etc. Pencil grip is something that develops at different times depending on a variety of factors. We’re at a point that kids have awful handwriting because they’re being pushed earlier and earlier to try to write. Yes, it’s detrimental. |
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