How often do you go out with other couples, without kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

The implication in the bolded is that if you go out without your kids you DON'T like spending time with them? Otherwise, why mention it?

I generally find people who don't socialize with other couples either with family or adults only just generally don't have any friends.

Probably because they're obnoxious enough to mention their seven-figure income as if it is relevant and say other people don't like spending time with our kids.

Pp again. I should add that DH has a very demanding job. In his limited spare time, he likes to spend time with his kids and relax. Socializing with another couple is not high on his priority list. His guy friends and work colleagues are not planning double dates with their wives. They will go to happy hour or play tennis or whatever.

I stay home. I socialize with friends with and without kids all the time. I have a nanny plus 2 of my 3 kids are in school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

I cannot imagine that anyone wants to spend an evening with you. You are insufferable.

Because we have a high income? I just said we like to hang out as families. We actually host friends at our house often.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

I cannot imagine that anyone wants to spend an evening with you. You are insufferable.

Because we have a high income? I just said we like to hang out as families. We actually host friends at our house often.

No, you're insufferable because this is now the second time you've mentioned your income on a thread that doesn't really have much to do with money. SMH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

I cannot imagine that anyone wants to spend an evening with you. You are insufferable.

Because we have a high income? I just said we like to hang out as families. We actually host friends at our house often.

No, you're insufferable because this is now the second time you've mentioned your income on a thread that doesn't really have much to do with money. SMH.

I was responding to the post immediately before this one that said it was financially so it actual was relevant.

My point was that we are high income and we can afford the sitter but still choose not to.

You are the one who seems hyper focused on the income. I never mention our income in real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

The implication in the bolded is that if you go out without your kids you DON'T like spending time with them? Otherwise, why mention it?

I generally find people who don't socialize with other couples either with family or adults only just generally don't have any friends.

Probably because they're obnoxious enough to mention their seven-figure income as if it is relevant and say other people don't like spending time with our kids.

Pp again. I should add that DH has a very demanding job. In his limited spare time, he likes to spend time with his kids and relax. Socializing with another couple is not high on his priority list. His guy friends and work colleagues are not planning double dates with their wives. They will go to happy hour or play tennis or whatever.

I stay home. I socialize with friends with and without kids all the time. I have a nanny plus 2 of my 3 kids are in school.

I know it’s not the point of the thread but F it. Why do you have a nanny?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

I'm the PP you're responding to. I forgot to mention that I don't like spending time with my children, which is why my husband and I go out with other couples, so thank you for reminding me of that point.

[Anonymous]

First time coming up and ds is three. Any babysitting is used so we can spend time together, just the two of us. Since ds is young and already in daycare all day, neither of us seek out a bunch of time away from him.

We both have had evenings or days out with friends while da is with the other parent. We are much more open to those activities.

[Anonymous]

Um.....fairly often, maybe 1-2x a month, they're usually late nights (12-2am.) Date night just us two will be maybe 1 a month or every other month. Have an amazing group of friends that we've hung out with for years, so the more the merrier.
For context, have 4 kids (10, 7, and 8 month old twins) and am a sahm mom with DH who works and travels maybe once every 6-8weeks. I NEED this time without the kids. Compared to some DCUMers here, we're not rolling in the dough ($150k) but prioritize adult time without the kids so have no issue having our trusted sitter over, who's happy to be making the $$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um.....fairly often, maybe 1-2x a month, they're usually late nights (12-2am.) Date night just us two will be maybe 1 a month or every other month. Have an amazing group of friends that we've hung out with for years, so the more the merrier.
For context, have 4 kids (10, 7, and 8 month old twins) and am a sahm mom with DH who works and travels maybe once every 6-8weeks. I NEED this time without the kids. Compared to some DCUMers here, we're not rolling in the dough ($150k) but prioritize adult time without the kids so have no issue having our trusted sitter over, who's happy to be making the $$.

Aren’t you exhausted with 8m old twins? How old are you?

I just can’t imagine going out at midnight. I’m also a SAHM. DH goes to work early like at 6am and at least one of my 3 kids is up by 6. No way could I hang at midnight. I do love going out to brunch or dinner with my girlfriends. DH and I take turns going out without kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um.....fairly often, maybe 1-2x a month, they're usually late nights (12-2am.) Date night just us two will be maybe 1 a month or every other month. Have an amazing group of friends that we've hung out with for years, so the more the merrier.
For context, have 4 kids (10, 7, and 8 month old twins) and am a sahm mom with DH who works and travels maybe once every 6-8weeks. I NEED this time without the kids. Compared to some DCUMers here, we're not rolling in the dough ($150k) but prioritize adult time without the kids so have no issue having our trusted sitter over, who's happy to be making the $$.

Aren’t you exhausted with 8m old twins? How old are you?

I just can’t imagine going out at midnight. I’m also a SAHM. DH goes to work early like at 6am and at least one of my 3 kids is up by 6. No way could I hang at midnight. I do love going out to brunch or dinner with my girlfriends. DH and I take turns going out without kids.

34. Yes, life is pretty chaotic right now. Also have to get the two older up around 6am during the school year and take all 4 to drop and pick up, which is tiring as heck, but used to it now. Sitter also comes over twice a week for 4 hours each time to watch the babies so I can run errands, clean, get a break. Just keep doing what we need to but it's the life we chose so not going to complain too much, ha.

[Anonymous]

Never. H & I go out alone. We chat enough with parents at the kids' sporting events throughout the year. We don't need our date night to include them. And I want to be able to talk to H uncensored while we are out. I'm not going to discuss certain things when others are present at the table.

[Anonymous]

Both of us, with other couples? Literally never. For one thing, we don’t really have couple friends. Each of us occasionally goes out with our own friends. We rarely use a sitter, and if we do, it’s for us to spend time together, just us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

The implication in the bolded is that if you go out without your kids you DON'T like spending time with them? Otherwise, why mention it?

I generally find people who don't socialize with other couples either with family or adults only just generally don't have any friends.

Probably because they're obnoxious enough to mention their seven-figure income as if it is relevant and say other people don't like spending time with our kids.

Pp again. I should add that DH has a very demanding job. In his limited spare time, he likes to spend time with his kids and relax. Socializing with another couple is not high on his priority list. His guy friends and work colleagues are not planning double dates with their wives. They will go to happy hour or play tennis or whatever.

I stay home. I socialize with friends with and without kids all the time. I have a nanny plus 2 of my 3 kids are in school.

So, neither of you really spend that much time with the kids between school and the nanny. Let’s be real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

The implication in the bolded is that if you go out without your kids you DON'T like spending time with them? Otherwise, why mention it?

I generally find people who don't socialize with other couples either with family or adults only just generally don't have any friends.

Probably because they're obnoxious enough to mention their seven-figure income as if it is relevant and say other people don't like spending time with our kids.

Pp again. I should add that DH has a very demanding job. In his limited spare time, he likes to spend time with his kids and relax. Socializing with another couple is not high on his priority list. His guy friends and work colleagues are not planning double dates with their wives. They will go to happy hour or play tennis or whatever.

I stay home. I socialize with friends with and without kids all the time. I have a nanny plus 2 of my 3 kids are in school.

So, neither of you really spend that much time with the kids between school and the nanny. Let’s be real.

NP, but this is not necessarily true. I'm signing my kids up for activities now and realizing we are going to have to expand the number of hours our part-time sitter works just so they can do them all! Nanny (or sitter) takes one kid to soccer, I'll take the little kid and another kid to ballet, etc. With three kids things get busy fast!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we want. Not sure I could put a frequency on it. But we have a nanny, so we have a built-in sitter (assuming she's free) and our friends do as well, so no one is either hurting financially or looking for childcare. However, I don't think it's totally a class thing, as someone put it, because my best friend does the same and she and her husband are not remotely wealthy (under $100K combined income with two kids) and the kids were both in daycare so they never had a nanny and they use college sitters. I think if there's a will there's a way, although I think money makes the way easier, for sure.

We have a seven figure income and cost of sitter is a non-issue. We still never go out with couples. This is probably the way we socialize though. DH and I go out solo with our friends pretty frequently and also do date night a few times per month.

We have three children and like spending time with them.

We have a friend with a standing date night once per week. I know that go out with another couple often. The wives are like best friends.

DH and I don’t have a good enough couple friend we want to hang out with as a couple that badly.

The implication in the bolded is that if you go out without your kids you DON'T like spending time with them? Otherwise, why mention it?

I generally find people who don't socialize with other couples either with family or adults only just generally don't have any friends.

Probably because they're obnoxious enough to mention their seven-figure income as if it is relevant and say other people don't like spending time with our kids.

Pp again. I should add that DH has a very demanding job. In his limited spare time, he likes to spend time with his kids and relax. Socializing with another couple is not high on his priority list. His guy friends and work colleagues are not planning double dates with their wives. They will go to happy hour or play tennis or whatever.

I stay home. I socialize with friends with and without kids all the time. I have a nanny plus 2 of my 3 kids are in school.

So, neither of you really spend that much time with the kids between school and the nanny. Let’s be real.

NP, but this is not necessarily true. I'm signing my kids up for activities now and realizing we are going to have to expand the number of hours our part-time sitter works just so they can do them all! Nanny (or sitter) takes one kid to soccer, I'll take the little kid and another kid to ballet, etc. With three kids things get busy fast!

Yes, my 3 kids are busy. My nanny does half housework like laundry and cooking. Yes, I use her so I can work out or get a manicure. Mostly it is so I can shuffle big kids to sports without taking a toddler with me or go to field trips, appointments, etc.