Does Sherwood HS have a cyber bullying problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who suggested that the girl blocks posts, blocking posts would not stop the comments from being spread throughout the school. Sherwood should be doing more to educate children as to what is considered cyber bullying and what are the consequences for participating in cyber bullying. If the perpetrators are athletes, they should be benched. If the coaches know and don't bench athletes for bullying, then the coaches should not be rehired the next season.

When should that be done? during "down time" in English classes? at an assembly?

No one kids are graduating with no skills. When is there time to actually instruct?

You fail to mention parents and kids' home lives. . .

Education to prevent bullying can be done in a high school advisory period, in a guidance counseling session, or the beginning practice of a school athletic team. Programs to prevent bullying should also begin in elementary school and continue through middle school and high school so there is a foundation of what is acceptable behavior.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/ - has suggestions for best practices to prevent bullying. "When adults respond quickly and consistently to bullying behavior they send a message that it is not acceptable." Adults include parents, teachers, coaches, and school administrators. Kids learn from consequences for their actions, but they also learn from modeling and teaching good behavior at school and at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who suggested that the girl blocks posts, blocking posts would not stop the comments from being spread throughout the school. Sherwood should be doing more to educate children as to what is considered cyber bullying and what are the consequences for participating in cyber bullying. If the perpetrators are athletes, they should be benched. If the coaches know and don't bench athletes for bullying, then the coaches should not be rehired the next season.

When should that be done? during "down time" in English classes? at an assembly?

No one kids are graduating with no skills. When is there time to actually instruct?

You fail to mention parents and kids' home lives. . .

Education to prevent bullying can be done in a high school advisory period, in a guidance counseling session, or the beginning practice of a school athletic team. Programs to prevent bullying should also begin in elementary school and continue through middle school and high school so there is a foundation of what is acceptable behavior.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/ - has suggestions for best practices to prevent bullying. "When adults respond quickly and consistently to bullying behavior they send a message that it is not acceptable." Adults include parents, teachers, coaches, and school administrators. Kids learn from consequences for their actions, but they also learn from modeling and teaching good behavior at school and at home.

It's BEEN done! Again & again & again

Kids don't care.

This is all BS. This starts at home! To again ask educators to reinforce common sense rules to many kids who lack empathy is a waste of time. Make the parents take classes. Inconvenience the hell out of them instead.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finally asked my son about it.

It was reported to the school.

He said that the boys are in a lot of trouble. Talk of being expelled and one already had his college offer rescinded.

good

I agree. But I won’t gloat about it.

But this is Olney so lots of shaming.. like most small towns.

How would your son know this information? (The punishment/consequences)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finally asked my son about it.

It was reported to the school.

He said that the boys are in a lot of trouble. Talk of being expelled and one already had his college offer rescinded.

good

I agree. But I won’t gloat about it.

But this is Olney so lots of shaming.. like most small towns.

I knew Olney when 108 was surrounded by farms. It's far from being a small town.

Even so, it's small enough so that news travels faster. Hopefully, this incident will act as a deterrent. I hope all three are rejected from thei schools.

And were they the only ones involved? Usually guys aren't attacking a girl like that. Any mean girls involved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finally asked my son about it.

It was reported to the school.

He said that the boys are in a lot of trouble. Talk of being expelled and one already had his college offer rescinded.

good

I agree. But I won’t gloat about it.

But this is Olney so lots of shaming.. like most small towns.

I knew Olney when 108 was surrounded by farms. It's far from being a small town.

Even so, it's small enough so that news travels faster. Hopefully, this incident will act as a deterrent. I hope all three are rejected from thei schools.

And were they the only ones involved? Usually guys aren't attacking a girl like that. Any mean girls involved?

Nope. 1 boy with 2 boys as collateral damage... aiding and abetting.

Size does not make a small town.. attitude does, being insular, etc

But tru olney has restaurants and grocery stores and 1 arts center so not small town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finally asked my son about it.

It was reported to the school.

He said that the boys are in a lot of trouble. Talk of being expelled and one already had his college offer rescinded.

good

I agree. But I won’t gloat about it.

But this is Olney so lots of shaming.. like most small towns.

I knew Olney when 108 was surrounded by farms. It's far from being a small town.

Even so, it's small enough so that news travels faster. Hopefully, this incident will act as a deterrent. I hope all three are rejected from thei schools.

And were they the only ones involved? Usually guys aren't attacking a girl like that. Any mean girls involved?

Nope. 1 boy with 2 boys as collateral damage... aiding and abetting.

Size does not make a small town.. attitude does, being insular, etc

But tru olney has restaurants and grocery stores and 1 arts center so not small town.

I lived there for years and didn't consider it insular. I don't usually do eye rolls either. So if you're trying to shut me down, only talk if you've 1) lived there and 2) sent your kids to the schools. Also remember that parts are zoned for the NEC. So there are overlapping boundaries.

Got it, expert?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finally asked my son about it.

It was reported to the school.

He said that the boys are in a lot of trouble. Talk of being expelled and one already had his college offer rescinded.

good

I agree. But I won’t gloat about it.

But this is Olney so lots of shaming.. like most small towns.

I knew Olney when 108 was surrounded by farms. It's far from being a small town.

Even so, it's small enough so that news travels faster. Hopefully, this incident will act as a deterrent. I hope all three are rejected from thei schools.

And were they the only ones involved? Usually guys aren't attacking a girl like that. Any mean girls involved?

Nope. 1 boy with 2 boys as collateral damage... aiding and abetting.

Size does not make a small town.. attitude does, being insular, etc

But tru olney has restaurants and grocery stores and 1 arts center so not small town.

I lived there for years and didn't consider it insular. I don't usually do eye rolls either. So if you're trying to shut me down, only talk if you've 1) lived there and 2) sent your kids to the schools. Also remember that parts are zoned for the NEC. So there are overlapping boundaries.

Got it, expert?

Most people that act insular don’t know it.

Don’t get your small town pantie in a bundle.

It’s small town get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who suggested that the girl blocks posts, blocking posts would not stop the comments from being spread throughout the school. Sherwood should be doing more to educate children as to what is considered cyber bullying and what are the consequences for participating in cyber bullying. If the perpetrators are athletes, they should be benched. If the coaches know and don't bench athletes for bullying, then the coaches should not be rehired the next season.

When should that be done? during "down time" in English classes? at an assembly?

No one kids are graduating with no skills. When is there time to actually instruct?

You fail to mention parents and kids' home lives. . .

Education to prevent bullying can be done in a high school advisory period, in a guidance counseling session, or the beginning practice of a school athletic team. Programs to prevent bullying should also begin in elementary school and continue through middle school and high school so there is a foundation of what is acceptable behavior.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/ - has suggestions for best practices to prevent bullying. "When adults respond quickly and consistently to bullying behavior they send a message that it is not acceptable." Adults include parents, teachers, coaches, and school administrators. Kids learn from consequences for their actions, but they also learn from modeling and teaching good behavior at school and at home.

It's BEEN done! Again & again & again

Kids don't care.

This is all BS. This starts at home! To again ask educators to reinforce common sense rules to many kids who lack empathy is a waste of time. Make the parents take classes. Inconvenience the hell out of them instead.

Parents are not at school. So if the bullying is occurring at school, it's primarily last school problem. Most parents are willing to partner with MCPS so their child is protected if they are being bullied. If their child is the offender, parents are willing to work with the school system so their child fixes a behavior pattern that will hurt them in life. The school has to keep parents informed of problems.

Students also have been vocal that they do care about bullying via PTSA surveys and Montgomery County Council town hall meetings. It's actually the top concern vocalized by students.

There are best practices for ending bullying in school. MCPS has a responsibility to fix school climate issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sorry, but at that point I'd have to take the issue into my own hands & have a little chat with mommy & daddy.

I grew up in the Bronx and it would take everything I had in me not to beat the living shit out of those little f$ckers myself... and then I'd slap the sh!t out of their parents, not only for good measure, but for raising these kids to be hateful animals.

What a nightmare for this poor girl... this is going to traumatize her.

There is absolutely NO way I'd be able to sit on my hands and do nothing...

Guaranteed the boys parents are well aware of what's going on... and if they weren't, I'd make them aware.

Wow, aren't you a brave little keyboard warrior, from the Bronx, no less!
What if the parents you want to slap the shit out of are members of law enforcement themselves? That'd be battery against a police officer, and there you'd go to the nearest correctional facility for the loongest time possible.


This seems to be the case with one of the boys involved

[Anonymous]

My dd's friend was cyber bullied and couple of her friends, it was done by boys who were urged to do it by mean girls. It wasn't as bad as this, but it was because dd was hanging out with her and not with other girls as much. Girls got the boys to bully, girl went to the office and they too care of it. This was during school, on school grounds and taken care of by Sherwood administration. Last school year.
But, yeah, I have been living in Olney for a few years, it has a small town feel and everyone in HS knows everywhere...not quite everyone, but pretty close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who suggested that the girl blocks posts, blocking posts would not stop the comments from being spread throughout the school. Sherwood should be doing more to educate children as to what is considered cyber bullying and what are the consequences for participating in cyber bullying. If the perpetrators are athletes, they should be benched. If the coaches know and don't bench athletes for bullying, then the coaches should not be rehired the next season.

When should that be done? during "down time" in English classes? at an assembly?

No one kids are graduating with no skills. When is there time to actually instruct?

You fail to mention parents and kids' home lives. . .

Education to prevent bullying can be done in a high school advisory period, in a guidance counseling session, or the beginning practice of a school athletic team. Programs to prevent bullying should also begin in elementary school and continue through middle school and high school so there is a foundation of what is acceptable behavior.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/ - has suggestions for best practices to prevent bullying. "When adults respond quickly and consistently to bullying behavior they send a message that it is not acceptable." Adults include parents, teachers, coaches, and school administrators. Kids learn from consequences for their actions, but they also learn from modeling and teaching good behavior at school and at home.

It's BEEN done! Again & again & again

Kids don't care.

This is all BS. This starts at home! To again ask educators to reinforce common sense rules to many kids who lack empathy is a waste of time. Make the parents take classes. Inconvenience the hell out of them instead.

Parents are not at school. So if the bullying is occurring at school, it's primarily last school problem. Most parents are willing to partner with MCPS so their child is protected if they are being bullied. If their child is the offender, parents are willing to work with the school system so their child fixes a behavior pattern that will hurt them in life. The school has to keep parents informed of problems.

Students also have been vocal that they do care about bullying via PTSA surveys and Montgomery County Council town hall meetings. It's actually the top concern vocalized by students.

There are best practices for ending bullying in school. MCPS has a responsibility to fix school climate issues.

Wrong. Its parents job to teach their children not to misbehave at school. Parents must teach their children not to hit other kids, use inappropriate language, bully, etc. if the parents fail to teach their children these basics, there’s very little that a school based program can do. Stop expecting schools to raise your kid and be a parent.

[Anonymous]

Kids are going to have occasional mistakes, but repeat offenses is just due to plain old bad parenting. Stop blaming it on lack of school programs or “emotional disturbances” and place the blame where it belongs: bad parenting.

[Anonymous]

Again, parents can control behavior at home but they are not present at school. If a child has no consequences for bad behavior at school and there is no communication from the school to parents regarding the bad behavior, then how do you expect the parent to intervene?

Saying that there's nothing a school system can do to stop bullying is not a collaborative approach and is not considered an educational best practice to prevent and address bullying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Again, parents can control behavior at home but they are not present at school. If a child has no consequences for bad behavior at school and there is no communication from the school to parents regarding the bad behavior, then how do you expect the parent to intervene?

Saying that there's nothing a school system can do to stop bullying is not a collaborative approach and is not considered an educational best practice to prevent and address bullying.

First and foremost, kids need to come forward and tell their parents and the school when bullying occurs. This girl waited. Other kids haven't bothered to come forward.

Hopefully others will be willing to come forward now that info about the punishment is trickling out. Or maybe not? Probably depends on whether these boys and their friends accept responsibility and magically turn into nice kids, or if they retaliate (which seems to be more likely).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Again, parents can control behavior at home but they are not present at school. If a child has no consequences for bad behavior at school and there is no communication from the school to parents regarding the bad behavior, then how do you expect the parent to intervene?

Saying that there's nothing a school system can do to stop bullying is not a collaborative approach and is not considered an educational best practice to prevent and address bullying.

First and foremost, kids need to come forward and tell their parents and the school when bullying occurs. This girl waited. Other kids haven't bothered to come forward.

Hopefully others will be willing to come forward now that info about the punishment is trickling out. Or maybe not? Probably depends on whether these boys and their friends accept responsibility and magically turn into nice kids, or if they retaliate (which seems to be more likely).

It's scary being the student to come forward. Victims weigh their options and telling a school administrator is a last resort option. If the school doesn't do anything, you betcha there will be retaliation by students towards the student who reported the boys.