What are your Mother's Day plans?

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom of small children, I just want one day that's all about me. I don't want to share with MIL, my mom and our 4 grandmas. Sure, this is selfish, but I want my own day, with my own children and I want DH to plan it all. Every other day of the year is focused on caring for other people in my life.

This day exists! It's your birthday! Reclaim the birthday!!

It doesnt though. Birthdays dont always fall on a weekend when your husband can take over the kids. Also for thise who work, then they at work on their bdays when its not on a weekend.

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Just realized I’ll be flying back from my cousin’s wedding on Mother’s Day. At least I’ll get to spend some of it with my mom. Kids and DH usually will get me flowers and a small gift and I get to choose dinner ?

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I am always confused by Mothers Day bc I think its supposed to be about me and then wonder if Im supposed to be making an effort to see our moms. One lives 2 hrs away and one lives 3 hrs away.

One year I had the best Mothers Day ever. It happened to be good weather and we just relaxed on the beach with music playing from my phone and hung out. It was quality time I was spending with the kids. Then we walked to one of our fave restaurants (no reservation so went whenever we felt like it and its cery fam friendly/casual). My kids at that time were 1 and 4. I just loved getting a day with them to enjoy versus just doing all the every day monotonous stuff. My husband handled any errands/tasks that day.

Ill never forget when i spoke to my mom on the phone that day she said "too bad we couldnt be together, next year drfinitely." It was the way she said it though like it hadnt been a good enough day since I wasnt with her and my siblings. Meanwhile I had just had the perfect mothers day for ME and didnt feel that need to spend it all together with anyone else. That year my siblings took my mom out to a fancy brunch as they always do.

I live 3 hours from them. This week I asked my siblings what they were getting mom for mothers day and they said "were taking her out to brunch." I bet my mom will wonder why im not there... but going out to a fancy brunch with two young kids with them isnt my idea of mothers day. They will want to relax and enjoy the meal for two hours while Im trying to keep the kids occupied, forcing them to sit still, etc . But I just have a nagging feeling that I look bad for not going. Either way though Im not.

Its not that I wouldnt want to spend mothers day with our moms. But what I want to do for mothers day at this stage of motherhood is diff than what they want to do.

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I'm pregnant and emotional and want to be around supportive women, so maybe i should ask DH if we can make after church plans with his mom in Baltimore. She may already be booked with the local kids and grandkids, but maybe we can fit in somewhere....

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This is a seriously depressing thread.

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We were going to go to the zoo with the inlaws but they have a matinee. So dh will take 3 year old there for breakfast with bagels and let me sleep . My own mother is out of town, we usually do a garden or park walk with her.
We don't really celebrate Mother's Day and I don't particularly care. Dh celebrates me other days.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a seriously depressing thread.

Why?

The most recent post gave me an idea. I've been following the commie bagel debate in the Del Ray thread and I seriously miss good bagels here. I'll ask my husband and kid to pick up some commie bagels and maybe toppings for me, or walk over with them...best breakfast ever!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think DH even remembers when Mother's Day is. Like every year it'll be something he'll realize last moment and do something half assed, unlike the nice father's day gifts and celebrations he gets every year. How I wish the order of these events were reversed

Remind him in time.

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Anonymous wrote:I am always confused by Mothers Day bc I think its supposed to be about me and then wonder if Im supposed to be making an effort to see our moms. One lives 2 hrs away and one lives 3 hrs away.

One year I had the best Mothers Day ever. It happened to be good weather and we just relaxed on the beach with music playing from my phone and hung out. It was quality time I was spending with the kids. Then we walked to one of our fave restaurants (no reservation so went whenever we felt like it and its cery fam friendly/casual). My kids at that time were 1 and 4. I just loved getting a day with them to enjoy versus just doing all the every day monotonous stuff. My husband handled any errands/tasks that day.

Ill never forget when i spoke to my mom on the phone that day she said "too bad we couldnt be together, next year drfinitely." It was the way she said it though like it hadnt been a good enough day since I wasnt with her and my siblings. Meanwhile I had just had the perfect mothers day for ME and didnt feel that need to spend it all together with anyone else. That year my siblings took my mom out to a fancy brunch as they always do.

I live 3 hours from them. This week I asked my siblings what they were getting mom for mothers day and they said "were taking her out to brunch." I bet my mom will wonder why im not there... but going out to a fancy brunch with two young kids with them isnt my idea of mothers day. They will want to relax and enjoy the meal for two hours while Im trying to keep the kids occupied, forcing them to sit still, etc . But I just have a nagging feeling that I look bad for not going. Either way though Im not.

Its not that I wouldnt want to spend mothers day with our moms. But what I want to do for mothers day at this stage of motherhood is diff than what they want to do.

Yes this. I have conflicting ideas of what mothers day looks like to me versus to my mom and my MIL. Basically none of us are going to be happy. I think 2 mothers days would be helpful. One for mothers of children living at home, and one for moms of grown children.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually WANT to spend time with their DH and kids on Mother's Day?
I am with them all day everyday. I want ONE day to myself.
Thankfully DH is taking the kids all day on some outdoor adventure (weather permitting) so I get to lounge and watch Netflix while eating icecream in bed.

Yes. But I'm not a SAHM. I would love for DH to plan an activity with the kids and I or take us to a winery. Or on a picnic or a hike. I feel like I don't get to see my toddlers enough and they're really enjoyable.

What I don't want is to share my day with MIL.

HA! You are like me. I don't get to see my teenagers enough, and they are sometimes enjoyable. Also don't enjoy sharing the day with MIL. We usually do some sort of hike or bike ride, but I would also love to have DH plan something nice.

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My kids will be singing/performing in church. Maybe we will go out to lunch afterwards. I’d love a hike or other outdoor adventure as a family after that, but it will depend on how much time is leftover & whether my husband has to work.

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So many whiny moms here.

Raising babies is hard.

I don't want to share with my MIL.

Whhaaaaa.

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Hopefully NOT enduring a day at gardens (ugh) with my MIL (double ugh), SIL (triple ugh), and SIL's idiot husband (dear god, just shot me now).

Fingers crossed, I'll be at a hockey game, and before that going out for some BBQ. If no hockey, maybe we'll just go skate instead.

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Please, please, please enjoy your own Moms and MILs on Mother's Day! I would give anything to do that but they have
passed and we'll never get that chance again.

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Anonymous wrote:Lounging around the house and snuggling my 3 YO all day long.

This sounds great. Do you sedate your 3 year old first? I have never had a single day with mine where snuggling lasts for more than 45 seconds. Unless of course he's about to throw up on me or is attempting to avoid bed time.

Hahaha anyone feeling less than excited should keep coming back to read this!

Plans ooof! My bday is the 10th, DH 11th. A few weeks ago, step kids sent me a text that they wanted to plan something for their dad (um my bday is the day before, every single year kids!) What this means is they want to spend the weekend at our house with their spouses and kids. Our 5 grandkids plus our teen DS (we're youngish grandparents). Of course I said, we'll figure it out. Which means, I'll figure it out.

I booked 5 rooms in Mystic. Got tickets for aquarium, made rez for dinner Sat and brunch Sun. I'll run around with gkids, take them for late night pool shenanigans, spoil them, have a quick brunch on Sunday and everyone ferries off to their respective cities. Win-win? Sort of...that 5th room is for me, alone, amidst the madness. If DH wants to sneak in late for some quick fun, he's welcome. But, he must immediately leave after he makes it worth my while! Plus my house is immaculate when we return.