Would you redshirt this child??

[Anonymous]

I have a 9/13 bday DS in a county with a 9/30 cutoff. We chose to send him to K. The alternative was another year of pre-k, where they were still having 2 hr naps/quiet time (he stopped napping by 3) and not nearly engaging or challenging intellectually. DH was a stay-at-home-dad, so get the "I didn't want to pay for daycare" idea out of your head. DS struggled with reading because he stuttered, but excelled in math. This could happen to any kid, regardless of age. My other DS also struggled with reading due in part to stuttering and he was one of the oldest kids in his class. I felt that being in school, where he could easily get Speech Therapy in a pull-out/push-in environment was the best place for him. DS is also an outgoing, warm, funny, and bright kid. It helps his self confidence that he doesn't look like the youngest in class (he's nearly the tallest in his class).

[Anonymous]

Send kid on time if he has the maturity to sit and listen etc. What does saying your DS is 3/5 kids relevant? Are you concerned about finances or younger sibling being in same grade? If so, all the more reason to send on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hold back. The extra time cannot possibly hurt and you say in your post "I know its hard for him." "He has always struggled a bit." "He does tire easily." "Holding back makes the most sense for him long term."
You've answered your own question and have asked many others who all overwhelmingly say the same thing, including the professional who works with him daily in ways you do not. Isn't the long term what we are all working for here?

+10000

[Anonymous]

Redshirting is for people that have no faith in their kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:send your kid to school on time. zero question. the preschools all hard sell for an extra year of tuition. total scam.

Absolutely! It kills me when people say oh they asked (insert name of director of preschool) if we should send him and she said no! Gee, wonder why. $$$

[Anonymous]

I would probably hold him back. Mine has a September 9th birthday but there was a September 1st cut off so that choice was made for us so she’s going in the fall at almost 6 but I think it would’ve been the best choice for her either way.

[Anonymous]

Send. Can do private K for your peace of mind but not necessary.

[Anonymous]

In your case I would most likely send on time. Sounds like he’s doing great right now and would be bored with an extra year of PreK

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is for people that have no faith in their kid.

+1

And the kids will work that out. Even the dumb redshirted ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He will be fine either way. I think make a decision based on the strength of his alternative option. Do you like the preschool? Will he be challenged enough there? Can you afford another year? All valid questions to ask when making this decision.

It really does sound like he will be fine either way. Pick the option that seems like it will fit him best and that fits your lifestyle best.

... or she could, you know, just send the kid to school as soon as they're old enough the way normal parents do.

There are no disabilities or significant delays in this case. It's literally amazing to me that there even needs to be a discussion about it.

[Anonymous]

Send. You haven’t given any reason to hold him back.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read all the replies. But the “handwriting” of a 4 yo boy isn’t supposed to be good. That’s developmentally normal. And kids don’t need to be able to read at all before starting K. It’s not expected or the norm. Neither of my kids could/can read at all entering K. My summer bday boy is now a very advanced reader but could not write well or read at all entering K. We sent him on time. So your son sounds more than ready to me, and he has months to advance before starting K.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would redshirt him without question.

+1

~Mom of 21yo college junior with a 9/12 Birthday and no regrets

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is for people that have no faith in their kid.

Redshirting is for people who understand that the school system expectations are not aligned with normal child development

[Anonymous]

Send to k.