You can't stop in on your child's field trip?

[Anonymous]

Wait wasn't this a museum or something? I'm not saying OP should go but it's a public place they are visiting.

[Anonymous]

At my kids FCPS school, several parents do this BUT we are supposed to let the teacher know if we will join at the venue so that she/he can tell the chaperone. I have done it and usually stick with my child’s chaperone (who is happy to have another pair of eyes to watch over the madness).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At my kids FCPS school, several parents do this BUT we are supposed to let the teacher know if we will join at the venue so that she/he can tell the chaperone. I have done it and usually stick with my child’s chaperone (who is happy to have another pair of eyes to watch over the madness).

Great... go. Have fun.

OP's school has already told her they don't want this.

[Anonymous]

If you talk to me in advance, we can probably work something out. But just showing up without advance notice is a problem.

Even if I know you, know you have custody, and know you're background checked, it's still disruptive to be moving a group from one place to another, and suddenly stopped because of a surprise like this. With younger kids once you introduce the idea that it's possible that parents can surprise you, then you'll have a lot of kids looking around and wondering if their mom is coming too. It's just disruptive and field trips need to be pretty carefully organized to run well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At my kids FCPS school, several parents do this BUT we are supposed to let the teacher know if we will join at the venue so that she/he can tell the chaperone. I have done it and usually stick with my child’s chaperone (who is happy to have another pair of eyes to watch over the madness).

Our school allows this too and I've been able to join my daughters class several times. Not once has a parent or teacher ever made me feel unwelcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you talk to me in advance, we can probably work something out. But just showing up without advance notice is a problem.

Sounds like you just need to contact the teacher and ask for his/her blessing and it will all work out for you. (wink)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately due to my work schedule I can't take the whole day off from work to help chaperone my daughters field trip next week, so I was thinking about stopping in since the field trip is downtown and my job is downtown. I have no intention of separating my daughter from the chaperone/group she is assigned by the school and was just planning tagging along. When I casually mentioned this to another mom she told me that our school has a very strict policy on this and the teachers will ask you to leave if you show up without being an official chaperone. I checked with the front office of our school and it turns out the mom was right...but can the school really enforce this? It's a museum which is open to the public. Also, wouldn't the teachers/chaperone's appreciate an extra set of eyes for a bit?

I'm just having this vision of you doing a flyover with your chopper to hover a few minutes and fly off.

You are really bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like Suzy's mom should never be a chaperone again...and who lets kids walk off with anyone from the group during a field trip? Did Suzy's mom get a background check?

I think the original post was that the mom wanted to temporarily join the group, not separate her child from it. Personally, I don't see the harm.

But OP is still saying the rules shouldn't apply to her, not giving consideration to the complicated family situations that could exist or just the total chaos if a large number of parents decided to 'drop in' on a field trip.

[Anonymous]

OP, look at it this way. What do you think would happen to the field trip if every parent decided to do what you’re planning to do? If the school couldn’t accommodate everyone wanting to do the same thing, then you shouldn’t ask for special exceptions for yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, look at it this way. What do you think would happen to the field trip if every parent decided to do what you’re planning to do? If the school couldn’t accommodate everyone wanting to do the same thing, then you shouldn’t ask for special exceptions for yourself.

OP is never going to look at it this way. They have clearly been spoiled their whole life and are used to getting their way. They don't care if they are being disruptive or disrespectful to professional teachers who are responsible for the safety of an entire group of students. Ditto for other parents on this thread who think the idea of stopping by is perfectly okay.

[Anonymous]

OP just ask the teacher if you can stop in. If the teacher says no, stay home. If the teacher says yes, go. I wouldn't care what other moms say, but I would respect that the teacher tells you.

[Anonymous]

Ok, you people are literally insane. Literally literally.

Disruptive: It is a group of kids walking through a museum not heart surgery. Have you ever been on one of these things? About 10% of the kids pay attention, the rest chatter and bink along.

They don't know what custody arrangement you have: For the love of Jesus. This is the equivalent of never letting your kid go to the mall because there might be a shooting. Of course there are those situations but let's not take all the life out of life because of an exceedingly unlikely scenario.

Helicopter: She's not a helicopter, she's a mom who works who thinks it would be neat to see her child out and about with their classmates. Not everyone can take off to chaperone. I'm sure her child would be jazzed for her mom to show up and walk around a bit. Lots of working families don't get enough time with their kids and don't get to share in a lot of the things that people with flexible arrangements or those with SAHMS do. (I'm a SAHM fyi)

I say go for it. Drop in, tag along. Love your child and ignore these literally crazy people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, you people are literally insane. Literally literally.

Disruptive: It is a group of kids walking through a museum not heart surgery. Have you ever been on one of these things? About 10% of the kids pay attention, the rest chatter and bink along.

They don't know what custody arrangement you have: For the love of Jesus. This is the equivalent of never letting your kid go to the mall because there might be a shooting. Of course there are those situations but let's not take all the life out of life because of an exceedingly unlikely scenario.

Helicopter: She's not a helicopter, she's a mom who works who thinks it would be neat to see her child out and about with their classmates. Not everyone can take off to chaperone. I'm sure her child would be jazzed for her mom to show up and walk around a bit. Lots of working families don't get enough time with their kids and don't get to share in a lot of the things that people with flexible arrangements or those with SAHMS do. (I'm a SAHM fyi)

I say go for it. Drop in, tag along. Love your child and ignore these literally crazy people.

The school has already told her not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, you people are literally insane. Literally literally.

Disruptive: It is a group of kids walking through a museum not heart surgery. Have you ever been on one of these things? About 10% of the kids pay attention, the rest chatter and bink along.

They don't know what custody arrangement you have: For the love of Jesus. This is the equivalent of never letting your kid go to the mall because there might be a shooting. Of course there are those situations but let's not take all the life out of life because of an exceedingly unlikely scenario.

Helicopter: She's not a helicopter, she's a mom who works who thinks it would be neat to see her child out and about with their classmates. Not everyone can take off to chaperone. I'm sure her child would be jazzed for her mom to show up and walk around a bit. Lots of working families don't get enough time with their kids and don't get to share in a lot of the things that people with flexible arrangements or those with SAHMS do. (I'm a SAHM fyi)

I say go for it. Drop in, tag along. Love your child and ignore these literally crazy people.

The only crazy person is the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, you people are literally insane. Literally literally.

Disruptive: It is a group of kids walking through a museum not heart surgery. Have you ever been on one of these things? About 10% of the kids pay attention, the rest chatter and bink along.

They don't know what custody arrangement you have: For the love of Jesus. This is the equivalent of never letting your kid go to the mall because there might be a shooting. Of course there are those situations but let's not take all the life out of life because of an exceedingly unlikely scenario.

Helicopter: She's not a helicopter, she's a mom who works who thinks it would be neat to see her child out and about with their classmates. Not everyone can take off to chaperone. I'm sure her child would be jazzed for her mom to show up and walk around a bit. Lots of working families don't get enough time with their kids and don't get to share in a lot of the things that people with flexible arrangements or those with SAHMS do. (I'm a SAHM fyi)

I say go for it. Drop in, tag along. Love your child and ignore these literally crazy people.

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