Examples of alimony

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Anonymous wrote:If you received alimony in your divorce please share your circumstances. How long married, said or working mom, length of marriage, HHI, etc.

Gave my EX-H 175k settlement instead of alimony plus funding half of a 529 plan.
I earned 275k and he earned 200k

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Anonymous wrote:I get $13,000 a month. Married 23 years. I worked part time.

These are exactly the kinds of unjust and offensive awards that modern alimony reforms are eliminating. Unless you are severely disabled, there is absolutely zero reason that you don’t have a fulltime job.

I said I worked part time while married.

And now you work full time? And why exactly do you deserve $156K/year from a former spouse?

If she is getting $156K after tax from her ex, he is making significant money. For 23 years, do you think she did nothing to contribute to his financial success at work?

Explain how her contributions were so extraordinary that now, and for who knows how many years more, he must continue working an obviously stressful demanding job (one that previously required massive support from his ex-wife, but now he somehow is expected to make do without). Meanwhile she can sit home eating snacks and cashing his checks?

Sorry but this is a perversion and we should all be glad these archaic laws are being reformed, state by state, across the country

Because for 23 years, she supported him in the background. She may have been a SAHM or had the lower paying, more flexible job. At the time, there was an inherent agreement that both people were working towards the common goal. Once they got to retirement and old age, they would be able to join the fruits of their labor.

Now, as they approach retirement, he has all the money. She has not been on the fast track and perhaps her skills are not what they could be. Perhaps it would have been better during the marriage if she asked for $100K/yr to invest. Then, today, there wouldn't be the need for alimony.

I don't agree with alimony. But I also don't agree that a married person is successful on their own. They have to take of those who took care of them. Perhaps in lieu of monthly alimony, there could be a one time lump sum payment that would acknowledge her contributions to the marriage for 23 yrs.

No, he does NOT have all of the retirement funds accrued during the marriage. Assets were split as part of the normal divorce settlement. So she’s already been fairly rewarded for any wealth built during the marriage.

Their joint Retirement funds are not the issue here. The issue is an ongoing expectation that he must still work a stressful high paying job that apparently he could only do because of her “support and contributions” but somehow now he must keep doing that job WITHOUT her support? How is that even possible, I mean you just said he can’t be successful on his own
If he is compelled by the courts to work a full time stressful job, so must the court force HER to work a full time stressful job.

Her standard of living won't be the same as it was before. From $600,000 HHI to $156,00 is a bit of a drop.

I'm in a similar situation, although still happily married. My DH and I agreed years ago that life was too difficult with 2 kids and both of us having full-time, stressful jobs with long hours. We could afford to have me SAH, and that is what I have done. I have no current skills anymore, despite a once impressive resume and education. I doubt anyone would hire me for a 'real' job at my age, so I'd make very little if I went back to work. This is why alimony exists. And my standard of living would most certainly not stay the same, even with the alimony.

So what? Her standard of living SHOULD drop! Her former high standard of living was a benefit of marriage, which ended when the marriage ended.

You can be retrained to enter the workforce and support yourself. If you are educated and a hard worker, you will have no troubles getting a "real" job. Even if you get a couple dollars alimony, you should expect to be working full time, same as your ex husband. The courts should ensure that: it would be an epic injustice to expect one ex-spouse to work, while the other ex-spouse does NOT work. The courts should force any ex-spouse receiving alimony to work the same number of hours as the ex-spouse paying alimony. Even if that's a Walmart job, so long as the hours match. Anything less would be completely unfair and thank god these laws are being reformed.

Child care often costs far more than a walmart minimum wage job so that makes no sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I took him for everything I could. I deserve it.

The question is what you "could" take him for? That might be a lot or a little, and that is the info OP was looking for.

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None of your business.

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Anonymous wrote:I was married 28 years.
My income was approx. $125k year.
Ex DW made about $45k.
I pay $1600/mo for 10 years or until she remarries. So far I’ve paid 6 years worth.
I also paid $1500/mo child support for my 16YO son. That ended when he turned 18.
I paid most of his college tuition utilizing my income and a very well endowed 529 plan that I set up years ago.
I am now paying his rent while he attends law school on a full scholarship. He’s a hard working young man and I vowed that my divorce wouldn’t affect his ability to achieve his goals.
His mother does next to nothing to support our son. Says she can’t afford it. She has a net worth of a little over $1MM. She could do something.
I get along ok with her but I’m happy to be out of that marriage.

Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

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If she is getting $156K after tax from her ex, he is making significant money. For 23 years, do you think she did nothing to contribute to his financial success at work?

Yes, I do. Did she do any of the actual work? No, she didn't.

News flash: women do not have golden vaginas. You don't deserve money for spreading your legs.

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Anonymous wrote:Alimony is stupid. I’m a woman AND a lawyer. I don’t care my situation, I’d be embarrassed to accept money from my ex. Yuck. It’s just being weak to me and I have no respect for weak women.

I’m a woman and a lawyer and I support generous alimony. Lots of men jerk wives around and make sustaining a successful career impossible.

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If she is getting $156K after tax from her ex, he is making significant money. For 23 years, do you think she did nothing to contribute to his financial success at work?

Yes, I do. Did she do any of the actual work? No, she didn't.

News flash: women do not have golden vaginas. You don't deserve money for spreading your legs.

And, who took care of the kids, managed the house, did the shopping, entertaining and all that so he could work and make that money. It isn't after taxes. Usually the person receiving the alimony pays the tax and the person paying it gets a deduction.

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If she is getting $156K after tax from her ex, he is making significant money. For 23 years, do you think she did nothing to contribute to his financial success at work?

Yes, I do. Did she do any of the actual work? No, she didn't.

News flash: women do not have golden vaginas. You don't deserve money for spreading your legs.

Obviously we do have golden vaginas cause a lot of dudes out here paying out their a$$ to get in them. The real response is dudes don't have golden penises. If they want the vagina, they have to deal with the consequences of moving on to a new on.

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If she is getting $156K after tax from her ex, he is making significant money. For 23 years, do you think she did nothing to contribute to his financial success at work?

Yes, I do. Did she do any of the actual work? No, she didn't.

News flash: women do not have golden vaginas. You don't deserve money for spreading your legs.

You don’t think nourishing and growing life, and bringing it into this word contribute to something? I know damn well a mans body doesn’t go through that.

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brother pays his ex 5k a month, she never worked or had kids, he makes 175k. she is highly educated but a user. claims emotional disability, depression and thus cannot work. she also got half of everything but never contributed to expenses, mortgage, etc.

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Obviously we do have golden vaginas cause a lot of dudes out here paying out their a$$ to get in them. The real response is dudes don't have golden penises. If they want the vagina, they have to deal with the consequences of moving on to a new on.

These people are stupid. If it f4cks, floats or flies, don't buy--rent.

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You don’t think nourishing and growing life, and bringing it into this word contribute to something? I know damn well a mans body doesn’t go through that.

So what? Any idiot can have a baby.

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Obviously we do have golden vaginas cause a lot of dudes out here paying out their a$$ to get in them. The real response is dudes don't have golden penises. If they want the vagina, they have to deal with the consequences of moving on to a new on.

Isn't equality great? If you want alimony, stay out of college and stay out of the workplace. Men do not owe you money because you had the privilege of f4cking them.

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You don’t think nourishing and growing life, and bringing it into this word contribute to something? I know damn well a mans body doesn’t go through that.

Who do you think keeps your nation free, dies in wars for you, and performs the most dangerous jobs in the society that women won't do?

Women want alimony? They have to sign up the draft too.