Who has adopted in recent years?

[Anonymous]

If you do international adoption, look at Holt. They’re one of the oldest & largest agencies, and they do a lot of on the ground/in the orphanage work so they have very strong connections and know what’s going on.

Look at either Korea or China. Best programs and least amount of problems.

Mild special needs as you mentioned is fine-you can get through the process in less than 2 years.

Regarding SSRIs & therapy, most countries do have stigma associated with both, and it can keep you from adopting or caste issues with your paperwork. We had to get special letters from doc & therapist saying I was doing both “for sleep issues”. In retrospect I wish I’d gotten around it by having a doc omit it from adoption paperwork or going to a new doctor and not telling them. Yes, it’s dishonest but so is the fake letter we were advised to do by our social worker & agency.

Definitely no need to mention SSRIs or therapy to anyone in the process, esp social worker as they’ll be obliged to put it in the home study. Do yourself a favor & keep it quiet.



Regarding therapy, same thing. Just don’t tell them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you do international adoption, look at Holt. They’re one of the oldest & largest agencies, and they do a lot of on the ground/in the orphanage work so they have very strong connections and know what’s going on.

Look at either Korea or China. Best programs and least amount of problems.

Mild special needs as you mentioned is fine-you can get through the process in less than 2 years.

Regarding SSRIs & therapy, most countries do have stigma associated with both, and it can keep you from adopting or caste issues with your paperwork. We had to get special letters from doc & therapist saying I was doing both “for sleep issues”. In retrospect I wish I’d gotten around it by having a doc omit it from adoption paperwork or going to a new doctor and not telling them. Yes, it’s dishonest but so is the fake letter we were advised to do by our social worker & agency.

Definitely no need to mention SSRIs or therapy to anyone in the process, esp social worker as they’ll be obliged to put it in the home study. Do yourself a favor & keep it quiet.



Regarding therapy, same thing. Just don’t tell them.

China isn't that easy nowadays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I’m quite familiar with the identity issues- one of my best friends is an adult Korean adoptee so we’ve discussed it extensively. I’ve also been reading up on the pros and cons of open adoption and realize I would need to become ok with it if we choose domestic adoption, since closed adoptions are very rare now and seem to be considered generally worse for the child.

Do our personal characteristics as a family help or hurt our chances of being matched, or is it random how long we’d wait or if we’d ever even be chosen? We’re both 30, married, healthy (other than the mild past anxiety), are no longer in DC (Texas now), college educated, income around 200k, and I’m a SAHM.

OP, you are not familiar with identify issues. You are using the all time "one of my friends is an adoptee so I already know.....". Please check and educate yourself. Talk to more adult adoptees, reallly understand what it means to adopt transracially. I recommend visiting PACT www.pactadopt.org.

Most happy adoptees are not online or in these groups. You get a very bias opinion doing it this way.