Don't let your kid move off campus.

[Anonymous]

I went to a college (big name school all of you will know). Students lived on campus first three years and allowed to move off campus senior year. Some seniors, maybe 10-15%, still lived on campus?

I actually liked living on campus better as the dorms were often in better condition than the crappy off campus apartments. And being right in the middle of campus and only a few minutes' walk from classes as opposed to a 20 minute trudge (yes, it makes a difference when you're a student) was also nice. And I didn't like having to cook for myself. But it was an useful transition to post collegiate life.

It's was normal at our peer schools to find seniors living on campus too.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, your kids have to grow up at some point. I think it says a lot about how you raised your kid. Our 18 year old lived away on her own doing everything for herself and did fine. Our DS with ADHD could use more time on campus and hopefully will get it playing his sport there. There are certain kids who maybe should stay on campus, but certainly not all. Regardless, many public colleges don't have space for kids to live on campus 4 years, unless they become RAs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your 20-year-old is not capable of living off-campus and still successfully attending classes, you should be very concerned.

It is not about capability, some don't want the hassle.

[Anonymous]

When I went to college they had too much room in the dorms. Had super singles. (Double room) to yourself.

Juniors and Seniors and even some full time grad students
Took advantage of that.

Great parties and tons of 18yr old girls.
Win win.

[Anonymous]

"Anecdotally, I flunked out and I attribute this to bring forced to live off campus as a sophomore."

Anecdotally, I flunked out as a freshman living in a dorm.

I'm pretty sure living on or off campus wouldn't have made a difference.

It was having a roommate that I couldn't deal with.

[Anonymous]

My younger DC's college has small four bedroom furnished townhouses for sophomores and above. I don't see a difference between those and an apartment off campus.

[Anonymous]

My sons college requires all first year and sophomores to live on campus BUT they don’t have enough space so they push the kids hard to join fraternities (frat housing counts as on campus housing) It’s a goofy money grab as far as I’m concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody lives on campus through senior year.

Actually, at e.g. Denison, students live on campus (are required to live on campus) all four years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody lives on campus through senior year.

I did. Had a single, three squares and no drama. You have a lifetime to maintain a home, enjoy the convenience while you can.

+1. DC is going into sophomore year in an 3-bedroom apartment style dorm with a complete kitchen (declined meal plan). Junior and senior year, DC has elected to go into a dorm-single with kitchen (cost more). The dorm is a serious high-rise with all the amenities AND 24-hour desk security.

With the university in a large major city, I am glad DC wants to remain in the dorm until graduating. If nothing else, I like the security and the college experience with other upper classmen while being right on campus with a great proximity to campus activities and classes.

[Anonymous]

I don’t consider an apartment with a kitchen to be a dorm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t consider an apartment with a kitchen to be a dorm.

Sorry, but who cares?

[Anonymous]

My son goes to a large public and they encourage the students to live off campus after freshman year and very few sophomore's get dorm rooms. I wish he would have stayed in the dorm another year and am concerned that he will let things slide as he will have to take a shuttle to classes, make some of his meals, clean his bathroom, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody lives on campus through senior year.

Actually, at e.g. Denison, students live on campus (are required to live on campus) all four years.

I'm a parent of Denisonian and I like the way they have it structured - as you progress the residence halls change and the rooms become more apartment/townhouse like. I think its a win-win - well except for the fact that they cost more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a professor and at my school, it would be extraordinarily rare for a junior or senior to live in a dorm. I would absolutely pity the student whose parents forced it.

That's a bit strong, isn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your 20-year-old is not capable of living off-campus and still successfully attending classes, you should be very concerned.

It is not about capability, some don't want the hassle.

+ 1 PP you should worry about your own kid, and not worry about mine!