Not making it on $100K? NPR story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has adult children that she’s paying to “go to school”. She needs to cut that out. They’re adults.

They're non verbal autistic and probably need the structure or therapy they get in school!? You act like she's shelling out 70k/yr per kid for them to study communications at Middlebury. Did you listen to the NPR clip or just read the summary?

They’re adults. They can pull themselves up by their bootstraps. If not then they go on Medicaid. She should not be covering them.

[Anonymous]

This thread is exactly why I refuse to discuss my special needs kid outside of the special needs forum.

PP @ 20:29 is particularly abhorrent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has adult children that she’s paying to “go to school”. She needs to cut that out. They’re adults.

They're non verbal autistic and probably need the structure or therapy they get in school!? You act like she's shelling out 70k/yr per kid for them to study communications at Middlebury. Did you listen to the NPR clip or just read the summary?

They’re adults. They can pull themselves up by their bootstraps. If not then they go on Medicaid. She should not be covering them.

They are not at some fancy school but mom probably does need full-time help or can't work. Kids probably get disability/social security, medicaid and medicare. They may get an aide through those program.

[Anonymous]

Listening to this story, there is more going on. They could move further out, especially given she said they have two cars. He could get a higher paying job. It sounds like they overspent and still are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listening to this story, there is more going on. They could move further out, especially given she said they have two cars. He could get a higher paying job. It sounds like they overspent and still are.

Didn't sound like that to me. Sounds like they've had unfortunate things happen and were in deep debt from that -- she mentioned multiple major hospitalizations (presumably for her kids). They didn't come across people who overbought houses and electronics and now can't afford Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Everyone here is missing the point. If people who are supposed to be upper middle class are struggling to have basics, we have a huge problem on our hands in terms of a disappearing middle class and a country that is seeing wealth patterns of a developing nation. Argue about the 100k all you want, it isn't going to change the reality that our children will be less well off without some serious inter generational wealth. Have fun arguing about your 5 dollar starbucks and bashing parents with special needs kids....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has adult children that she’s paying to “go to school”. She needs to cut that out. They’re adults.

They're non verbal autistic and probably need the structure or therapy they get in school!? You act like she's shelling out 70k/yr per kid for them to study communications at Middlebury. Did you listen to the NPR clip or just read the summary?

They’re adults. They can pull themselves up by their bootstraps. If not then they go on Medicaid. She should not be covering them.

Mentally handicapped teens need to pull themselves up by their boostraps? Kids who can't communicate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone here is missing the point. If people who are supposed to be [middle class or] upper middle class are struggling to have basics, we have a huge problem on our hands in terms of a disappearing middle class and a country that is seeing wealth patterns of a developing nation. Argue about the 100k all you want, it isn't going to change the reality that our children will be less well off without some serious inter generational wealth. Have fun arguing about your 5 dollar starbucks and bashing parents with special needs kids....

+1

[Anonymous]

A summary of OP: why can't everyone be as awesome as me?

Everyone else: tell us the details of your awesomeness?

OP: I have totally different life circumstances than the people I'm judging but am too stupid to understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is exactly why I refuse to discuss my special needs kid outside of the special needs forum.


PP @ 20:29 is particularly abhorrent.

Please don’t tar everyone here with the same brush.
20.29 is in a class of their own

[Anonymous]

If they had unforeseen medical bills, that might explain it, OP.

We make a little more than they do, and my health crisis last year made a sizeable dent in our household economy.
And now my husband is without a job, we're relying on our nest egg - not a good situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone here is missing the point. If people who are supposed to be upper middle class are struggling to have basics, we have a huge problem on our hands in terms of a disappearing middle class and a country that is seeing wealth patterns of a developing nation. Argue about the 100k all you want, it isn't going to change the reality that our children will be less well off without some serious inter generational wealth. Have fun arguing about your 5 dollar starbucks and bashing parents with special needs kids....

Thank you...OP is a deluded fool. I guess she can enjoy her fantasy of superiority until the inevitable life setback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone here is missing the point. If people who are supposed to be [middle class or] upper middle class are struggling to have basics, we have a huge problem on our hands in terms of a disappearing middle class and a country that is seeing wealth patterns of a developing nation. Argue about the 100k all you want, it isn't going to change the reality that our children will be less well off without some serious inter generational wealth. Have fun arguing about your 5 dollar starbucks and bashing parents with special needs kids....

+1

+2 spot on, but it is so convenient to point out the overspend coffee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone here is missing the point. If people who are supposed to be [middle class or] upper middle class are struggling to have basics, we have a huge problem on our hands in terms of a disappearing middle class and a country that is seeing wealth patterns of a developing nation. Argue about the 100k all you want, it isn't going to change the reality that our children will be less well off without some serious inter generational wealth. Have fun arguing about your 5 dollar starbucks and bashing parents with special needs kids....

+1

+2 spot on, but it is so convenient to point out the overspend coffee.

+3

...But they can cut cable and phones and food and buy clothes at the Goodwill!!! And they need to just go to sleep when it gets dark outside to cut the electricity bill...And roast a chicken in the fireplace instead of using their oven...

[Anonymous]

Don't confuse being lucky with being normal.

One stroke of bad luck -- a family member's grave illness, an accident -- can permanently change things, including your finances.